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| Author(s) |
Title |
Year |
ISBN |
Abstract |
Pages |
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Topic(s) |
| Amir Levine & Rachel Heller |
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love |
2012 |
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We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."
In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love. |
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Relationship Health |
| (Anonymous) |
Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction |
1995 |
0894865684 |
This meditation book guides readers the strength and courage within themselves that is necessary to face the lingering shadows of sex addiction, providing solace for the pain and inspiration for lasting recovery. |
1 vol. |
|
Meditations, Affirmations |
| (Anonymous) |
Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction (illustrations by David Spohn) |
1989 |
0062554174 |
This meditation book guides readers the strength and courage within themselves that is necessary to face the lingering shadows of sex addiction, providing solace for the pain and inspiration for lasting recovery. |
1 vol. |
|
Meditations, Affirmations |
| (Anonymous) |
Hope and Recovery: A Twelve Step Guide For Healing from Compulsive Sexual Behavior |
1987
1989
1994 |
0896381021
0896381978
156838050X |
The classic guide by and for those recovering from sexual addiction examines each of the Twelve Steps of recovery. Guides and supports the life-transforming move from self-defeating and destructive sexual behavior to healthy, affirming sexuality. By and for
recovering people; offers a unique combination of practical help and healing insights: applies the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions to the problem of sex addiction; dozens of questions designed to help people assess the effects of obsessive sexual thoughts and compulsive sexual behaviors in
their own lives; 19 personal stories from men and women who know, firsthand, the pain of addiction and also the peace and serenity of recovery. |
350
360
327 |
|
Sex Addiction Recovery |
| (Anonymous) |
Hope and Recovery: The Workbook |
1990
1994 |
0896381986
1568381611 |
More than 300 questions follow the text of Hope and Recovery: A Twelve Step Guide for Healing from Compulsive Sexual Behavior, helping readers clarify issues related to compulsive sexual behavior. The resources here will guide you along a pathway of
self-assessment, discovery, and fulfillment. |
166
162 |
|
Workbook, Sex Addiction Recovery |
| (Anonymous); Jennings, James |
What Everyone Needs to Know about Sex Addiction |
1989 |
0896381714 |
This book contains the true detailed stories of a husband and wife. Both of them reveal how sex addiction affected them personally and as a couple. In addition to the pain of active addiction Frank and Jean tell the reader of the process of identification of
the problem and the recovery process. One hundred and ten questions are provided as a way to assist the reader in determining if sex addiction is active in his or her own life. |
55 |
|
Sex Addiction Recovery |
| (by RPI Publishing - Friends in Recovery with Pittman, Bill) |
Prayers for the Twelve Steps: A Spiritual Journey |
1993 |
0941405281 |
The Twelve Steps -- A Spiritual Journey companion book of prayers. This inspirational guide, based on biblical references and twelve step insights, includes over 100 prayers of declaration, meditation intercession, thanksgiving, praise, and more. It reminds
us how to develop a fulfilling personal style of prayer. |
155 |
|
Recovery Prayers |
| (by RPI Publishing - Friends in Recovery with S, Jerry) |
Meditations for the Twelve Steps: A Spiritual Journey |
1993 |
0941405214 |
The Twelve Steps -- A Spiritual Journey companion book of meditations. A richly written guide which can be used by individuals or groups, alone or in tandem with The Twelve Steps -- A Spiritual Journey. The authors include approximately ten reflections on
each step, each with a Bible verse, a revealing lesson from their personal experiences, and a short prayer to affirm the lesson. |
166 |
|
Meditations, Recovery |
| (by RPI Publishing - Friends in Recovery) |
The Twelve Steps: A Spiritual Journey: A Working Guide for Healing Damaged Emotions |
1988 |
0941405443 |
The Twelve Steps -- A Spiritual Journey is a vehicle to move our people down the road to further discipleship and fellowship. When used in the group experience, it promotes unity and molds people together into the family of God |
258 |
|
Workbook, Twelve Steps |
| (by RPI Publishing - Friends in Recovery) |
The Twelve Steps for Christians: Based on Biblical Teachings |
1994 |
0941405478
0941405575 |
"The Twelve Steps for Christians, Revised edition" is a powerful resource for merging the practical wisdom of the Twelve Steps with the spiritual truths of the Bible. This combination of recovery and spirituality offers Christians an effective way to work a
traditional Twelve-Step program and name Jesus Christ as their Higher Power. The authors have a theoretical understanding of the Twelve Steps as well as a persona understanding as a result of their own recovery journeys. They know from first-hand experience how God can use the spiritual
essence of the Twelve Steps to transform broken lives, heal damaged emotions, and mend shattered relationships. Ideas of choosing and working with a recovery partner. "Step Overviews" to assist in understanding, working, and preparing for the step. "Helpful hints" to aid the reader in
areas of prayer, meditation, and Bible study. Expanded examples for "Common Behavior Characteristics." "Key ideas" in each step to reinforce central concepts. |
239 |
|
Twelve Steps |
| (by Recovering Couples Anonymous) |
Recovering Couples Anonymous: Big Book |
1992
1992
1996 |
9992033746
096374951X
0963749528 |
|
122
140 |
|
Relationship Recovery |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous |
1986 |
0961570113
0961570105 |
This is the "Basic Text" for SLAA-FWS and is S.L.A.A. Fellowship-Wide Service Conference-approved literature. |
281
280 |
|
Sex and Love Addiction Recovery |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Conference Service Manual |
2002 |
|
This manual was created from the materials and experiences of many different SLAA members and people who have contributed to the SLAA service structure since the implementation of the Annual Business Meeting (ABM) in 1982. It includes SLAA ByLaws and Annual
Business Meeting motions. |
194 |
|
Service Manual |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA FWS Newsletter (quarterly by subscription) |
Per. |
|
SLAA-FWS publishes a quarterly newsletter with news and information on SLAA business and events. Examples of items you might read about are issues related to the Steps and Traditions, reports from the Board of Trustees and the FWS Office, contribution
information, updates, upcoming events, and more. Each registered group or Intergroup automatically receives an issue of the Newsletter. If you would like to receive the newsletter for a two year period, please make a
$5.00 or more donation to help defray some of the costs for printing and postage. |
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Subscription |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: 12 Recommended Guidelines for Dealing with Media/Public Relations Opportunities for Use at All Levels of the SLAA Fellowship |
|
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A pamphlet published by SLAA-FWS for use by members and trusted servants. |
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|
Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: 40 Questions for Self Diagnosis |
|
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One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Addiction and Recovery |
|
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One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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|
Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: An Introduction to S.L.A.A. |
|
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One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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|
Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Anorexia: Sexual, Social, Emotional |
|
|
One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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|
Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Questions Beginners Ask |
|
|
One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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|
Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Sponsorship: A Return from Isolation |
|
|
One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Suggestions for Newcomers |
|
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One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Supporting SLAA the 60/40 Way |
|
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A pamphlet published by SLAA-FWS for use by members and trusted servants pertaining to how 7th traditions are suggested being distributed. |
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Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Welcome! |
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One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA Pamphlet: Withdrawal |
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One of nine pamphlets published by SLAA-FWS for distribution at meetings. While they cost
$0.75, they are usually distributed free at local meetings to newcomers. They are excerpted at http://www.slaafws.org/pamphlets/Pamphlets.html |
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Pamphlet |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
SLAA World Directory |
2001 |
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The World Directory includes over 720 US meetings and 900 others world-wide. A new directory will be printed toward to end of each year. |
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Directory |
| (by SLAA Fellowship-Wide Services) |
The Journal (bi-monthly SLAA meeting in print by subscription) |
Per. |
|
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about 30 |
|
Subscription |
| (by Sexaholics Anonymous) |
Recovery Continues |
1990 |
|
The various papers included here (24 personal stories) continue the story of recovery first described in the book, Sexaholics Anonymous. Most of these originated as personal inventories of common events in day-to-day living |
97 |
|
Sex Addict Rehabilitation |
| (by Sexaholics Anonymous) |
Sexaholics Anonymous (the "White Book") |
1989 |
0962288705 |
A powerful book which is the basic text for S.A. This text provides the most in depth and comprehensive strategies for overcoming sexual addiction and dependency. The book opens with a powerful story of one man's recovery and how the program works. A synopsis
of the addictive process is outlined. Then the 12 steps of S.A. are outlined (adapted from A.A) as well as practical suggestions for applying them in your life. SA's sobriety definition is strictly no sex outside of a heterosexual marriage. |
212 |
|
Sex Addiction Recovery |
| (by Tyndale House Publishers) |
The Life Recovery Bible: New Living Translation |
1998 |
084233341X
0842333428
0842333436 |
With the Life Recovery Bible you can experience true healing through a variety of notes, book introductions, and devotionals based on the twelve steps of recovery. This unique Bible will lead you to the true source of healing -- God himself. |
1664
1635
1664 |
|
Bible, 12-steps |
| (by Tyndale House Publishers) |
The Life Recovery Bible: The Living Bible: The 12 Step Bible for People in Recovery |
1992 |
0842320830
0842328092
0842328270 |
With the Life Recovery Bible you can experience true healing through a variety of notes, book introductions, and devotionals based on the twelve steps of recovery. This unique Bible will lead you to the true source of healing -- God himself. |
1568
1537
1537 |
|
Bible, 12-steps |
| Ackeman, Robert J; Pickering, Susan E. |
Before It's Too Late: Helping Women in Abusive or Controlling Relationships |
1995 |
1558743456 |
This book offers straightforward answers to the most frequently asked questions about women in controlling or abusive relationships. Robert Ackerman and Susan Pickering reveal the warning signs of controlling relationships and how women get caught in them;
the most common reasons for staying in a controlling relationship and how women can protect themselves; how women can leave when they still love their partners or believe they're needed; where safe places for women are and how to get help; how the children are affected and what help is
available to them and how alcohol and drug abuse affect controlling behavior and abuse. Also included are self-assessment tests -- such as how to determine if you are in a controlling relationship -- to help women identify not only high-risk men, but also some of their own high-risk
behaviors. This book is the first to handle head-on the role of alcohol and other controlled substances -- whether used by the abuser or the victim -- in a controlling or abusive relationship. The appendix is an excellent resource for women who need help, giving addresses and phone
numbers of supportive organizations in every state. More importantly, this book shows that women still have time to get the help they deserve -- before it's too late. |
175 |
|
Boundaries |
| Adams, Christine A |
Love, Infidelity and Sexual Addiction: A Codependent's Perspective |
2000 |
0059515900 |
Love, Infidelity and Sexual Addiction answers questions about the real nature of sexual betrayal. When is it sexual addiction? How can you tell if your partner is sexually addicted? What is it doing to you? What can you do to help the situation? This book
answers these important questions. Love, Infidelity and Sexual Addiction is an honest sharing of a trust betrayed. It chronicles author Christine Adams' personal experiences with a sexually addicted spouse as well as stories of others in various stages of recovery from co-addiction.
