MINUTES 4/6/10
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Reviewed and approved agenda
. Reviewed and approved Treasurer's report
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Reviewed and approved Minutes, February and March
. Report: by Webmaster on
Website
. Report: by Liaison on upcoming worldwide SLAA events
Old Business:
Treasurer's duties proposed language *Revised*: Suggested
one year of sobriety, one year as an op (will be 450 op level), provides input
to establish officer consensus determining conflicts over restrictions/bans applied
for, and inappropriate behaviors when an incidence is not clear or not covered
in the guidelines. Maintains ledger of debits, credits, and balances of account,
and submits monthly treasury reports to the Fellowship. Collects donations from
the Fellowship from SLAAOnline P.O. Box, regularly (p.o. box to be in the area
wherever the treasurer lives), pays website fee monthly, pays for domain name
of website yearly, pays for P.O. Box yearly, maintains prudent reserve of $140
dollars and sends excess in donations to SLAAFWS (as per previous group conscience).
APPROVED
New Business:
New
Ops:
Red - see her letter APPROVED
Bob APPROVED
John
(JohnnyC) APPROVED
Anna - INTERNET CONNECTION DROPPED WILL HAVE TO REAPPLY
NEXT MONTH
Proposed policy on How to Handle Suicide Threats (by
Joe/Glorry): *APPROVED*
I propose that we use the following scripts.
My proposal is that we break up the script into three portions. a reminder, a
warning, and a final warning, then de-voice if necessary. I know this is a pain
but i think it helps allow for more gentleness in the beginning and only gets
firm if the situation dictates.
Reminder :We care about your
safety and your life. We are here to help. However, we are not professional counselors,
and most of us are too far away to be of direct assistance. If you plan on/or
have already hurt yourself, please contact a friend, family member or local helpline
that may be able to better assist you.
Warning:We care about
your safety and your life, therefore we ask if you have plans to/or have already
hurt yourself, please contact 911 or a suicide helpline. This Channel is not a
suicide help line, and we are unable to help in this situation.
Final
warning:We care about your safety. However for the safety of all of our members,
we ask that you do not continue to discuss plans of self harm, please contact
your local suicide helpline, or 911.___________________________________________________________
Further
I motion that we have a statement on the website (as a link) that individuals
in the room may post if no op is present (The suggested wording I propose is as
follows).
"As a Recovery Group we care about the safety of all
of our members. Our experience, strength and hope is limited to Sex and Love Addiction.
We are unable to assist in Medical / Psychological Crises. Out of concern for
your safety and the safety of the Group, we ask that any emergency situations
be addressed thru the appropriate emergency channels. If you have harmed yourself,
or are planning to harm yourself, please call 911 or a Suicide Help Line. Thank-You."
Next Motion: Extend Meetings to 1 1/2 hours- (Susan's Motion) due to
increase in the size of our meetings (some times as many as 35 to 40 people and
a huge influx of newcomers).
Some of the Day folks (Europeans who may not be
able to be at this meeting, due to difference in the time zone) didn't like the
90 minute meeting idea, so I promised to bring their ideas to this meeting. The
ideas that the day folks tossed around were:
- Open the meetings with everyone
in one room, then split the group into two, then everyone would reunite for closing
script.?- Eliminate lengthy newcomer introductions, introduce newcomers briefly.
Do not ask if they want to share at that time, do not do chips. If a newcomer
decides to share later, they can raise their hand in the normal way, and they
can be given a chip at the end of their share. Many feel that having so many newcomers
in the meetings is taking up half the meeting at timesUse a designated timer.
The Op tells everyone up front that they have three minutes to share, with a one
minute wrap up. Folks can volunteer to be the timer. - Add more meetings. Especially
a "Newcomer meeting", and one at 7 pm EST- And finally, if someone has
shared at one meeting, we ask that they only share once a day. (Perhaps a script
can be incorporated that all are encouraged to only share once a day). MOTION
WITHDRAWN BY PROPOSER