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Books on Recovery:Please note that the Basic Text (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous) and the pamphlets distributed by FWS are the only S.L.A.A. Conference-approved literature at this time. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous neither endorses nor recommends the following books; they are identified only to provide individuals with the opportunity to learn about other material dealing with addiction to sex, love and relationships.
In addition to these 26 books, we have compiled a database of over 300 books that deal with sex and/or love addiction and recovery or personal growth and health. This archive is kept up to date at a Yahoo!Group website. If interested, it is easy to JOIN and click on the “Database” link. Near the top right, there is an undocumented SEARCH feature -- you will see an edit box and a button called “This Table.” By entering a word like “workbook” it will yield 37 matching results. Similarly, “Carnes” yields 13, “Women” shows 61, “anorex” displays 2, “cyber” has 7, “2002” provides 18, and “abuse” presents 46. Get the idea? The recommended reading books above are described in greater detail below. If you prefer not to join the Yahoo!Group, click this sentence to load a static page of over 300 books. Depending on your internet connection speed, this may take a few minutes. You can then use the search function of your brower to find information. In both Internet Explorer and Netscape Navigator, you can use Edit > Find... For those members on a budget, a number of websites offer discounted and/or used books below retail. Shop around for the best deals. A few are:
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| Author(s) | Title | Year | ISBN | Abstract | Pages | Retail | Topic(s) |
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| (Anonymous) | Hope and Recovery: A Twelve Step Guide For Healing from Compulsive Sexual Behavior |
1987 1989 1994 | 0896381021 0896381978 156838050X | The classic guide by and for those recovering from sexual addiction examines each of the Twelve Steps of recovery. Guides and supports the life-transforming move from self-defeating and destructive sexual behavior to healthy, affirming sexuality. By and for recovering people; offers a unique combination of practical help and healing insights: applies the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions to the problem of sex addiction; dozens of questions designed to help people assess the effects of obsessive sexual thoughts and compulsive sexual behaviors in their own lives; 19 personal stories from men and women who know, firsthand, the pain of addiction and also the peace and serenity of recovery. | 350 360 327 |
$18.00 $18.00 $19.95 | Sex Addiction Recovery |
| (Anonymous) | Hope and Recovery: The Workbook | 1990 1994 |
0896381986 1568381611 | More than 300 questions follow the text of Hope and Recovery: A Twelve Step Guide for Healing from Compulsive Sexual Behavior, helping readers clarify issues related to compulsive sexual behavior. The resources here will guide you along a pathway of self-assessment, discovery, and fulfillment. | 166 162 | $9.95 $11.00 | Workbook, Sex Addiction Recovery |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) | Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous | 1986 |
0961570113 0961570105 | This is the "Basic Text" for SLAA-FWS and is S.L.A.A. Fellowship-Wide Service Conference-approved literature. | 281 280 | $14.50 | Sex and Love Addiction Recovery |
| Beattie, Melody | Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself | 1987 1992 2001 | 0062554468 0894864025 1568387385 | In 1987, Melody Beattie introduced the term "codependent" into our national psyche, hitting a nerve. The attitudes, feelings, and behaviors Beattie explored in her groundbreaking book are now recognized as the hallmarks of codependency. Recovery has begun for millions of individuals with this straightforward guide. Through personal examples and exercises, readers are shown how controlling others forces them to lose sight of their own needs and happiness. Beattie reveals the futility of trying to control someone else's behavior, and the freedom that comes from taking responsibility for yourself. [The 2001 edition is limited, includes a new preface, and are personally signed.] | 229 250 250 | $12.95 $15.00 $30.00 | Codependency |
| Beattie, Melody; Schaeffer, Brenda (Schneider, Jennifer P; Ray, Veronica) | Talk, Trust, and Feel: Keeping Codependency Out of Your Life |
1992 1993 | 0894867962 034537455X | Codependency is a relationship problem and at times many of us feel frustrated by its relentless pull. Although we've learned to recognize the pitfalls, we need daily reinforcement to deepen our recovery process and keep it moving forward. For all of us recovering from codependency, especially those working the Twelve Steps, "Talk, Trust, and Feel" offers inspiring perspectivves from Hazelden's leading voices. The book guides us in our practice of new behaviors that allow us to honor ourselves and other people as we move through recovery. Brian DesRoches provides the key to our greatest challenge in working through conflict -- to let go of our desire to change the other person. Veronica Ray discusses delusions and misconceptions about caretaking, and how to take responsibility for self, letting others do the same, with love. And Melody Beattie redefines "relapse" as "recycling" -- a normal occurrence in every recovery that gives us a chance to work and learn. Reassuring insights from these and other special Hazelden authors make this collection a vital tool for all of us continuing on our journey toward wholeness. | 170 224 | $6.99 | Codependency |