This book offers hope and healing to those who have suffered from repeated betrayal. It details a system of spiritual and emotional self-help including chapters defining Sexual Addiction and Co-addiction, The Shame-based Family and The Spiritually Centered Family, Signs of Obsession,
Compulsive Behavior, Finding Self, The Solution, A Healthy Relationship, and Forgiveness. |
156 |
|
Sex Addiction, Codependency, Love |
| Adams, Kenneth M |
Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners: Understanding Covert Incest |
1991 |
1558741313 |
When a parent's love for a child is more expecting than giving, more jealous than trusting, more confining than freeing, more intrusive than nurturing, the child can become trapped in a "psychological marriage" with the parent, becoming a victim of covert
incest. Identification of this problem is often difficult, for the victim often feels idealized and privileged rather than violated and abused. In Silently Seduced, Dr. Adams, through illustrative case examples and perceptive insight, provides covert incest victims a framework to
understand what happened to them, how their lives and relationships continue to be affected and how to begin the process of recovery. |
118 |
|
Sex and Incest Abuse, Sex Addiction |
| Adamse, Michael; Motta, Sheree |
Affairs of the Net: The Cybershrinks' Guide to Online Relationships |
2000 |
1558747877 |
Every day the media bombards us stories about people connecting through the Internet. In all this hype, there remains so much confusion and misconceptions as to what is really happening and why people feel the need to connect with others online. The truth is,
that in a world of stalkings, STDs and increasing violence, people are searching for intimacy -- possibly more than ever before. Therapists and Cybershrinks Michael Adamse and Sheree Motta use their expertise as relationship counselors to examine the most important content on the
Internet: emotion. They look inside online relationships and answer the whos, hows, and whys. Included are profiles of personalities you're likely to meet in chat rooms and instant messaging; the differences between men and women online; friendships, romances, and affairs in cyberspace;
what cybersex really involves; and warning signs to help identify when normal computer use has become an addiction. Containing real online conversations and first-person situations, this book is a valuable Internet users' guide and one of the most important books on relationships
available today. It is fascinating reading for both newbies and pros -- for those looking for companionship online and those interested in "just looking". Previously released as "Online Friendship Chat-Room Romance and Cybersex." |
250 |
|
Cybersex, Cyberaddiction |
| Alter, Robert M; Alter, Jane |
The Transformative Power of Crisis: Our Journey to Psychological Healing and Spiritual Awakening |
2000 |
0060392762 |
A husband-and-wife team of psychologists present a unique and provocative book on healing, incorporating spirituality into the study of the human psyche. Fascinating case studies, as well as provocative parables, demonstrate how sensitivity and kindness can
heal one's psychic wounds and those of loved ones. For every reader in need of comfort and inspiration during difficult times -- as well as being essential reading for all mental health professionals. Like the highly readable and bestselling works of Oliver Sacks, authors Robert and
Jane Alter use fascinating case studies, as well as provocative parables, to demonstrate how sensitivity and kindness can heal one's psychic wounds and those of loved ones. For every reader in need of comfort and inspiration during difficult times -- as well as being essential reading
for all mental health professionals |
304 |
|
Spiritual Life |
| Amodeo, John |
Love and Betrayal: Broken Trust in Intimate Relationships |
1994
1996 |
0345378563
0345910958 |
The coauthor of Being Intimate discusses the impact of betrayal on personal relationships and explains how couples can overcome anger, jealousy, shame, and other negative emotions to reaffirm personal worth and promote healing. Broken trust is one of the most
painful experiences we face as human beings. By by courageously confronting the inevitable abandonments, rejections, and heartbreaks that life brings us, we can embrace our hurts, discover new aspects of ourselves, and find a greater degree of safety in relationships and life. In Love
and Betrayal, Dr. John Amodeo explores the many forms betrayal can take, from keeping secrets and negative gossip to breaking promises and sexual infidelity. In the process, Dr. Amodeo shows you how to heal the wounds of past betrayals, and how to cultivate a climate of love and trust
in your current relationships. John Amodeo's compassionate approach stresses the importance of taking responsibility for moving forward, rather than clinging to the pseudo-comfort of being a victim. He teaches you how to reaffirm your worth and move toward real healing, which moves you
toward love relationships that are truly fulfilling. |
304 |
|
Relationship Health, Intimacy |
| Anderson, Neil T |
A Way of Escape: Freedom from Sexual Strongholds |
1998 |
1565078276 |
Talking about sex is never easy...but while we are silent, Satan takes aim to destroy lives. We've all faced sexual struggles at one time or another. For those who feel caught by unwanted thoughts, compulsive habits, or a painful past, A Way of Escape
provides concrete steps to overcome the bondage of sexual strongholds and win the battle for your mind. This is for either new Christians, or mature ones, for teens and adults Specific Topics: Overcoming unwanted sexual thoughts, and compulsive habits Theological slant: Evangelical.
Main Theme: "breaking the bondage of sexual strongholds." [Please note that this book is different from his 1994 "A Way of Escape" book co-authored with Russell S Rummer -- 1565071700] |
240 |
|
Sex Addiction (religious) |
| Apgar, Kathryn |
Overcoming Relationship Addiction: A Workshop for Women who Love Too Much |
1991 |
0873042395 |
|
94 |
|
Relationship Addiction |
| Arterburn, Stephen |
Addicted to "Love" |
1991 |
0892836997 |
Stephen Arterburn examines what this "love" addiction looks like, who it afflicts and what you can do if you suspect that your spouse, friend, or family member may be suffering from it. Arterburn points the way to psychological and spiritual healing. |
287 |
|
Relationship and Sex Addiction (Christian View) |
| Arterburn, Stephen |
Addicted to "Love": Recovering from Unhealthy Dependencies in Romance, Relationships and Sex |
1992 |
0892838027 |
Stephen Arterburn examines what this "love" addiction looks like, who it afflicts and what you can do if you suspect that your spouse, friend, or family member may be suffering from it. Arterburn points the way to psychological and spiritual healing. |
288 |
|
Relationship and Sex Addiction (Christian View) |
| Arterburn, Stephen |
Addicted to "Love": Understanding Dependencies of the Heart: Romance, Relationships and Sex |
1995 |
0892839309 |
Stephen Arterburn examines what this "love" addiction looks like, who it afflicts and what you can do if you suspect that your spouse, friend, or family member may be suffering from it. Arterburn points the way to psychological and spiritual healing. |
307 |
|
Relationship and Sex Addiction (Christian View) |
| Arterburn, Stephen; Stoeker, Fred |
Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies For Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation |
2002 |
1578565375 |
In this world you're surrounded by sexual images that open the door to temptation. They're everywhere -- on TV, billboards, magazines, music, the internet -- and so easy to access that it sometimes feels impossible to escape their clutches. Yet God expects
his children to be sexually pure. So how can you survive the relentless battle against temptation? Here's powerful ammunition. Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, the authors of the hard-hitting best-seller Every Man's Battle, now focus on the temptations young single Christian men like
you face every day -- and they offer workable, biblical strategies for achieving sexual purity.The authors examine the standard of Ephesians 5:3 -- "there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality" -- in a positive and sensitive light. And they explain how an authentic, vibrant
relationship with Jesus Christ is the key to victory over temptation. Every Young Man's Battle will show you how to train your eyes and your mind, how to clean up your thought life, and how to develop a realistic battle plan for remaining pure in today's sexually soaked culture. As a
result, you'll experience hope -- real hope -- for living a strong, pure life God's way. |
240 |
|
Sex Addiction Recovery (Christian) |
| Arterburn, Stephen; Stoeker, Fred; Yorkey, Mike |
Every Man's Battle Workbook: The Path to Sexual Integrity Starts Here |
2002 |
1578565529 |
This is the comprehensive workbook Christian men have been waiting for: the companion workbook to the liberating message of "Every Man's Battle." This workbook guides readers through serious Bible study, intense examination of their personal lives, and honest
application of biblical truth. In these practical, real-life lessons -- easy to use by individuals or groups. Men will find realistic help straight from God's Word to actively train their eyes and their minds. "Personal Journey into God's Word" sections include reflective exploration of
topics such as God's holiness, your power for victory, God's veiw of true manhood, God's gift of purity, your deepest desires, and many others. Through this new workbook, Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker will guide countless men through self-discovery and Bible study -- and help equip
them with a practical battle plan to live a pure life God's way. |
112 |
|
Sex Addiction Recovery (religious) |
| Arterburn, Stephen; Stoeker, Fred; Yorkey, Mike |
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time |
2000 |
1578563682 |
From the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations...but, thankfully, not impossible to rise above them. Shattering the perception that men are
unable to control their thought lives and roving eyes, Every Man's Battle shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity-perfect for men who have fallen in the past, those who want
to remain strong today, and all who want to overcome temptation in the future. Includes a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love. |
224 |
|
Sex Addiction Recovery (religious) |
| B, Hamilton |
Twelve Step Sponsorship: How It Works |
1996 |
1568381220 |
Twelve Step Sponsorship is the first complete handbook for working with a newcomer. Based on Twelve Step traditions and knowledge passed orally through the generations, this working manual defines the sponsorship role and guides sponsors through the rewards
and pitfalls of reaching out to help new program members. |
257 |
|
Twelve Steps, Sponsoring, Alcoholism |
| Bass, Ellen; Davis, Laura |
Beginning to Heal: A First Book for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse |
1993 |
006096927X |
For all women just beginning to heal from child sexual abuse, an introduction to the healing process based on the groundbreaking and national bestselling classic "The Courage to Heal." This is a guide to healing from childhood sexual abuse, and includes words
of inspiration, explanations of each stage of the healing journey, practical ideas, and first-person accounts. Chapter topics include: healing is possible; the decision to heal; understanding that it wasn't your fault; the child within; and more, all written under a tone of
support. |
107 |
|
Trauma |
| Beattie, Melody |
Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time |
1989
1990
1991
1996 |
0062554182
0062554085
0802726496
0894865838 |
This follow-up book to the best-selling classic Codependent No More shows how recovery continues by developing positive ways of relating to others. Personal stories and suggested activities provide a frame-work for growth and change. |
252 |
|
Codependency |
| Beattie, Melody |
Codependent No More and Beyond Codependency |
1989
2001 |
0062553844
1567312187 |
Where recovery began for many people, this inspiring, straightforward, personal explanation of what codependency is and who has it gives listeners the option to change unhealthy behaviors and stressful relationships, as they rediscover hope, guidance, and
encouragement. Much of the attention in our self-help-absorbed world is focused on the addict -- the compulsive, chemically dependent person who uses alcohol or other drugs to anesthetize the pain of day-to-day living. But what about the other victims of addiction -- the spouses,
families, and caretakers suffering (not so quietly) in the background, so involved in the addict's problems that they are unable to identify and solve their own? There are myriad books and programs dealing with addiction, but only a handful of them address the specific issues of
codependency. This two-books-in-one volume provides a complete blueprint for codependent recovery. Written with warmth, gentleness, and great compassion by Melody Beattie, "Codependent No More" has been a healing touchstone for millions, pointing the way to a lifetime of health, hope,
and happiness. Its sequel "Beyond Codependency" journeys to the very heart of recovery to address many important issues. Two classic books in the field of mental health. |
242 |
|
Codependency |
| Beattie, Melody |
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself |
1987
1992
2001 |
0062554468
0894864025
1568387385 |
In 1987, Melody Beattie introduced the term "codependent" into our national psyche, hitting a nerve. The attitudes, feelings, and behaviors Beattie explored in her groundbreaking book are now recognized as the hallmarks of codependency. Recovery has begun for
millions of individuals with this straightforward guide. Through personal examples and exercises, readers are shown how controlling others forces them to lose sight of their own needs and happiness. Beattie reveals the futility of trying to control someone else's behavior, and the
freedom that comes from taking responsibility for yourself. [The 2001 edition is limited, includes a new preface, and are personally signed.] |
229
250
250 |
|
Codependency |
| Beattie, Melody |
Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps |
1990
1993 |
0131400541
0671762273 |
From the bestselling author of "Codependent No More" and "Beyond Codependency" -- here is an important guide to using the Twelve Steps specifically for codependent issues. It includes tips on how to evaluate programs, a practical guide to each of the Twelve
Steps, specific exercises and activities to use both in group settings and on one's own, and a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs -- including Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more. |
224
273 |
|
Codependency, 12-steps |
| Beattie, Melody |
Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul |
1996 |
0062511211 |
In the spirit of her bestselling The Language of Letting Go, America's most beloved inspirational writer guides us on a sacred journey as we learn to expand our creativity, embrace our powers, and open our hearts. Writing with the same warmth, honesty, and
compassion that has attracted such a loyal following, Melody Beattie now charts an new path toward spiritual growth and renewal. In 365 insightful and delightfully warm daily reflections, Journey to the Heart will comfort and inspire us all as we begin to discover out true purpose in
the world and learn to connect even more deeply. |
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Spiritual Meditations |
| Beattie, Melody |
More Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations by Melody Beattie |
2000 |
1568385587 |
The author of "The Language of Letting Go", one of the most enduring books on healing from codependency, once again distills her compassionate insights on how to nurture spiritual and emotional health and recovery with 365 new daily meditations on letting
go. |
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Codependency Meditations |
| Beattie, Melody |
The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents |
1990
1993 |
0062553895
0062552910 |
Concentrating on self-esteem and acceptance, this book offers meditations for men and women recovering from codependency and aids them in their attempt to gain control of their lives. |
393 |
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Codependency Meditations |
| Beattie, Melody; Schaeffer, Brenda (Schneider, Jennifer P; Ray, Veronica) |
Talk, Trust, and Feel: Keeping Codependency Out of Your Life |
1992
1993 |
0894867962
034537455X |
Codependency is a relationship problem and at times many of us feel frustrated by its relentless pull. Although we've learned to recognize the pitfalls, we need daily reinforcement to deepen our recovery process and keep it moving forward. For all of us
recovering from codependency, especially those working the Twelve Steps, "Talk, Trust, and Feel" offers inspiring perspectivves from Hazelden's leading voices. The book guides us in our practice of new behaviors that allow us to honor ourselves and other people as we move through
recovery. Brian DesRoches provides the key to our greatest challenge in working through conflict -- to let go of our desire to change the other person. Veronica Ray discusses delusions and misconceptions about caretaking, and how to take responsibility for self, letting others do the
same, with love. And Melody Beattie redefines "relapse" as "recycling" -- a normal occurrence in every recovery that gives us a chance to work and learn. Reassuring insights from these and other special Hazelden authors make this collection a vital tool for all of us continuing on our
journey toward wholeness. |
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Codependency |
| Bechtal, Stefan |
The Practical Encyclopedia of Sex and Health |
1993 |
0875961630 |
Every person should have this book in their home. Men and women of all ages will benefit from using this information that has been so accurately and tastefully presented. The book answers thousands of questions that many people are afraid or too embarassed to
ask. Even though the book was written in the early 90's, it has up to date information on human sexuality and health issues. This book covers everything from stress, hormones, potency, vasectomy, and yeast infections, to performance and sex aids. It also has chapters on desire, the
g-spot, homosexuality, std's, hysterectomy, oral sex, orgasm, spermicides, premature ejaculation, pregnancy, childbirth, puberty, fantacies, dreams, cancer, castration, circumcision, and much much more. The book is packed with sound advise, well written, and contains a great source of
information. |
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Sexual Health |
| Bellafiore, Donna R |
Straight Talk About Betrayal: A Self-Help Guide for Couples |
1999 |
0966875907 |
This book is help and hope for relationships wounded by infidelity, gently helping couples normalize their responses to the trauma. It is short, to the point, and valuable to both parties. |
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Affairs |
| Berzon, Betty |
Permanent Partners: Building Gay and Lesbian Relationships That Last |
1990 |
0452263085 |
Today, more than ever before, gay and lesbian couples want long-lasting, fulfilling, happy relationships. But in order to accomplish this, the notion of "partnership" itself must be radically reinvented. Gay men and lesbians must learn to imbue relationships
with the same importance that their heterosexual counterparts do -- in a society that still offers none of the same support. This book, written by a psychotherapist who specializes in working with lesbian and gay male couples, offers clear, compassionate advice and counseling on the
internal and external problems faced by two men or two women as they create a life together. Warmly supportive, Dr. Betty Berzon draws on real-life examples from her professional practice and her own long-term partnership to help couples improve communications, "fight fair," resolve
conflicts, and affirm both their love and their commitment in a relationship that works today, tomorrow, and forever. |
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GLBT commitment |
| Berzon, Betty |
Positively Gay: New Approaches in Gay and Lesbian Life |
1992
2001 |
0890876762
1587610957 |
First published in 1979 and greatly expanded in 1992, this is new updated and revised in 2001. It is a compendium of information on every aspect of gay life, including ideas on having a successful relationship, resolving religious dilemmas and those impacted
by AIDS. |
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328 |
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GLBT Sexual Health |
| Bireda, Martha R |
Love Addiction: A Guide to Emotional Independence |
1990 |
0934986924
0934986916 |
A successful counselor offers clear guidance for all those who have difficulty in setting limits and boundaries within a love relationship, describing how circular, illogical, and addicitive thoughts ar the fuel that keeps a love addict functioning. |
182 |
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Love Addiction |
| Bishop, Jacqui; Grunte, Mary |
How to Love Yourself When You Don't Know How: Healing All Your Inner Children |
1991 |
0882681311 |
The notion that each of us carries around an inner child has been widely explored in popular psychology; this ground-breaking book takes the premise one step further, describing an interior model for the individual based on the metaphor of the family.
Everyone, say the authors, is really made up of an inner family -- several children of various ages and characters, each of whom vies for control in one's life, as well as an inner grown-up capable of learning to care for them. The book's aim is to help the reader re-educate the inner
grown-up to love unconditionally, opening the way for profound healing of psychic wounds. Written as a self-help manual to be used by the reader alone or with the help of a "healing companion," How to Love Yourself proves that self-love and recovery can be achieved through an
understanding of the often fractured family within. |
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Self-love, Inner Child |
| Black, Claudia A |
Double Duty, Sexually Abused |
1990 |
0910223157 |
Incest is an overwhelming, damaging, and humiliating assault on a child's mind, soul, and body. When sexual abuse takes place in an already dysfunctional alcoholic family the likelihood of the abuse continuing is greater, which compounds the damage. Time
alone does not heal these wounds. The stories in this book will demonstrate recovery is possible. |
81 |
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Problem Families |
| Blanchard, Geral T |
The Difficult Connection: The Therapeutic Relationship in Sex Offender Treatment |
1995
1998 |
1884444156 |
This book is an introduction to treatment of involuntary clients. It deals with how to overcome personal feelings of frustration and anger that impede the development of a therapeutic relationship with clients. |
76 |
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Sex Offender Rehabilitation |
| Blinder, Martin; Lynch, Carmen |
Choosing Lovers: Patterns of Romance, How You Select Partners In Intimacy, the Ways You Connect, and Why You Break Apart |
1989 |
0944435041 |
Choosing Lovers, an all-encompassing picture of romantic relationships in all their richness and complexity, provides answers to questions everyone considers: Why of all the people in the world have I fallen in love with him/her? Do I send out some signal
that attracts one kind of lover and puts off others? What are the warning signs of love in danger? The author strikes a new chord with a higher level of literary insight, marshalling unique perspectives culled from years of successful practice. It takes the fear out of choosing new
lovers. |
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Relationship Health |
| Blumenthal, Erik |
To Understand and Be Understood: A Practical Guide to Successful Relationships |
1998 |
1568382294 |
Despite dramatic strides in intellectual, scientific, and technical spheres, despite myriad religious teachings and recent developments in sociology, psychology, and political science that contribute much to our knowledge of how humans interrelate, many
people continue to struggle in their relationships with family members, friends, and acquaintances. A down-to-earth guide with a refreshingly original approach, To Understand and Be Understood shows how to put what we know about relating to others into practice. Written in a warm,
anecdotal fashion, the book is broken into numerous brief essays illustrated with true-to-life examples and everyday experiences with which anyone can identify. Each essay illuminates a simple, easy-to-use principle -- 'Decide more consciously', 'Distinguish between the doer and the
deed', 'Do not compare yourself', 'Look for the positive', 'Don't expect a reward for good deeds', and 'Live more consciously', for example. |
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Interpersonal Relations, Marriage |
| Bradshaw, John |
Bradshaw on the Family: A Revolutionary Way of Self Discovery |
1988 |
0932194540 |
Based on the television series of the same name, Bradshaw focuses on the dynamics of the family, how the rules and attitudes learned while growing up become encoded within each family member. Probably the most important book written about the discovery of
yourself through your family history. A real eye-opener on the social illness that is passed on from generation to generation in families. |
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Family |
| Bradshaw, John |
Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth |
1992 |
0553075101
0553373056 |
Bradshaw's phenomenal bestseller Homecoming introduced the concept of the inner child to a vast new audience. With this book, he moves beyond the wounded child to show how all of us, whatever our backgrounds, can build loving adult relationships in "the next
great stage of growth." John Bradshaw is a major international figure in the self-help and recovery movement. In this important and inspiring book he looks at why so many relationships ultimately fail and why other love relationships thrive and are filled with wonder, curiosity and joy.
Creating Love is positive and practical. It offers an escape from negative, repeating patterns and provides a new way to understand and transform your most crucial relationships -- with parent and child, with yourself, with lovers, friends and marriage partners, and with the world
around you. |
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370 |
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Love |
| Bradshaw, John |
Family Secrets, What You Don't Know Can Hurt You |
1995 |
0553095919 |
With a quarter-million-copy first printing, simultaneous audiobook release, and a new PBS series, self-help psychology guru Bradshaw returns with a vengeance. The subject of his multimedia barrage is the bad stuff family members hide from each other. These
dark secrets, as Bradshaw calls them, range from relatively undamaging events concerning death, birth, and suffering to severely, even criminally harmful acts, including alcoholism, incest, and murder. In the book's three major parts, Bradshaw distinguishes healthy from unhealthy
secrets, proffers a tool for self-ascertainment of family secrets, and counsels those who unearth dark secrets on what to do with their discoveries. In an appendix, he distinguishes the much-publicized phenomenon of repressed memory from false memory syndrome. The latter, he says,
though vociferously advocated by those victimized by family members claiming to recall incest and other enormities, has not been clearly defined by clinicians. He does not, however, clearly indicate what clinicians like him mean when they say, as he does in "A Final Word of Caution,"
"The traumatic abuse of children by their guardians and relatives occurs with great frequency." What is "great frequency" ? Is this a statement about Bradshaw's clientele, or is he asserting that American society is rife with interfamilial abuse? If the former, it's understandable; if
the latter, many will condemn Bradshaw, not unjustifiably, for being an alarmist bent on aggrandizing his trade. |
297 |
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Family |
| Bradshaw, John |
Healing the Shame That Binds You |
1988 |
0932194869 |
Bradshaw shows us how toxic shame is the core problem in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and the drive to super-achieve. The result is a breakdown in the family system and our inability to go forward with our lives. Drawing from more than two
decades of experience as a counselor, Bradshaw offers readers healing techniques that will help free themselves from the shame that binds them to the past. |
235 |
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Shame |
| Bradshaw, John |
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child |
1990
1992 |
0553057936
0553353896 |
Bradshaw's Homecoming re-creates the transformative experiences of his workshops, in which participants learn to understand and mourn the damage done to their inner child -- the core self with which we are born and which is damaged and hidden when the growing
child adapts to life in a dysfunctional family. |
288
304 |
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Inner Child, Self-actualization |
| Breton, Denise; Largent, Christopher |
Paradigm Conspiracy: Why Our Social Systems Violate Our Human Potential -- and How We Can Change Them |
1996
1998 |
1568381069
1568382081 |
This well-researched book exposes the addictive paradigms that bind us to society (and often to one another) and hinder our growth as free-thinking individuals and then provides a new framework through which we can approach our lives and view the world. |
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387 |
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Social Systems, Mind and Body, Change |
| Brooks, Gary R |
The Centerfold Syndrome: How Men Can Overcome Objectification and Achieve Intimacy with Women |
1995 |
0787901040 |
Gary R. Brooks, Ph.D., is an associate professor in psychiatry and behavioral science with the Texas A&M University Health Sciences Center. It's no secret that millions of men read magazines like Playboy and Penthouse and lust after bikini-clad models.
After all, guys will be guys, and what's the harm? Plenty! claims the author of this ground-breaking book that shows how many so-called normal male attitudes toward sex are actually harmful and destructive. He identifies the five principal symptoms of this pervasive disorder: voyeurism
(I can't stop watching gorgeous women), objectification (obsessive fetishism over body parts that interferes with the ability to have relationships with an actual person; the need for validation (women have great power to make or break my sense of masculinity), trophyism (Beautiful
women are collectibles that show the world who a man is) and the fear of intimacy (I'm desperately lonely but deeply fearful of getting too close.) Here is the first candid analysis of how boys are conditioned to pursue airbrushed photo fantasies, and how they're brought up to depend
upon and yet fear the perceived power women hold over them as gatekeepers to a previous commodity - their objectified bodies! And even more importantly how this syndrome prevents true emotional intimacy between men and women. But he also offers a way to overcome this destructive malady.
Using actual case histories and transcripts from groups he has led over many years, he documents how a variety of men from different backgrounds have struggled to escape the depersonalization, the isolation and the sense of frustration and powerlessness in this syndrome. Both men and
women will appreciate the candor in this book. He offers specifis guildelines and practical plans of action for all of us in our various roles - as friends, lovers, partners, husbands, wives, parents, responsbile citizens -- in an era of changing gender relations. |
244 |
|
Pornography, Intimacy |
| Brzeczek, Richard; Brzecaek, Elizabeth; DeVita, Sharon |
Addicted to Adultery : How We Saved Our Marriage and How You Can Save Yours |
1989 |
0553053973 |
|
240 |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Burney, Robert |
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls |
1995 |
0964838311 |
A startling and persuasive new take on the new age by a Twelve Step enthusiast. With a compelling writing style that doesn't just dance around the subject... He works with wounded souls in his private practice, repairing dysfunctional attitudes about human
perfection. And his message is clear. We are not just human creatures stumbling around finding ways to earn and justify a spiritual nature. Just the opposite. We are Spiritual beings having a human experience. And Burney drills home his zealous message. "We are not being punished." He
examines organized religions, scientific principles, the scourge of aids, other human conditions. And concludes that it's time we healed, purged punishment, found our spiritual purpose, enjoyed life. He also confronts some of the new age channelers and psychics who shake fingers at
those who fall to common human frailty. Readers will find a penetrating synthesis of Twelve Step Recovery, contemporary and ancient principles in his Cosmic Perspective. Burney's comments are innovative and inspiring, and may just be the answer for so many seeking spiritual guidance.