| Canning-Fulton, Maureen | Reclaiming Intimacy: Moving from Sexual Addiction to Healthy Sexuality: A Gentle Path for Continuing Recovery from Sexual Addiction | 2002 | 1929866038 | Developing healthy sexuality-based on self-respect, self-knowledge, and honest relationships-often requires adjusted attitudes and behaviors, especially for individuals and couples struggling to overcome sexual addiction. By addressing every aspect of human sexuality, from discovery through expression, Reclaiming Intimacy provides a safe and supportive process for individuals and couples working to establish or restore healthy sexuality. Author Maureen Canning-Fulton shares personal narratives to illustrate unhealthy feelings and behaviors and presents task-centered exercises to engage the reader in the recovery process. And she examines all three levels of relationships-you, me, us. Reassuring and practical, Reclaiming Intimacy leads the way to embracing one's true nature, including the sexual self. Key features and benefits: features interactive workbook format offers clinical and personal perspectives on issues affirms that healthy sexuality is possible for anyone. | 225 | $23.00 | Sex Addiction Recovery |
| Carnes, Patrick J | A Gentle Path Through The Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery (A Workbook) | 1989 1993 1993 | 0896381617 0896382907 1568380585 | This reprint of the 1989 workbook provides a unique set of structured forms and exercises to help recovering people integrate the Twelve Steps into all aspects of their lives, designed with sex addicts and co-addicts in mind. |
250 224 310 | $18.00 | Workbook, Twelve Steps, Compulsive Behavior, Alcoholism and Drug Recovery |
| Carnes, Patrick J | Contrary To Love: Helping The Sexual Addict | 1989 1994? |
0896381560 1568380593 | Written by the national expert on the problem of sexual addiction, Contrary to Love provides professionals with a resource for understanding and helping sexual addicts. Subjects outlined include stages and progression of the illness, family structures, bonding, boundaries, assessment, intervention, treatment methods, and recovery topics. | 302 280 | $14.00 | Sex Addiction Rehabilitation |
| Carnes, Patrick J | Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction | 1991 1992 | 0553072366 0553351389 | Sexual addiction, marked by compulsive, self-destructive behavior, takes many forms, such as child abuse, sadomasochism, reliance on erotic fantasy as a coping mechanism, obsession with one individual, anonymous sexual encounters or cycles of disastrous affairs alternating with sexual bingeing. Offers the results of a survey of more than 1,000 sexual addicts in recovery and their co-dependent partners; shows that sexual compulsives come from all walks of life and its advice-giving testimonies by recovered and recovering persons, combined with clinical insights, point the way toward healing twisted relationships and reclaiming healthy sexuality. It includes self-tests and warning signs, plus therapies to aid recovery. Recommended both for counselors and for recovering people. |
448 439 | $16.95 | Sex Addiction, Sex Addiction Rehabilitatioin |
| Carnes, Patrick J | Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery: A Gentle Path Workbook for Beginning Recovery from Sex Addiction | 2001 | 1929866011 | While many books on sexual addiction are available today, this is the first to take techniques used by thousands of people recovering from sex addiction and show, step by step, how to break free of this disease and live a healthier, more fulfulling life. Each of this hope-filled workbook's chapters sets the stage for the recovery task at hand, and then provides practical, easy-to-follow exercises specifically designed to help understand and address them. You'll learn: why denial is so powerful and what can be done to counter it; how to face the consequences of your behavior using recovery principles; how to respond to change and crises; how to manage life without dysfunctional behavior; how to address compulsivity as an intimacy disorder, and how spirituality and recovery are interwoven. With innovative new research and experiential, reflective materials, this practical workbook will serve as an excellent tool both for the general public and therapists. | 275 | $19.95 | Sex Addiction Recovery |
| Carnes, Patrick J | Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction [1985-on] The Sexual Addiction [1983] | 1983 1983 1985 1987 1992 1992 2001 | 0896380580 0896380661 0896380866 0896381285 0896382699 1568380550 1568386214 | Out of the Shadows, the first work ever published on sexual addiction, examines the tangled web of love, addictive sex, hate, and fear often found in family relationships. Patrick Carnes offers a way for addicts to deal with their sexual compulsions and become whole human beings. This is the landmark book introducing and legitimizing sexual behaviors and sexual fantasies as an addictive disease. Dr. Carnes proposes three levels of sexual addiction, describes the addiction cycle and its progression, and presents the faulty core beliefs of the addict and the coaddict and their healthy counterparts. |