They ring of honesty, and they will cause many to ponder. |
127 |
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Codependence |
| Cameron, Julia; Bryan, Mark |
Artist's Way, A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity |
1992
1995 |
0874776945
0874778212 |
Asserting that creative expression is the natural direction of life, noted Hollywood screenwriter and director Julia Cameron presents an exciting method for artists to recover their creativity from limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, inattention, fear, jealousy,
guilt, addictions, and other forces that inhibit the creative process |
240
232 |
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Self-actualization |
| Canning-Fulton, Maureen |
Reclaiming Intimacy: Moving from Sexual Addiction to Healthy Sexuality: A Gentle Path for Continuing Recovery from Sexual Addiction |
2002 |
1929866038 |
Developing healthy sexuality-based on self-respect, self-knowledge, and honest relationships-often requires adjusted attitudes and behaviors, especially for individuals and couples struggling to overcome sexual addiction. By addressing every aspect of human
sexuality, from discovery through expression, Reclaiming Intimacy provides a safe and supportive process for individuals and couples working to establish or restore healthy sexuality. Author Maureen Canning-Fulton shares personal narratives to illustrate unhealthy feelings and behaviors
and presents task-centered exercises to engage the reader in the recovery process. And she examines all three levels of relationships-you, me, us. Reassuring and practical, Reclaiming Intimacy leads the way to embracing one's true nature, including the sexual self. Key features and
benefits: features interactive workbook format offers clinical and personal perspectives on issues affirms that healthy sexuality is possible for anyone. |
225 |
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Sex Addiction Recovery |
| Cannon, Carol Agnes |
Never Good Enough: Growing Up Imperfect in a "Perfect" Family: How to Break the Cycle of Codependence and Addiction for the Next Generation |
1993 |
0816311455 |
Never Good Enough looks at the reasons behind addictive and codependent behaviors. Addiction is a no-fault disease, and understanding this can help in overcoming the behavior that ties us down. The good news is that change is possible. Carol Cannon draws on a
wealth of experiences from her work as a therapist to provide examples of success, strength, and hope in winning the battle over addiction and codependence. |
254 |
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Codependency, Compulsive Behavior, Family (Christian) |
| Carder, Dave; Jaenicke, Duncan |
Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs |
2001 |
0802471412 |
This workbook is an excellent tool for couples to work through and apply the material presented in Torn Asunder. It is organized into daily twenty-minute exercises initiated by each spouse on alternating days. Because this tragic situation is not easily
resolved, this workbook is a must to get couples on the road to healing and oneness. |
160 |
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Affairs, Workbook (religious) |
| Carder, Dave; Jaenicke, Duncan |
Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs |
1992
1999 |
0802485987
0802477488 |
There is hope for recovery from the devastation of extramarital affairs. In Torn Asunder, Dave Carder provides an overall recovery process from sexual and non-sexual affairs. Infidelity is at crisis level even within the church. No marriage is immune despite
apparent moral convictions. Dave Carder wrote Torn Asunder to offer couples hope, healing, and encouragement in the face of adultery. He divides his book into first helping readers understand extramarital affairs and then offering healing for marriages dealing with this betrayal.
Excellent resource for pastors, leaders, and lay people. |
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Affairs (religious) |
| Carnes, Patrick J |
A Gentle Path Through The Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery (A Workbook) |
1989
1993
1993 |
0896381617
0896382907
1568380585 |
This reprint of the 1989 workbook provides a unique set of structured forms and exercises to help recovering people integrate the Twelve Steps into all aspects of their lives, designed with sex addicts and co-addicts in mind. |
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310 |
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Workbook, Twelve Steps, Compulsive Behavior, Alcoholism and Drug Recovery |
| Carnes, Patrick J |
Contrary To Love: Helping The Sexual Addict |
1989
1994? |
0896381560
1568380593 |
Written by the national expert on the problem of sexual addiction, Contrary to Love provides professionals with a resource for understanding and helping sexual addicts. Subjects outlined include stages and progression of the illness, family structures,
bonding, boundaries, assessment, intervention, treatment methods, and recovery topics. |
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280 |
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Sex Addiction Rehabilitation |
| Carnes, Patrick J |
Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction |
1991
1992 |
0553072366
0553351389 |
Sexual addiction, marked by compulsive, self-destructive behavior, takes many forms, such as child abuse, sadomasochism, reliance on erotic fantasy as a coping mechanism, obsession with one individual, anonymous sexual encounters or cycles of disastrous
affairs alternating with sexual bingeing. Offers the results of a survey of more than 1,000 sexual addicts in recovery and their co-dependent partners; shows that sexual compulsives come from all walks of life and its advice-giving testimonies by recovered and recovering persons,
combined with clinical insights, point the way toward healing twisted relationships and reclaiming healthy sexuality. It includes self-tests and warning signs, plus therapies to aid recovery. Recommended both for counselors and for recovering people. |
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439 |
|
Sex Addiction, Sex Addiction Rehabilitatioin |
| Carnes, Patrick J |
Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery: A Gentle Path Workbook for Beginning Recovery from Sex Addiction |
2001 |
1929866011 |
While many books on sexual addiction are available today, this is the first to take techniques used by thousands of people recovering from sex addiction and show, step by step, how to break free of this disease and live a healthier, more fulfulling life. Each
of this hope-filled workbook's chapters sets the stage for the recovery task at hand, and then provides practical, easy-to-follow exercises specifically designed to help understand and address them. You'll learn: why denial is so powerful and what can be done to counter it; how to face
the consequences of your behavior using recovery principles; how to respond to change and crises; how to manage life without dysfunctional behavior; how to address compulsivity as an intimacy disorder, and how spirituality and recovery are interwoven. With innovative new research and
experiential, reflective materials, this practical workbook will serve as an excellent tool both for the general public and therapists. |
275 |
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Sex Addiction Recovery |
| Carnes, Patrick J |
Out of Betrayal: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships |
1996 |
1558743936 |
|
250 |
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Codependency |
| Carnes, Patrick J |
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction [1985-on] The Sexual Addiction [1983] |
1983
1983
1985
1987
1992
1992
2001 |
0896380580
0896380661
0896380866
0896381285
0896382699
1568380550
1568386214 |
Out of the Shadows, the first work ever published on sexual addiction, examines the tangled web of love, addictive sex, hate, and fear often found in family relationships. Patrick Carnes offers a way for addicts to deal with their sexual compulsions and
become whole human beings. This is the landmark book introducing and legitimizing sexual behaviors and sexual fantasies as an addictive disease. Dr. Carnes proposes three levels of sexual addiction, describes the addiction cycle and its progression, and presents the faulty core beliefs
of the addict and the coaddict and their healthy counterparts. |
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200 |
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Sex Addiction |
| Carnes, Patrick J |
The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships |
1997 |
1558745262 |
Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds -- chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage
negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power. Patrick Carnes presents an
in-depth study of these relationships: why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows readers how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives them a checklist for examining their own relationships. He then provides steps readers can take
to safely extricate themselves or their loved ones from these relationships. Readers will return to this book again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work. |
250 |
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Relationship Addiction, Psychological Abuse |
| Carnes, Patrick J(Ed.); Adams, Kenneth M (Ed.) |
Clinical Management of Sex Addiction |
Oct. 2002 |
1583913610 |
This is the first comprehensive volume of the clinical management of sex addiction. Collecting the work of 28 leaders in this emerging field, the editors provide a long-needed primary text about how to approach treatment with these challenging patients. The
book serves as an excellent introduction for professionals new to the field as well as serving as a useful reference tool. The contributors are literally the pioneers of one of the last frontiers of addiction medicine and sex therapy. With a growing awareness of sex addiction as a
problem, plus the advent of cybersex compulsion, professional clinicians are being confronted with sexual compulsion with little clinical or academic preparation. This is the first book distilling the experience of the leaders in this emerging field. With a focus on special populations,
it also becomes a handy problem-solving tool. Readable, concise, and filled with useful interventions, it is a key text illustrating a problem clinicians must be able to identify. It is destined to be a classic reference. |
352 |
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Sex Addiction |
| Carnes, Patrick J; Delmonico, David L; Moriarty, Joseph M; Griffin, Elizabeth |
In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior |
2001 |
1568386206 |
Reveals how desperate life can become for someone addicted to online sex. Destroyed marriages, damaged relationships, career loss and financial ruin are common outcomes. Equips us with specific recovery strategies for recognizing and handling addictive
behavior. The resources here will guide you along a pathway of self-assessment, discovery, and fulfillment. Readers addicted to cybersex will know they're not alone -- and know that recovery is possible -- by the personal stories in this groundbreaking book. Author Patrick Carnes is a
well-known, widely respected expert in sexual addiction treatment. |
250 |
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Sex Addiction, Computer Sex |
| Carnes, Patrick J; Laaser, Debra J; Laaser, Mark R |
Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance and Reality |
1999 |
1929866003 |
The profound link between healthy coupleship and successful recovery was one of the revelations of Dr. Patrick Carnes' extensive field research. Now, along with Debra and Mark Laaser of the National Council for Couple and Family Recovery, Carnes distills that
data into a compelling, compassionate and ultimately joyful guide to supportive intimacy. Packed with practical ideas, anecedotes and dialogue-sparking exercises, this book is written with Carnes' trademark warmth, personal honesty and inspiring insight. It is a workbook for those
struggling with communication, parenting, finances or sex teaches relationship skills drawn from the lives of couples shattered by the ultimate betrayals of sex addiction; offers a hopeful path to any couple seeking healthy and fulfilling intimacy. Learn how to: overcome 'coupleshame,'
fight fair, understand your family 'epics,' set healthy boundaries, break free from the same old battles, form a spiritual bond and renew your early passion -- through revealing exercises, honest insight and personal stories of others in recovery. |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Carnes, Patrick J; Moriarity, Joseph |
Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-hatred |
1997 |
1568381441 |
This book offers a first-time examination of the extreme fear of sexual intimacy and the obsessive avoidance of sex. Author Dr. Patrick Carnes begins by defining sexual anorexia and demonstrating how it and its parallel disorder, sexual addiction and
compulsivity, often arise from a background of childhood sexual trauma, neglect, and other forms of abuse. Carnes explores the numerous dimensions of sexual health, examining key issues which must be addressed and resolved for recovery to proceed. Utilizing extensive research and
elucidating case studies, Carnes develops concrete tasks and plans for restoring nurturing and sensuality, building fulfilling relationships, exploring intimacy, and creating healthy sexuality. Woven throughout the book are stories of recovery which illustrate sexual healing principles,
model new behavior, and support motivation for change. "Sexual Anorexia" enables those suffering from this disorder to recognize that sex need not be a furtive enemy to be fought and defeated, but instead a deeply sensual, passionate, fulfilling, and spiritual experience that all human
beings are innately entitled to. |
250 |
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Sexual Aversion Disorders |
| Carnes, Patrick J; Rening, Linda J; Laaser, Mark R; Laaser, Debra J |
27 Tasks for Changing Compulsive, Out-of-control, and Inappropriate Sexual Behavior: Couple's Workbook |
1994 |
1885970064 |
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270 |
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Sex Addiction Treatment |
| Carnes, Patrick J; Rening, Linda J; Laaser, Mark R; Laaser, Debra J |
27 Tasks for Changing Compulsive, Out-of-control, and Inappropriate Sexual Behavior: Therapist's Guide |
1994 |
1885970005 |
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160 |
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Sex Addiction Treatment |
| Carruth, Bruce |
Co-Dependency: Issues in Treatment and Recovery |
1989
1990 |
0866569200
0866569421 |
|
167 |
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Codependency |
| Carter, Steven A; Sokol, Julia |
He's Scared; She's Scared: Understanding the Hidden Fears that Sabotage Your Relationships |
1993
1995 |
0385305125
0440506255 |
This follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and wisdom, this book offers guidance for all of us who want
genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners. |
352 |
|
Commitment, Interpersonal Relations |
| Carter, Steven A; Sokol, Julia |
Lives Without Balance: When You're Giving Everything You've Got and Still Not Getting What You Hoped For |
1992 |
0394588142 |
The authors identify the major reasons why so many Americans are disapppinted with their present situation and disillusioned by their quest for success. Redefine your personal goals away from "image fixes" such as money, expense accounts, power and glamour
and an outdated mythology of winners, players, limitless credit cards and Horatio Alger. |
252 |
|
Conduct of Life, Disappointment, Success |
| Carter, Steven A; Sokol, Julia |
Men Who Can't Love: When a Man's Fear Makes Him Run from Commitment (and what a Smart Woman Can Do about It) [How to Recognize a Commitment-Phobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart] |
1987
1988
1994
2000 |
0871315173
0425111709
1567310478
042517445X |
Featured on Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael, this definitive look at the dynamics of male-female communication gets to the heart of the all-too-common phenomenon: women who are ready and willing to commit, and men who back off just as the relationship moves
toward the next level. This book can help you: 1) Recognize early warning signs of the commitmentphobic man; 2) Determine the extent of his fears -- and his willingness to change; 3) Analyze your own role in the situation; and 4) Avoid unnecessary stress and heartache. |
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Love, Interpersonal Relations |
| Chandler, Mitzi |
Gentle Reminders for Co-Dependents: Daily Affirmations |
1989 |
1558740201 |
Mitzi Chandler takes the co-dependent and adult child through the year with each day bringing a new quotation to ponder, a message of hope and a positive affirmation to carry you through the day. This book is for those in recovery who seek to enjoy the
miracle each day brings. |
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Affirmations Meditations Codependency |
| Clark, J Michael |
Doing the Work of Love: Men and Commitment in Same-Sex Couples |
1999 |
0967179408
0967179416 |
This is a groundbreaking book that crestes an important bridge between academic work on men and sexulaity and popular unreflective work on gay male relationships. Exploring intimate, coupled relationships among men, especially among gay men, the author
celebrates embodied, sensual, sexual goodness of men's sexual relationships, while adamantly rejecting an "anything goes" approach to gay male sexuality or to sexuality in general. The author proposes an ethics of sexual accountability in-relation as a middle ground between those who
espouse anonymous multi-partnered sex as the crux of gay identity and those whose current sex panic resounds with sex-negativity. |
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GLBT commitment |
| Cleveland, Mike |
Setting Captives Free: Pure Freedom -- Breaking the Addiction to Pornography |
2002 |
1885904304 |
Cleveland has done a spectacular job of applying the Word of God to the areas of habitual sexual sin. The author clearly leads the student, day-by-day, using Biblical examples and amazing personal testimonies from previous students, to habitual freedom from
sexual immorality. This text is based on an interactive web-based course of the same name, Pure Freedom, which can be found at SettingCaptivesFree.com. The principles in this book can break the secret addiction that has ruined so many lives. The book isn't about snapping your wrist with
a rubber band or going back to your childhood to find out why it's someone else's fault; it's about Jesus Christ and how to practically apply His truth to your life! You don't have to be a "recovering addict" the rest of your life; reading and studying this book will show you how to be
free forever from Satan's trap. |
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Pornography Addiction (religious) |
| Cloud, Henry |
Changes That Heal |
1993
1997 |
0310606314
0310214637 |
Many of us struggle with depression, anxiety, panic, addictions, and guilt. Often the source of this pain lies buried in patterns of behavior that we learned as children and continue to practice today. Because or poor parenting or childhood trauma, our growth
toward maturity slows or stops entirely. To become mature image-bearers of God, says Dr. Henry Cloud, we most learn to do four things: bond to others; separate from others (boundaries); accept both the good and bad in life; and take charge of our lives. All of us must accomplish these
things to heal our inner pain and to enable us to function and grow emotionally and spiritually. In "Changes That Heal," Dr. Cloud explains each of these needs. Then he identifies problems that arise when they are not met, and shows what changes to make to bring healing. With solid
scriptural insights, Changes That Heal helps listeners form healthy relationships with themselves, others, and God -- relationships that will bring new richness and purpose to life. |
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Boundaries (Religious) |
| Cloud, Henry |
Changes That Heal Workbook |
1994 |
0310606330 |
This companion workbook to "Changes That Heal" will lead you step-by-step through the important principles from Dr. Cloud's groundbreaking book, plus give you practical suggestions for discovering the answer to the following questions and more. What are the
four basic tasks of becoming mature image bearers and more? How do I accomplish these tasks? What problems result because of failure to accomplish these tasks? What changes do I need to make in my life In order to bring about healing? Once you've learned and accomplished the four basic
tasks that are absolute necessary for emotional and relational stability, you'll have learned to: bond to others; separate from others; sort out good and bad in yourself and others; and become an adult. |
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Boundaries, Workbook (Religious) |
| Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John (Sims) |
Boundaries in Dating: Making Dating Work |
2000 |
0310200342
0310204550 |
Should people kiss dating goodbye? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend don't think so. They maintain that avoiding dating isn't the way to cure the problems encountered in dating. The cure is the same as the Bible's cure for all of life's problems: as we
grow spiritually, we will mature. The way to a better dating relationship is by learning how to love another person, learning how to follow God, how to be honest and responsible, how to treat others as you would want to be treated, and how to develop self-control. |
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Dating, Social Customs and Religious Aspects |
| Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John |
Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't |
1995
1996 |
0310595606
0310210844 |
Too many of us have invested ourselves into relationships that left us deeply wounded. We've been abandoned or taken advantage of, and left with little to show for what we've given. We've lost our sense of security and personal value in the process. And
what's worse, we tend to either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over... Or else lock the doors of our hearts entirely and throw away the key. Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin? Drs. Henry Cloud
and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from friendships to romance. They help identify the nurturing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize 20 traits of relationally
untrustworthy people. Discover what makes some people relationally safe, and how to avoid unhealthy entanglements. You'll learn about things within yourself that jeopardize your relational security. And you'll find out what to do and what not to do to develop a balanced, healthy
approach to relationships. |
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Relationship Health (Christian) |
| Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John (Sims) |
Boundaries in Dating: Workbook |
2000 |
0310233305 |
Designed to accompany Boundaries in Dating, this workbook is your map for traveling the dating road. It's filled with pointed assessments, insights, questions for thought and discussion, and principles for you to put into practice in your relationships with
others. The Boundaries in Dating Workbook helps you deal with four critical concerns you face as a single person:You and Your Boundaries; Whom Should I Date? Solving Dating Problems When You're Part of the Problem; Solving Dating Problems When Your Date Is the Problem. |
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Workbook, Dating, Co-addiction |
| Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John (Sims) |
Boundaries in Marriage: Workbook |
2000 |
0310228751 |
Designed to accompany Boundaries in Marriage, this workbook is filled with self-tests, questions, and applications. Your longing for a marriage marked by lifelong love, intimacy, and growth can be yours if you set wise boundaries. By the time you've completed
this workbook, you will know yourself and your mate better than ever before. You'll also understand and practice the ten laws of boundaries in ways that can make a real difference in your relationship. Step by step, the Boundaries in Marriage Workbook helps you apply the biblical
principles discussed in the book Boundaries in Marriage so you can... Set and maintain your personal boundaries and respect those of your spouse -- Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for your marriage -- Protect your marriage from different kinds of
"intruders" -- Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries, or work with one who doesn't. Filled with self-tests, questions, and applications, the Boundaries in Marriage Workbook helps you deal effectively with the friction points and serious hurts in your marriage -- and
move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy you both long for. |
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Workbook, Marriage, Co-addiction |
| Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John (Sims) |
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life |
1992
2002 |
0310585902
0310247454 |
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of
our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions
of others. Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator. |
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Conduct of Life (Christian) |
| Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John (Sims) |
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life (Workbook) |
1995 |
0310494818 |
Based on the best-selling, award-winning book by Drs. Cloud and Townsend, this is a psychological survival manual that will give you biblically based answers to questions you have about setting and maintaining boundaries. Used with its companion book,
Boundaries, this workbook will provide practical, non-theoretical exercises that will help you set healthy boundaries with parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even yourself... by drawing on God's wisdom. Being a loving and unselfish Christian does not mean never telling
anyone no. This workbook helps you discover what boundaries you need and how to avoid feeling guilty about setting them. It will give you biblically based answers to questions you have about boundaries. |
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Conduct of Life (Christian) |
| Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John S(ims) |
Boundaries in Marriage |
1999 |
031022151X |
Introducing the book most requested by Boundaries seminar attendees: Boundaries in Marriage. Because two lives becoming one is easier said than done. How do you work out conflict, establish healthy communication, solve problems, and deal with the struggle of
differing needs? In the process of knitting two souls together, it's easy to tear the fabric. You long for a marriage marked by lifelong love, intimacy, and growth. And it can be yours - if you set wise boundaries. Boundaries are the "property lines" that define and protect each of you
as individuals. Get them in place and you can make a good marriage better and possibly even save a less-than-satisfying one. |
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Marriage |
| Coleman, Eli (Ed.) |
Chemical Dependency and Intimacy Dysfunction |
1988
1990 |
0866566406
0866568263 |
A comprehensive text on the topic, it demonstrates how chemical dependency, sexual dysfunctions, and inappropriate touching are symptoms of intimacy problems. The reader is taught the relationship between the symptoms and the core issues; issues that must be
resolved if recovery is to be complete. Experts in the fields of chemical dependency and human sexuality provide answers to pressing questions regarding the relationship between chemical dependency and intimacy dysfunction and treatment for individuals and families. Because many
chemical dependency professionals are unaware of intimacy problems, are unwilling to discuss them, or have not received sufficient training to evaluate and treat the problems, this book provides professionals with information and skills to deal with these issues with the hope of
improving treatment and rehabilitation of addicted individuals and their families. |
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Addictions, Sexuality |
| Collins, Bryn C |
Emotional Unavailability: Recognizing It, Understanding It and Avoiding Its Trap |
1997
1998 |
0809231603
0809229145 |
At some point in life, nearly all of us find ourselves in a relationship in which no matter how hard we try, no matter what we do, we still feel empty and unfulfilled. Emotional Unavailabity takes an upbeat, inspiring look at why people form such painful
associations and empowers them to find authentic emotional connections. Through real-life examples, quizzes, and easy-to-understand text, readers will learn how to identify the 10 types of emotionally unavailable people to avoid -- the Romeos and Romiettes, the Indiana Joneses, the
Tens, the Emotional Einsteins, and the Eels, among others |
304 |
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Intimacy, Control and Manipulation, Interpersonal Relations |
| Collins, Bryn C |
How to Recognize Emotional Unavailability and Make Healthy Relationship Choices |
1999 |
1567313442 |
In this groundbreaking book based on her extensive clinical experience, psychologist Bryn Collins discusses life with an emotionally unavailable person. She uses case studies, quizzes, and down-to-earth awareness to profile the most common types of
emotionally unavailable partners, and offers the skills you need to change these painful associations. Ms. Collins explores the common problem of emotional unavailability from a fresh, practical, and non-judgmental viewpoint. She explores why we enter painful, frustrating relationships,
and how we can make positive changes without blaming ourselves. The book covers: types of emotion unavailability; how and why people are unavailable; patterns of thought and how they control events by controlling expectations; tell-tale signs; understanding why you get drawn in; and how
to change and grow beyond emotional unavailability. |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Cooper, Al (Ed.) |
Cybersex: The Dark Side of the Force: A Special Issue of the Journal Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity |
2000 |
158391305X |
Presents an empirical foundation for discussing cybersex compulsivity, online pornography and the affects on the mental health of individuals, couples, teens and young children. A crucial resource for sex therapists, who until now had no rigorous study of the
effect of online pornography on the patients they treat. [Chapter 1 Cybersex Users, Abusers, and Compulsives: New Findings and Implications; Chapter 2 Effects of Cybersex Addiction on the Family: Results of a Survey; Chapter 3 Online Infidelity: A New Dimension in Couple Relationships
with Implications for Evaluation and Treatment; Chapter 4 Children, Teens, and Sex on the Internet; Chapter 5 Online Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity: Integrating Web Resources and Behavioral Telehealth in Treatment; Chapter 6 Should Virtual Sex be Treated like Other Sex Addictions;
Chapter 7 Compulsive Cybersex: The New Tea Room] |
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Cybersex, Sex Addiction |
| Cooper, Al (Ed.) |
Sex and the Internet: A Guidebook for Clinicians |
2002 |
1583913556 |
Sex and the Internet is the first ever professional book on the fascinating and revolutionary area of internet sexuality. With many disturbing questions raised by sex and the internet, here is a clinician's guide that addresses these concerns by both
informing and providing practical and concrete suggestions and directions. Contributions by international compilation of experts in the field of sexuality keeps on course with pertinent and relevant material. |
290 |
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Sex Addiction, Computer Sex, Sex Counseling |
| Copeland, Mary Ellen |
The Loneliness Workbook: A Guide to Developing and Maintaining Lasting Connections |
2000 |
1572242035 |
Do you feel alone in times of need? Unable to make connections in your daily life that could anchor you in love and friendship? Learn to take stock of your strengths, create the right kind of change, and develop a circle of support that can sustain you
through difficult times. Alone time can relieve stress, build character, and serve the necessary function of providing a time-out from this hectic worlk. But too much time alone can make our lives unduly hard, and lead us to feel unloved and unwanted. In this comprehensive guide to
relieving loneliness, distinguished writer and lecturer Mary Ellen Copeland creates a practical program for assessing personal strengths and using them to bring connection into our lives. Based on an extensive study of former loneliness sufferers, The Loneliness Workbook helps us learn
to identify our assets as well as our relationship inhibitors, develop relationship skills, practice loneliness-relieving excercises, reach out for support, join with others, and create intimacy. Through the inspiring testimony of those who hwave overcome loneliness, we are encouraged
to implement our very own plan of action and bring about the kinds of lasting changes that will fill our lives with love and support. |
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Loneliness |
| Courtois, Christine A |
Healing the Incest Wound: Adult Survivors in Therapy |
1988
1996 |
0393700518
0393313565 |
This book describes the nature and characteristics of incest, identifies the symptoms shown by its victims, and offers therapists advice on helping incest victims. Christine Courtois is a gifted and highly brilliant writer and speaker. Her books are highly
truthful and revealing about sexual abuse and exploitation of children and adolescents. She also writes about the resulting psychiatric illnesses, particularly, in the worst possible of all cases, Multiple Personality Disorder, with extreme compassion, knowledge and sensitivity. She
writes about incest with intelligence, good taste and limitless compassion. |
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Trauma |
| Covey, Stephen R; Merrill, A Roger; Merrill, Rebecca R |
First Things First: To Live; To Love; To Learn; To Leave a Legacy |
1994
1995 |
0671864416
0684802031 |
In the spirit of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the #1 nationwide bestseller, First Things First is a revolutionary guide to managing your time by learning how to balance your life. Traditional time management suggests that working harder, smarter,
and faster will help you gain control over your life, and that increased control will bring peace and fulfillment. The authors of First Things First disagree. In the first real breakthrough in time management in years, Stephen R. Covey, A. Roger Merrill, and Rebecca R. Merrill apply the
insights of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People to the daily problems of people who must struggle with the ever-increasing demands of work and home life. Rather than focusing on time and things, First Things First emphasizes relationships and results. And instead of efficiency, this
new approach emphasizes effectiveness. |
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384 |
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Conduct of Life |
| Covington, Stephanie S |
Awakening Your Sexuality: A Guide for Recovering Women |
1991
2000 |
0062501909
1568383606 |
This text guides women on an inner journey of exploration, growth and sexual awakening, aiming to transform lives and relationships. Covington, coauthor of Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path from Relationship to Intimacy (HarperCollins, 1988), offers this
guide for women recovering from abuse, addiction, or dysfunctional relationships. She uses case histories mixed with practical suggestions on how to change past behavior and work toward healing. Particularly helpful are her appendixes, which discuss the sexual response cycle and women
and AIDS. Bibliographies and resources are also included. Although titles on recovery proliferate, this book fills an important niche. |
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Sexual Health |
| Covington, Stephanie S |
Awakening Your Sexuality: A Guide for Recovering Women and Their Partners |
1992 |
0062501917 |
This empowering guide helps women process their sexual history, understand their current sexual selves, and reclaim their sexuality from guilt, shame, and addiction. |
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Sexual Health |
| Covington, Stephanie S; Beckett, Liana |
Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path from Relationship Addiction to Intimacy |
1988 |
0062501631 |
In Leaving the Enchanted Forest, Covington and Beckett offer solid guidance to help readers recognize their addictive relationships -- their enchantment -- and discover, through new relationship skills, the rewards of responsible love. Advice, step-by-step
guidelines, and a clear, practical guide to recovery for those who want to understand the nature of addictive relationships and are ready to embrace genuine intimacy, the gift of recovery. It includes exercises, writing activities and experiential practices offer the opportunity to
review past and present relationships, thoughtfully reevaluate personal beliefs/assumptions and clarify who you are, what you need, and what you want. |
208 |
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Relationship Addiction, Intimacy, Codependency |
| Crawford, David; Kettelhank, Guy |
Easing the Ache: Gay Men Recovering from Compulsive Behaviors |
1991
1991
1998 |
0525248714
0452266157
1568382359 |
An anthem of recovery that is a beacon to anyone who is a compulsive personality. "Easing the Ache" is the first book to address the unique needs of gay men in recovery, written especially for compulsive gay men. It is full of insight and the testimonials of
gay men in recovery make it easy and enjoyable to read. Many gay men are making remarkable journeys as they recover from addiction, whether it be to alcohol, drugs, food, sex, work or unhealthy relationships. The stories and opinions of hundreds of gay men provide the core of this book
about the ascent out of compulsive behavior and the discovery of a fulfilling life. The author examines the struggles and successes of gay men overcoming addiction and compulsive behaviour. Direct and honest, Kettelhack provides a sense of what it's like for gay men to overcome
crippling self-hatred as he examines the challenges, triumphs, and setbacks they face in dealing with compulsive behaviour and addiction. Writing from his own experiences as a recovering alcoholic, the author provides guidance for the road to recovery. |
190 |
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Multiple Addictions |
| Crowder, Adrienne |
Opening the Door: A Treatment Model for Therapy with Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse |
1995 |
0876307543 |
There is little written on working with male victims of sexual abuse. This is one of the good ones. |
214 |
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Trauma |
| Daniels, Robert |
The War Within: Gaining Victory in the Battle for Sexual Purity |
1997 |
0891079335 |
Clearly confronts the problems men face with lust, pornography and other sexual temptations and offers practical, biblical solutions for helping them overcome sin and integrate purity. They are silent sins. And therefore some of the most difficult to conquer.