215 215 173 225 204 182 200 | $16.00 | Sex Addiction |
| Carnes, Patrick J; Moriarity, Joseph | Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-hatred | 1997 | 1568381441 | This book offers a first-time examination of the extreme fear of sexual intimacy and the obsessive avoidance of sex. Author Dr. Patrick Carnes begins by defining sexual anorexia and demonstrating how it and its parallel disorder, sexual addiction and compulsivity, often arise from a background of childhood sexual trauma, neglect, and other forms of abuse. Carnes explores the numerous dimensions of sexual health, examining key issues which must be addressed and resolved for recovery to proceed. Utilizing extensive research and elucidating case studies, Carnes develops concrete tasks and plans for restoring nurturing and sensuality, building fulfilling relationships, exploring intimacy, and creating healthy sexuality. Woven throughout the book are stories of recovery which illustrate sexual healing principles, model new behavior, and support motivation for change. "Sexual Anorexia" enables those suffering from this disorder to recognize that sex need not be a furtive enemy to be fought and defeated, but instead a deeply sensual, passionate, fulfilling, and spiritual experience that all human beings are innately entitled to. | 250 | $16.00 | Sexual Aversion Disorders |
| Cooper, Al (Ed.) | Sex and the Internet: A Guidebook for Clinicians | 2002 | 1583913556 | Sex and the Internet is the first ever professional book on the fascinating and revolutionary area of internet sexuality. With many disturbing questions raised by sex and the internet, here is a clinician's guide that addresses these concerns by both informing and providing practical and concrete suggestions and directions. Contributions by international compilation of experts in the field of sexuality keeps on course with pertinent and relevant material. | 290 | $34.95 | Sex Addiction, Computer Sex, Sex Counseling |
| Delmonico, David L; Griffin, Elizabeth; Moriarity, Joseph M | Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior | 2001 | 0970884508 | Mention "cybersex" and the response you'll often receive is a chuckle and a smart or lewd comment. But the use of sex on the Internet is skyrocketing, and anyone caught up in the spell of Internet sex knows its intense and seemingly irresistible power to undermine careers, upend relationships, and create emotional chaos. This frank, compassionate, and practical workbook offers a hope-filled plan for breaking free of compulsive cybersex, one that enables those entrapped to regain control of their relationships and their lives. Easy to follow exercises serve as a guide for confronting and understanding cybersex behavior and lead the way to change, personal growth, and a life free of cybersex's intoxicating and destructive spell. "Here are the tools needed to break the chains of cybersex. No matter how mild or severe the problem, this book can be a guide back to the real world of relationships." Douglas Weiss, Ph.D., author of Final Freedom: Pioneering Sexual Addiction Recovery "With cybersex quickly becoming a hidden epidemic, the timing of this valuable workbook could not be better. A must read both for those with concerns about their own Internet usage for sex and for family and friends trying to support them." Al Cooper, Ph.D. | 251 | $19.95 | Workbook, Cybersex Addiction |
| Earle, Marcus R; Earle, Ralph H; Osborn, Kevin; (Crow, Gregory) | Sex Addiction: Case Studies and Management | 1995 | 0876307853 | Family psychologists present a flexible therapeutic program for sex addicts and their families that they have developed over many years of dealing with both socially responsible individuals and sex offenders. The book discusses treating the addict, sex offenders, and victims of sexual abuse. Their approach combines a wide range of therapies and relies on the skillful coordination of the treatment team. They speak primarily to professional psychologists, but pastors, probation officers, or attorneys might also be interested. | 270 | $47.95 | Sex Addiction Treatment |
| Earle, Ralph H; Crow, Gregory; Osborn, Kevin | Lonely All The Time: Recognizing, Understanding and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Co-Dependents | 1989 1990 1998 |
0671669982 0671669990 0965287912 | This book addresses the needs and concerns of all sexual addicts, regardless of their sexual orientation, and also of the addict's codependent partner. The authors explore the causes and symptoms of sex addiction. They also include a comprehensive and practical approach to recovery for the addict and family. | 337 352 337 | $12.00 $12.00 $15.00 | Sex Addiction, Codependency, Loneliness |
| Kasl, Charlotte Davis | Women, Sex and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power |