Facing those sexual temptations daily, sometimes unfaithful in thought or deed, persistently assaulted by world, flesh, and the Devil, can men today possibly win the war for sexual purity? This courageous book offers a resounding "yes!" It also provides a battle strategy based on the
promises and power of God -- and the author's experiences in defeating a 25-year addiction to pornography. This no-nonsense book -- complete with discussion questions -- will take you to a new level of purity, as well as encourage you that in this terribly private struggle, you are
never alone. |
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Sexual Ethics (religious) |
| Dass, Ram; Gorman, Paul |
How Can I Help?: Stories and Reflections on Service |
1985 |
0394729471 |
Stories and Reflections on Service, reminds us just how much we have to give and how doing so can lead to some of the most joyous moments of our lives. Not a day goes by without our being called upon to help one another-at home, at work, on the street, on the
phone... |
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Helping Behavior |
| Davis, Laura |
Alllies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child |
1991 |
0060968834 |
Designed for intimate partners of trauma victims, it was well conceived when it first appeared and still is about the best book dedicated to that purpose. Great for someone needing to know about child sexual abuse but is not prepared to read a huge book. |
337 |
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Trauma |
| Davis, Laura |
The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse |
1990 |
0060964375 |
As a step-by-step guide through the healing process, this workbook will touch a deep nerve and provide the same directional support as its companion bestseller Courage to Heal. The workbook is a combination of checklists, open-ended questions, writing
exercises, art projects, and activities. |
447 |
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Workbook, Trauma |
| Dayton, Tian |
Heartwounds: The Impact of Unresolved Grief and Trauma on Relationships |
1997 |
1558745106 |
The heartbreak of lost intimacy with another person -- whether through distance, death, divorce, addiction, or alienation -- is a wound many of us suffer throughout our lives. Often this wound lies hidden in the silent chambers of our hearts for years and
undermines our ability to have nurturing, comfortable relationships. In this book, you will find a way out of the pain toward a place where you can heal and form confident, mature relationships. Heartwounds is an experiential guide for exploring this minefield of painful memories and
emerging beyond them with new energy for resolution and growth. Noted clinical psychologist Dr. Tian Dayton clearly outlines the impact of unresolved trauma and grief on both the personality and on relationships. Through vivid case studies and probing exercises, this book opens our
hearts and minds to a deeper meaning and purpose in life and allows us to connect with others in real rather than superficial ways. Heartwounds is about turning wounds into wisdom so that the lessons learned from painful circumstances can lead to a more satisfying life and healthier,
more peaceful and joyful relationships. |
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Relationship Health, Trust |
| Dayton, Tian |
Trauma and Addiction: Ending the Cycle of Pain through Emotional Literacy |
2000 |
1558747516 |
For the past decade, author Tian Dayton has been researching trauma and addiction, and how psychodrama (or sociometry group psychotherapy) can be used in their treatment. Since trauma responses are stored in the body, a method of therapy that engages the body
through role play can be more effective in accessing the full complement of trauma-related memories. This latest book identifies the interconnection of trauma and addictive behavior, and shows why they can become an unending cycle. Emotional and psychological pain so often lead to
self-medicating, which leads to more pain, and inevitably more self-medicating, and so on -- ad infinitum. This groundbreaking book offers readers effective ways to work through their traumas in order to heal their addictions and their predilection toward what clinicians call
self-medicating (the abuse of substances [alcohol, drugs, food], activities [work, sex, gambling, etc.] and/or possessions [money, material things].) Readers caught up in the endless cycle of trauma and addiction will permanently transform their lives by reading this book. Therapists
treating patients for whom no other avenue of therapy has proved effective will find that this book offers practical, lasting solutions. Case studies and examples of this behavioral phenomenon will illustrate the connection, helping readers understand its dynamics, recognize their own
situations and realize that they are not alone in experiencing this syndrome. The author deftly combines the longstanding trauma theories of Van der Kolk, Herman, Bowlby, Krystal and others with her own experiential methods using psychodrama, sociometry and group therapy in the
treatment of addiction and posttraumatic stress disorder. While designed to be useful to therapists, this book will also be accessible to trade readers. It includes comprehensive references, as well as a complete index. |
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Addictions, Trauma |
| DeAngelis, Barbara |
Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong |
1993 |
0440215757 |
The bestselling author of Secrets of Men Every Woman Should Know (1990) and How to Make Love All the Time (1987) now dissects bad love choices. Quizzes, lists, and anecdotes render De Angelis's sensible material in easy-to-swallow morsels. Early on, readers
are asked to make lists of past lovers' worst qualities and then to write a want ad for a partner, highlighting the common themes ("WANTED: Self- absorbed, damaged loser who has lots of potential and is doing nothing with it...."); and possible roots for these perverse attractions in
the childhood family experience are then explored. Readers count off "the seven wrong reasons to be in a relationship" (from "sexual hunger" to "emotional or spiritual emptiness"); "nine fatal flaws to watch out for in a partner" (addiction, control-freak tendencies, sexual
dysfunction); seven compatibility time-bombs, etc. Although the majority of the text deals with negatives, going on the theory that recognizing self-destructive habits is the major step toward overcoming them, De Angelis comments briefly on the attitudes and flexibility necessary for
change. Those unsure of whether to commit may value the elaborate self-test offered here, leading to a numerical assessment of compatibility. Given a tolerance for lists and comfort with an approach that precludes subtlety, readers with histories of unhappy relationships may gain
insight from this solid, well-organized advice. |
432 |
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Love |
| Delmonico, David L; Griffin, Elizabeth; Moriarity, Joseph M |
Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior |
2001 |
0970884508 |
Mention "cybersex" and the response you'll often receive is a chuckle and a smart or lewd comment. But the use of sex on the Internet is skyrocketing, and anyone caught up in the spell of Internet sex knows its intense and seemingly irresistible power to
undermine careers, upend relationships, and create emotional chaos. This frank, compassionate, and practical workbook offers a hope-filled plan for breaking free of compulsive cybersex, one that enables those entrapped to regain control of their relationships and their lives. Easy to
follow exercises serve as a guide for confronting and understanding cybersex behavior and lead the way to change, personal growth, and a life free of cybersex's intoxicating and destructive spell. "Here are the tools needed to break the chains of cybersex. No matter how mild or severe
the problem, this book can be a guide back to the real world of relationships." Douglas Weiss, Ph.D., author of Final Freedom: Pioneering Sexual Addiction Recovery "With cybersex quickly becoming a hidden epidemic, the timing of this valuable workbook could not be better. A must read
both for those with concerns about their own Internet usage for sex and for family and friends trying to support them." Al Cooper, Ph.D. |
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Workbook, Cybersex Addiction |
| Diamond, Jed |
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places: Overcoming Romantic and Sexual Addictions |
1988 |
0399133720 |
This book will be of particular interest to people in recovery and twelve step programs, as the author Jed Diamond often uses the terminology and concepts of these recovery models. Looking for Love gives excellent descriptions of Love addiction and provides
direction for those people who are in relationships with Love addicts. Diamond describes some characteristics of a Love Addict, and most important offers solutions for healing and help. Diamond also offers understanding of this addiction yet urges the reader that this addiction does not
go away on its own. He emphasizes that seeking awareness and help is the only way to recover. The book provides a very good description of Healthy Love and Addictive Love by putting them in a contrasting format. |
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Love, Intimacy, Attachment |
| Diamond, Jed |
Male Menopause |
1997
1998 |
1570711437
1570713979 |
After years of jokes about the male "midlife crisis," male menopause is today recognized as a true event, occurring in millions of men between the ages of forty and fifty-five. In this groundbreaking and much-lauded book, author Jed Diamond shows that male
menopause involves dramatic chemical and physiological changes that affect everything from a man's view on life to his ability to attain and maintain an erection. As featured in public television specials by the same name, Male Menopause surveys the most current medical data and listens
to men and women as they struggle to arrive healthy and happy in the second half of life. |
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Sexual Health |
| Diamond, Jed |
Surviving Male Menopause: A Guide for Women and Men |
2000 |
1570714339 |
This solid and practical book directly responds to readers' concerns about male menopause by raising awareness and support. In his earlier book Male Menopause, Jed Diamond exposed the worldwide reality that the often-joked-about phenomenon of "male menopause"
is indeed a medical, psychological and emotional fact of life for millions of men. Diamond's new book offers guidance to and tells the stories of those perhaps as affected by male menopause as men -- women. Surviving Male Menopause examines the most current medical happenings, then
focuses more strongly on the emotional, personal side of this life passage. Its effect on relationships and on the individuals involved is unmistakable. Through the recently rising voices of the men and women experiencing this change, Diamond seeks to show women and men how they can
emerge on the other side happy, healthy and fulfilled. |
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Sexual Health |
| Dolan, Yvonne |
Resolving Sexual Abuse: Solution-Focused Therapy and Ericksonian Hypnosis for Adult Survivors |
1991 |
0393701123 |
Dolan provides specific and practical techniques that enable clients not only to resolve past sexual abuse but also to form a clear map of functional behaviors and perceptions to replace trauma-based ones. She offers specific strategies for treatment of
post-traumatic amnesia, self-mutilation, sexual dysfunctions, memory problems, and many other symptoms. Annotation copyright Book News, Inc. Portland, OR. |
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| Driggs, John H; Finn, Stephen E |
Intimacy Between Men: How to Find and Keep Gay Love Relationships |
1990
1991 |
0525249192
0452266963 |
More and more gay men are seeking to find, build, and preserve intimate relationships. Here, two experienced therapists draw on extensive research and their years of leading counseling groups for gay men to present a practical path toward greater intimacy in
gay love relationships. With inspiring success stories and relationship-strengthening exercises, this wise and sensitive guide offers innovative strategies for overcoming many problems faced by gay men in our society: coming to terms with the process of coming out; conquering your own
personal roadblocks to intimacy; learning to recognize the difference between sex and intimacy; and coping with issues of personal safety and AIDS. Extraordinarily insightful, warm, and supportive, Intimacy Between Men teaches couples to share feelings, desires, and sexual needs, to
communicate honestly and openly, and to build lasting and loving partnerships. |
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Gay Relationship Health |
| Earle, Marcus R; Earle, Ralph H; Osborn, Kevin; (Crow, Gregory) |
Sex Addiction: Case Studies and Management |
1995 |
0876307853 |
Family psychologists present a flexible therapeutic program for sex addicts and their families that they have developed over many years of dealing with both socially responsible individuals and sex offenders. The book discusses treating the addict, sex
offenders, and victims of sexual abuse. Their approach combines a wide range of therapies and relies on the skillful coordination of the treatment team. They speak primarily to professional psychologists, but pastors, probation officers, or attorneys might also be interested. |
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Sex Addiction Treatment |
| Earle, Ralph H; Crow, Gregory; Osborn, Kevin |
Lonely All The Time: Recognizing, Understanding and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Co-Dependents |
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This book addresses the needs and concerns of all sexual addicts, regardless of their sexual orientation, and also of the addict's codependent partner. The authors explore the causes and symptoms of sex addiction. They also include a comprehensive and
practical approach to recovery for the addict and family. |
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Sex Addiction, Codependency, Loneliness |
| Earle, Ralph H; Laaser, Mark |
Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction |
2002 |
0834119382 |
Maybe he's a board member or a deacon. Maybe he's the choir director. Maybe he's teaching Sunday School or passing the offering plate. Pastor ... maybe it's you. How are you dealing with the sexual sin epidemic that is sweeping across churches today via the
Internet and other venues? Men everywhere are living in bondage and fear of exposure. There Is Somewhere To Turn For Help. If you're flirting with this devastating addiction, or if you're counseling others who have already crossed the line, Ralph Earle and Mark Laaser help you
understand the core issues related to sexual sin and give insight into developing a biblical view of healthy sexuality. In The Pornography Trap, you'll find the help you've prayed for. |
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Pornography Addiction |
| Eisenberg, Arlene; Eisenberg, Howard; Mooney, Al J; Gitlow, Stanley E |
The Recovery Book |
1992 |
1563050846 |
Attempts to explain exactly what a recovering addict and his or her family will face during every stage of living clean and sober, with information on support groups, family relationships, temptations, and hundreds of questions and answers. Includes special
sections on: family relationships; AA and other support groups; making love; non-drug medical treatments; and work and money issues. The book is set up in easy to read chapters covering everything you need to know about recovering from addictions. It explains specif steps to go through