1989 1990 | 0899195199 0060973218 | A breakthrough guide to help women understand sexual addiction, romance addiction and sexual codependency and to lead them to recovery. Women will learn to experience their sexuality as a source of love and positive power, and sex as an expression that honors the soul as well as the body. In our society, sex can easily become the price many women pay for love and the illusion of security. A woman who seeks a sense of personal power and an escape from pain may use sex and romance as a way to feel in control, just as an alcoholic uses alcohol; but sex never satisfies her longing for love and self-worth. In this wise and compassionate book, Charlotte Kasl shows women how they can learn to experience their sexuality as a source for love and positive power and sex as an expression that honors the soul as well as the body. |
416 401 | $15.00 | Relationship Addiction, Codependency |
| Laaser, Mark R (Machen, Eli; Smalley, Gary) | Faithful and True: Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World | 1996 |
031020836X 0805498192 | This is the same book as the 1992 version titled "The Secret Sin." Most Christians are quick to link sexual integrity with holiness. Clean thoughts and actions are important to God and to us. Yet for many, maintaining a wholesome, biblical sexuality seems hopelessly beyond reach. Such people's deeply ingrained patterns of thought and behavior keep them stuck on a treadmill of sin, even as they long for a walk of purity. Faithful and True offers a path that leads beyond compulsive thoughts and behaviors toward sexual integrity and self-control. Sensitive to the shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Mark Laaser: -- traces the roots of sexual addiction in families and in culture -- shows how sexual sin poisons the lives of pastors and laypeople alike -- provides a complete 12-step program for treatment and recovery from sexual addiction. You may be the spouse, pastor, family member, or friend of someone with a sexual addiction. Of you yourself may struggle with urges you've not been able to overcome. Regardless, hope and help are at hand. Faithful and True steers you over the rocky but navigable road to understanding, wholeness, and holiness. |
208 240 | $10.99 | Sex Addiction and Rehabilitation (religious) |
| Mellody, Pia; Miller, Andrea W(ells); Miller, J Keith | Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself The Power To Change the Way You Love: The Love Connection to Codependence | 1992 | 0062506048 | Offering clear, comforting advice on the best ways to develop healthy love relationships, Mellody describes the dynamics of a coaddicted relationship, and the stages of addiction -- from attraction and fantasy to denial and obsession. It sets out to describe the pattern of addictive relationships observed by the author over a period of many years working in the field (Mellody is a consultant at the internationally renowned Meadows treatment centre) and goes on to give concrete suggestions for breaking the cycle of love addiction. The two most commonly found participants in a co-addicted relationship are described as the Love Addict (usually, but not always, female) and the Avoidant Addict (usually, but not always, male). Due, generally, to childhood abandonment, Love Addicts are very needy, which appeals to the caretaker Avoidant Addict, who will probably have had the converse experience of being unhealthily enmeshed with a parent. As the Love Addict becomes more dependent on her partner, the Avoidant's fear of being overwhelmed and enmeshed is triggered, and he backs away, in turn triggering the Love Addict's deep fear of being abandoned. The withdrawal experienced by the Love Addict often sucks the Avoidant back in, as he responds to her evident distress with reactions of guilt or his own fear of abandonment, and the cycle begins anew. Mellody's central argument is that both Love Addicts and Avoidant Addicts have core codependency issues which must be addressed if they are to recover and learn to have healthy relationships. Her suggestions for taking care of oneself and developing firmer boundaries are very useful and easy to understand -- a practical recovery process based on Twelve-Step work, exercises, and journaling. | 256 | $15.00 | Relationship Addiction |
| Mellody, Pia; Miller, Andrea Wells | Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence | 1989 | 0062505904 | This should be a companion to Facing Codependence by the same author. In her pioneering Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody traced the origins of codependence back to childhood and a wide range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Now in this innovative new workbook, she presents a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence -- the lack of dependence on self. In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater self-awareness and further recovery. | 448 | $18.00 | Workbook, Codependency |