the detox process from every drug or alcohol, medical advice on how to get help, the withdrawal process, nutrition, and how to move on with your children, your spouse and family, your job, and yourself. |
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Multiple Addictions |
| Eisler, Riane (Tennenhaus) |
The Chalice and the Blade: Our History, Our Future |
1987
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084466734X |
Some books are like revelations, they open the spirit to unimaginable possibilities. The Chalice and the Blade is one of those magnificent key books that can transform us and...initiate fundamental changes in the world. With the most passionate eloquence,
Riane Eisler proves that the dream of peace is not an impossible utopia. Eisler is a nationally known advocate of partnership models as superior forms of human interaction in contrast to "dominator" approaches. |
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Sexual Health |
| Elinor, Burkett |
A Gospel of Shame: Children, Sexual Abuse, and the Catholic Church |
1993
2002 |
067084828X
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Two journalists expose the range and depth of sexual abuse in the Catholic church. Well written, but still painful to read, it is the book that took the mask off. |
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Sex and Religion |
| Ellison, Marvin M(ahan) |
Erotic Justice: A Liberating Ethic of Sexuality |
1996 |
0664256465 |
Over this past year, this book has generated a lot of controversy. The author is a knowledgeable scholar as well as a gay man who is one of the few to critique and take a concrete approach to spirituality and ethics in the sexual realm. He connects all forms
of oppression to issues of sexual morality. In doing so, he challenges all of us. For those who think seriously about sex and ethics, it is a must read. |
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Sexual Ethics (religious) |
| Engel, Beverly |
Loving Him Without Losing You: How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself |
2000
2001 |
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Engel speaks to almost every woman, for almost no one has managed to escape the usual relationship "wisdom" in our culture of women "adapting" to meet their men's needs (by hiding accomplishments, giving up interests and friends if he doesn't like them,
etc.). Engels gives us another, healthier way to build relationships, by staying true to our authentic selves. Ironically, this advice which is so contrary to what most of us learned is the only way to have a truly satisfying relationship -- more satisfying for the man as well as the
woman. Numerous exercises throughout the book help the reader discover her patterns, uncover issues from the past and work through them, and discover her authentic self. Engel also gives valuable information on creating a support group, and finding a therapist if necessary. She also
explains Boderline Personality Disorder extensively, offering questionnaires to help a person determine whether they have borderline traits. |
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Relationship Addiction, Codependency |
| Engel, Beverly |
Raising Your Sexual Self-Esteem: How to Feel Better about Your Sexuality and Yourself |
1995
1996 |
0449906744
0449456803 |
Despite our seemingly tolerant, nonjudgmental society, sexual concerns are more widespread than ever before. Not only must we address the AIDS epidemic and other sexually transmitted diseases, but unrealistic expectations about body image, performance, and
ability plague us as well. Add low self-esteem and it becomes impossible to enjoy the intimacy and exhilaration that come from healthy sexual relations with another human being. Renowned psychotherapist Beverly Engel understands the powerful, debilitating effects of low self-esteem and
provides insight into its causes, from unspoken negative messages about sex we received as children, to traumatic first sexual encounters, to sexual abuse. With both authority and compassion, she helps you gain confidence, enjoyment, and pleasure in your life. Here are stories form!
ordinary people from all walks of life, discussing their sexual issues, illuminating the problems that are so universal. here, too, is the solid, positive help they received from Engel, help that has proven successful in her practice time and again. |
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Trauma, Sexual Health |
| Evans, Patricia |
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond |
1996 |
1558505822 |
The Verbally Abusive Relationship is the first book in any language devoted to naming and describing verbally abusive relationships. Readers almost universally experience an awakening-an "ah ha" -- as they are enabled to recognize manipulation and abuse in
different kinds of relationships. The book begins with a self-evaluative questionnaire and a description of the primary patterns of verbal abuse, then describes the feelings and thoughts of the typical partner of a person who indulges in verbal abuse. It then introduces fifteen
categories of verbal abuse, such as accusation and trivializing, and explores the underlying dynamics of verbally abusive relationships. The reader is presented with effective responses to verbal abuse and guidelines for recovery and healing. The expanded edition (1996) includes the
first edition plus the most recent developments in dealing with verbal abuse with information on: working with therapists-getting help in resolving verbal abuse issues and strategic information for the therapist and client; protecting children-how to deal with the impact of verbal abuse
on families; and answers to the questions readers ask most frequently ask about verbal abuse. |
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Family |
| Findling, Rhonda |
Don't Call That Man!: A Survival Guide to Letting Go |
1999 |
0786884274 |
There is life after a failed relationship, as long as you Don't Call That Man! In this inspirational, revolutionary guide to letting go and moving on after the trauma of a breakup, psychotherapist Rhonda Findling teaches women how to triumph over the almost
obsessive urge to pick up the phone. With its prescriptive, easy-to-follow approach, Don't Call That Man! is an indispensable tool for weathering the pain of heartbreak. It features simple exercises that provide an emotional outlet for a difficult process; charts that schedule free time
away from the telephone; and much more, including: moving on from a ruined relationship; what is an ambivalent man, and how do you get over him?; mothers, fathers and men; building and using a support system; and the 10-Step program to not call that man. Step-by-step, from heartache to
healing, Don't Call That Man! is a map on how to heal the pain of a lost love; how to overcome feelings of neediness and desperation; and above all, how to regain focus on what's important and it's not calling that man. It's the perfect book to embrace on the way to a new and more
gratifying relationship. |
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Codependency |
| Fishman, Barbara Miller |
Resonance -- The New Chemistry of Love: Creating a Relationship That Gives You the Intimacy and Independence You've Always Wanted |
1994
1995 |
0062507192
0062507206 |
Resonance is the relationship model for the 90s that balances the scales of power and responsibility in modern-day relationships to create a vital blend of independence and intimacy. Presenting a practical model for modern relationships that provides room for
both individuality and commitment, a groundbreaking psychological study examines the pulsing rhythm of successful life partnerships. This guide for couples offers advice on how to reach desired intimacy levels while maintaining independence, expand the sexual experience beyond gender
roles, avoid common pitfalls, and pursue healthy and genuine relationships. |
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Relationship Health |
| Ford, Debbie |
The Darkside of the Light Chasers: Reclaiming Your Power, Creativity, Brilliance and Dreams |
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Debbie Ford believes that we each hold within us a trace of every human characteristic that exists, the capacity for every human emotion. We are born with the ability to express this entire spectrum of characteristics. But, Ford points out, our families and
our society send us strong messages about which ones are good and bad. So when certain impulses arise, we deny them instead of confronting them, giving them a healthy voice, then letting them go. It is to these feelings that Ford turns our attention, these parts of our selves that don't
fit the personae we have created for the rest of the world. She shows us the effects of living in the dark, of keeping all our supposedly unsavory impulses under wraps. We find ourselves disproportionately frustrated and angry at the selfishness of friends, the laziness of colleagues,
the arrogance of siblings. When we are unable to reconcile similar impulses in ourselves, Ford explains, we waste our own energy judging others instead of empathizing. But most important, we deny ourselves the power and freedom of living authentically. Through the stories and exercises
in The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Debbie Ford shows us not only how to recognize our hidden emotions, but also how to find the gifts they offer us. The very impulses we most fear may be the key to what is lacking in our lives. |
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| Forward, Susan; Buck, Craig |
Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go |
1992
2002 |
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0553381423 |
Is it impossible to let go -- despite the pain? Do you yearn for someone who is not physically or emotionally available to you? Do you believe that if you love him enough he will have to love you? When you feel insecure, does it drive you only to want her
more? Do you find yourself phoning repeatedly or waiting long hours for the phone to ring? Do you wish someone would let go of you? Does an ex-lover or ex-spouse refuse to believe that it's over? Do you receive unwanted phone calls, letters, presents, or visits? Is this pursuit of you
creating so much anxiety that it affects your physical or emotional well-being? In this invaluable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward presents vivid case histories as well as the real-life voices of men and women caught in the grip of obsessive passion. Whether you're an obsessive lover
or the target of such an obsession, here is a proven, step-by-step program that shows you how to recognize the "connection compulsion," what causes it, and how to break its hold on your life so that you can go on to build healthy, lasting, and pain-free relationships. |
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| Fossum, Merle A.; Mason, Marilyn J. |
Facing Shame: Families in Recovery |
1989 |
0393305813 |
Perhaps the best book on families and therapy to come out of the eighties. It broke new ground in understanding shame, addictions in the family and sex addiction. It remains a great resource for anyone wanting to understand these dynamics. |
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Co-Sex Addiction Recovery |
| Freeman, Elisabeth A |
Coming Out of Sexual Addiction |
2001 |
0759654220 |
Are you lying to yourself and to those you love to cover up your secret obsessions? Are you struggling with pornographic images or shameful sexual thoughts? Are you constantly driving to a store, visiting an Internet site, or seeking another place to act out
your secret fantasies? But only to feel shame and regret later? If this is you or someone you love, this book is for you. You will learn: How and where to get help; From experts and recovering addicts how to kick this addiction for good; Simple, basic principles that will aid in your
recovery; and Biblical truths and scriptural accounts to regain sexual purity. |
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| Friel, John C; Friel, Linda D |
Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families |
1988 |
0932194532 |
It is estimated that as many as 34 million people grew up in alcoholic homes. But what about the rest of us? What about families that had no alcoholism, but have perfectionism, workaholism, compulsive overeating, intimacy problems, depression, problems in
expressing feelings, plus all the other personality traits that can produce a family system much like an alcoholic one? Countless millions of us struggle with these kinds of dysfunctions every day, and until very recently we struggled alone. Pulling together both theory and clinical
practice, the two authors provide a readable explanation of what happened to us and how we can rectify it. |
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Co-Sex Addiction Recovery |
| Gallagher, Steve |
At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry |
2000 |
0970220200 |
This book is a thorough and penetrating examination of sexual addiction. It draws back the curtain and exposes the inner workings of sexual sin in the heart, which the author understands, having lived in the bondage of it himself for over twelve years. It
defines sexual addiction as a spiritual problem that requires solutions with spiritual depth. What is presented in this book is firmly rooted in Scripture and always points the man to Jesus Christ as the ultimate answer to his problems. |
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Sexual Sin (religious) |
| Gallagher, Steve |
At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry Workbook |
2000 |
0970220219 |
This workbook is designed to be used directly with At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry. The reader will have to dig for answers, both in At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry and in the Scriptures, helping to cement biblical principles into his heart. Each chapter also
includes questions uniquely tailored for weekly men's groups. Steve Gallagher is the founder and president of Pure Life Ministries, a ministry which helps those who are bound up in habits of sexual sin. |
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Sexual Sin Workbook (religious) |
| Gallagher, Vincent (Vinny) G |
Three Compulsions that Defeat Most Men |
1992 |
1556612753 |
This very practical book helps men recognize the three most common spiritual and emotional pitfalls: workaholism, substance abuse, and sexual compulsions. |
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Sex Addiction, Compulsive Behavior (religious) |
| George, Kenneth D |
Mr. Right Is Out There: The Gay Man's Guide to Finding and Maintaining Love |
2000 |
1555835066 |
This practical and accessible guide to gay romance aims to help men surrender the "Prince Charming fantasy" and learn to find and attract Mr. Right. For men who haven't examined their pasts or the ways in which they typically choose partners, the book may be
as good as six months of therapy. The author provides case scenarios and "assignments" to help bring new ideas home. At the core of the suggested strategies are self-knowledge and self-esteem. "We do not consciously pick lovers who are wrong for us," writes Kenneth George. "Invariably,
there is a good reason for our selection -- an emotional process to be completed, a discovery to be made, a psychological process to be worked through." Chapters like "Being Emotionally Intimate" and "Negotiating and Resolving Differences" may even be of interest to established couples,
particularly the discussion of when to seek counseling and a list of ways to get through a difficult breakup. Less useful is a perfunctory chapter devoted to rekindling passion in a long-term relationship. |
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Gay Relationship Health |
| Gilbert, Laura |
Everything You Need to Know about Compulsive Sexual Behavior |