| Mellody, Pia; Miller, Andrea Wells; Miller, J Keith | Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives | 1989 | 0062505890 | Following the phenomena of Codependent No More (by Melody Beattie), here is a brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction. Some things said simply are more powerful thanks to their simplicity. This book provides a forceful, unflinching description of how people who are raised in a dysfunctional or abusive environment often sabotage and cripple their lives. There are four main sections to the book. The first section details what she sees as the core symptoms of codependency: difficulty experiencing appropriate levels of self-esteem, difficulty setting functional boundaries, difficulty owning and expressing one's own reality, difficulty taking care of one's adult needs and wants, and difficulty behaving moderately. The second section details how dysfunctional family can push a child (whom Mellody describes as inherently valuable, vulnerable, imperfect, dependent, and immature) into codependency. The third section describes the many kinds of abuse (most of which are not obviously traumatizing on first review) that can push an individual, particularly a child toward codependency. And the last section provides a very preliminary road map to healing codependency: the first step she argues is an awareness of one's codependent state, and second step is a desire to change. | 222 | $16.00 | Codependency |
| Peabody, Susan | Addicted to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships | 1989 1994 |
0890872945 0890877157 | Obsession, abusive relationships, fear of being alone, unrequited love... these can combine to turn our natural need for love into a nightmare of dependency. Exposes many forms love addiction may take (fatal attraction vs. Casanova behavior, for example), then outlines the warning signs of addiction and provides a step-by-step recovery program for love addicts desiring happy, healthy relationships. Susan Peabody, herself a recovering love addict, has helped thousands to recover from this life-threatening condition through workshops and her first edition of 'Addiction to Love.' |
116 200 | $12.95 | Codependency |
| Schaeffer, Brenda | Is it Love or is it Addiction?: Falling Into Healthy Love |
1987 1987 1995 1997 | 0062554719 0894864130 1567310710 1568381409 | This practical, best-selling guide to making relationships work explores the essential elements of love addiction: how to identify it and how and why people fall into it. Most important, psychotherapist Brenda Schaeffer offers a seven-step plan for breaking free of the unhealthy or addictive patterns that keep people from healthy, mature and fulfilling love. This book helps readers understand love addiction and to sort out the unhealthy, addictive elements in their romantic relationship. Brenda presents a solid theory of love addiction and healthy love, with practical examples to illustrate her concepts. Relationships that continue despite pain, emotional chaos, and disruptive impulsivity are addictive, says Brenda Schaeffer, a psychotherapist who knows her stuff and provides an excellent primer on the subject of love and love addiction. Especially if there is past loss or trauma, the resulting pain can make us uncontrollably attached to anyone who soothes that pain, even when this creates many other problems. Healthy love helps us expand ourselves and learn higher growth processes; the addictive attachment only distracts, stagnates, and frustrates personal development. The book is articulate and insightful, but very comprehensible, having helped many people find their way from the fear and distrust in poor relationships to the fulfillment in meaningful ones. |
156 158 158 193 | $xx.xx $15.00 $15.00 $15.95 | Relationship Addiction, Love |
| Schneider, Jennifer P | Back from Betrayal: Recovering from his Affairs | 1988 1989 |
0062554808 0894864882 | Dr. Schneider's pioneering work is the first written for women whose husbands keep getting involved in affairs. Based on interviews and her own experience, she addresses the anguish and helplessness which codependents feel daily. In clear, compassionate, and informed writing she describes the nature of sexual coaddiction, helps coaddicts understand their own disease and their denial and isolation and outlines a path to recovery. | 243 256 |
$xx.xx $5.95 | Compulsive Behavior, Codependency, Adultery |
| Schneider, Jennifer P; Schneider, Burt | Sex, Lies and Forgiveness: Couples Speaking Out on Healing from Sexual Addiction | 1991 1991 1999 | 0062553437 0894867342 0967201500 | Based on interviews with about 100 couples, the authors describe how to rebuild trust, forgive past hurts, improve communication, and address the sexual problems which recovering couples often face. Very practical, it includes hundreds of comments from sex addicts and coaddicts on what worked for them in enhancing their relationship. This book is very 12-step oriented, and takes no position regarding spirituality nor religion. |
352 285 312 | $14.95 | Sex and Relationship Addiction, Marriage |
| Weiss, Douglas; DeBusk, Diane | Women Who Love Sex Addicts: Help for Healing from the Effects of a Relationship with a Sex Addict | 1993 | 1881292789 | Offers a look at a situation facing millions of today's women women -- loving a man with a sexual addiction. Offers insight or the following pertinent issues: Self esteem and family of origin issues; Denial, control and dependency. | 279 | $12.95 | Sex Addicts, Codependence, 12-steps |
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