2001 |
0823932907 |
Defines compulsive sexual behavior in teenagers and how it differs from the norm, discusses how it develops, and presents some of the methods available to treat the problem. |
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Sex Addiction |
| Goodman, Aviel |
Sexual Addition: An Integrated Approach |
1998 |
082366063X |
This enormously detailed book brings together psychoanalytic, biological, behavioral, and social-interpersonal theories relating to sexual addiction within a coherent, closely argued theoretical framework. As the author notes, the etiology of sexual addiction
is best understood through a theory that fully integrates both biological and psychological understandings. Intended for the well-educated reader. |
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Sex Addiction |
| Gorski, Terence T |
Addictive Relationships: Why Love Goes Wrong in Recovery |
1993 |
0830906363 |
In this bestseller, Terry Gorski answers vital questions about intimacy and recovery. What is normal in a love relationship? How do we build healthy, intimate relationships into our recovery program? Using a generous mix of humor and self-disclosure, Gorski
describes different levels at which relationships operate. He explains seven characteristics of addictive intimacy and why they feel so good in the short run and hurt so badly in the long run. He gives hope by describing characteristics of healthy intimacy and provides guidelines for
relationship building and transforming. |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Gorski, Terence T |
Getting Love Right: Learning the Choices of Healthy Intimacy |
1993 |
0671864157 |
It's never too late to learn how to love. When you fall in love you may be repeating bad relationship habits that you learned growing up or in a previous unhealthy relationship. No matter what your history, Getting Love Right can explain how to build and
maintain healthy intimacy, including: how to recognize if you are in a compulsive, apathetic, or healthy relationship; how to become a person who is capable of healthy intimacy; and how to choose a healthy partner. If you are in a relationship or want to be in one, Terence T. Gorski
will teach you that love isn't just something that happens -- love is something you can learn. Self-assessments and questionnaires at the end of each chapter help readers apply the principals and practical skills to their own lives and, by renouncing old patterns, move on toward true,
healthy intimacy. |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Gorski, Terence T |
Relationship Building and Transforming: The Levels of Platonic and Erotic Love |
1993 |
083090638X |
Gorski describes compulsive, healthy and apathetic relationship styles and the five levels of relationship buildingacquaintanceship, companionship, friendship, romantic love, and committed love. He also describes levels of erotic relationships, including
attraction, flirtation, sensual involvement, and sexual involvement. |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Gorski, Terence T |
The Players and Their Personalities: Understanding People Who Get Involved in Addictive Relationships |
1989 |
0830905537 |
This book delves into the co-dependent, counter dependant situations of a relationship. It helps you to understand what is happening between you and your significant other. It explains how one personality feeds upon the other; one personality receives
affirmation from the other. Not necessarily are these affirmations healthy. This book describes two types of personalities that interact in an addictive relationship and their motivation to get involved and stay involved. The information presented here is excellent for use in self-help
discussion groups. |
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Relationship Addiction, Codependency |
| Gottman, John Mordechai; Silver, Nan |
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work |
2000 |
0609805797 |
According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication. Instead, John Gottman, Ph.D., suggests there's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought. He has found through studying
hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five minutes for him to predict -- with 91 percent accuracy -- which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for. Gottman debunks many myths about divorce
(primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty," he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty,
he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman
found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply." Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the
framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening. |
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Rebuilding Relationships |
| Gray, John |
How to Get What You Want -- And Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success |
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2000
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2001 |
006019409X
1402807430
0060932155
076555898X |
Millions of Oprah viewers have witnessed the power of John Gray's healing advice. Now this master therapist takes therapy to the next level, teaching how we can each tap into a joyous approach to living, with his #1 New York Times bestseller. This brilliant
personal success program combines Western healing techniques with Eastern meditation and presents an innovative and proven method to become happy, confident, and at peace through his five steps to personal success: understanding your soul's desire and releasing negative emotions. |
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| Gray, John |
Men, Women, and Relationships: Making Peace With the Opposite Sex |
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From the bestselling author of the blockbuster Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Don't Know comes this enlightening exploration of the common differences between men and women that brings valuable
insights to the workings of male-female relationships. Real love is unconditional. People are different. These are two statements with which most adults would agree. Yet, while recognizing that we are different is an essential part of creating a positive and loving relationship, many of
us are instead intent on changing our partners so that they act and react more like ourselves. According to Dr. Gray, unconditional love is not possible without the recognition and acceptance of our differences. It is only through respecting and even appreciating them that we can
eliminate many of the problems that plague our relationships. Overcoming differences such as those found in how men and women communicate, how they cope with stress and deal with conflict resolution, as well as what it means to each gender to feel loved, is a major step toward giving of
ourselves unconditionally, and achieving happiness and fulfillment in our relationships. Each of us is unique - stop denying it and start celebrating it! It's the very essence not only of a loving and mutually supportive relationship, but of a better world for us all. |
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Intimacy, Communication, Interpersonal Skills |
| Gray, John |
What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know: Advanced Relationship Skills for Better Communication and Lasting Intimacy |
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0061044571 |
In his runaway year-long number one New York Times bestseller, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray showed us how we can improve relationships with the opposite sex by understanding, accepting, and respecting the differences between men and
women and strengthening communication. His insights into gender differences and his practical advice struck a chord with millions of readers and saved many thousands of relationships. Now, in his provocative and important new book, What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father
Didn't Know, Gray answers the questions that our parents could not about relating and communicating with the opposite sex. Times have changed. The old ways of relating, which may have worked for our parents, are definitely out-of-date and sometimes counterproductive. Relationships today
require new skills to achieve lasting fulfillment. Having a husband who brings home a paycheck or a wife who maintains a nice, clean home is no longer enough. John Gray draws upon his extensive work with singles and couples in his seminars to point us in a new direction. He
promises--and delivers--the necessary information for creating and sustaining loving and mutually fulfilling relationships. He offers a new seed that, when planted and watered, will grow into a relationship that is not only loving but lasting. By teaching relationship skills that
address contemporary individuals' and couples' needs, John Gray offers practical ways in which to enjoy and celebrate the differences between men and women in peace and with passion. |
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Relationships, Marriage, Interpersonal Skills |
| Green, Dr. Bernard |
Love Slaves: How to End Your Addiction to Another Person |
1993 |
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Love Addiction |
| Griffin, David Ray (Ed.) |
The Reenchantment of Science: Postmodern Proposals |
1988 |
0887067859
0887067840 |
From the SUNY Series in Constructive Postmodern Thought. A small collection of ten essays on the philosophy of science and religion, including "Postmodern Science and a Postmodern World," "The Laws of Nature as Habits," and "The Postmodern Heresy --
Consciousness as Causal." Includes bibliographies and index. |
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Science and Social Philosophy |
| Griffin-Shelley, Eric |
Adolescent Sex and Love Addicts |
1994 |
0275946819 |
Of those which deal with sex and love addiction, this work is alone in that it examines adolescents as a specific population. It argues that teenagers can be and often are as addicted to sex and love as to drugs and alcohol. The number of case histories
presented in the text are a prominent feature. The work should be of interest to clinicians and clients both. The book addresses the case of adolescent sex and love addicts as was done with adolescent chemical dependents 20 years ago. Topics covered include: abuse, nymphomania,
compulsive masturbation, and child molestation. The book encompasses psychotherapeutic solutions. Suggests methods of diagnosis, treatment and directions for research. |
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Sex and Relationship Addictions |
| Griffin-Shelley, Eric |
Sex and Love: Addiction, Treatment and Recovery |
1991
1997 |
0275937941
027596065X |
The National Institute of Health has identified sexual addiction as a research priority. This volume provides a detailed definition of sex and love addiction as well as an explicit outline of treatment and recovery. It uniquely integrates sex and love in its
formulation and presents a two level approach to recovery. This presentation provides in-depth examples and suggestions for change and supports the growing involvement of Twelve-Step programs in mental health. Professionals will find this volume an excellent resource in their clinical
practice. |
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Sex and Relationship Addictions |
| Griffin-Shelley, Eric (Ed.) |
Outpatient Treatment of Sex and Love Addicts |
1993 |
027594316X |
Based on papers presented at the Annual Conference of the Eastern Psychological Association in New York in April 1991. It addresses diagnostic, neurochemical and treatment issues of sexual compulsivity. It includes a description of an intensive therapy
program, (consisting of psychoeducational groups, same-sex group psychotherapy and 12-Step meetings), designed to treat the sexually addicted patient. |
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Sex and Relationship Addictions |
| Grof, Christina |
The Thirst for Wholeness: Attachment, Addiction, and the Spiritual Path |
1993
1994 |
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0062503154 |
"A provocative reevaluation of addictive behavior that considers it not within the prevalent "disease model," as California-based therapist Grof puts it, but within the context of a universal need for spiritual satisfaction. Grof's understanding of addiction
is firsthand and hard-won: She's a recovering alcoholic and draws on her experience ("The day I hit bottom with my alcoholism, I was brought to my knees") to ground what's sometimes an otherwise heady, theory-laden argument. The heart of the argument is that society's growing tendency
to consider all addiction--as well as the "attachments" (to money, prestige, other people, etc.) that characterize much human behavior--as disease "paints a picture of humanity as being universally sick." Instead, Grof proposes "a wellness model for the understanding and treatment of
addictions." That model -- worked out with reference to spiritual teachings from Hinduism to Jung -- posits that we each consist of two "selves": a "deeper," perhaps divine, self that's our original nature, and a grafted-on "small self," equivalent to the ego. From prenatal days onward,
Grof says, we're pushed by outside, often abusive, forces away from the greater self and into the smaller self. Yet we retain a "craving" for the deeper self, which most of us try to slake through inappropriate means--through the pursuit of wealth, for example, or, in the case of
addicts, through drug highs. Addictive behavior thus springs from a healthy impulse to return to the deeper self -- which, in fact, can be recovered only through spiritual practices. Addicts probably should work with the Twelve Steps, which the author reads as a spiritual blueprint,
though one rife with pitfalls. Grof's two-selves model of human nature is as old as the myth of the Fall; but her application of it to addiction is inspired, well argued, and alight with hope and promise. |
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Addictions, Spirituality |
| Grunder, T. M.; Grunder, Tom M. |
The Skinner Box Effect: Sexual Addiction and Online Pornography |
2000 |
0595093248 |
These are the facts: 1. Among the millions of people on the Internet there exists a significant percentage for which online pornography is not, and never will be, a "recreational pursuit." Rather it is, or soon will become an addiction. 2. Researchers and
clinicians have established that pornography addiction contains all the characteristics of any other kind of addiction: mood altercation, compulsion, dependency, the need for higher and more exotic "doses" and withdrawal symptoms when the person tries to stop. 3. Because of the "Skinner
Box Effect," pornography on the Internet is different and far more virulent than the customary forms. The reason is because it derives its potency from both the content of what is seen, and from the way it is presented to the user by the technology itself. For those suffering from the
problem, Dr. Grundner provides a series of behavioral and spiritual techniques to help stop the downward spiral. Over 30 personal accounts are presented -- taken directly from the Internet itself -- of the pain, suffering, loss of jobs, and failed marriages that have resulted from
online pornography and sexual addiction. The Skinner Box Effect is a warning, but one which contains a large measure of hope. |
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Sex and Pornography Addiction |
| Hall, Laurie Sharlene |
An Affair of the Mind: One Woman's Courageous Battle to Salvage Her Family from the Devastation of Pornography |
1998 |
1561794643 |
Laurie Hall's story reveals pornography's subversive side and offers comfort, encouragement, insight, and a plan of action to women whose husbands are addicted. Sharing the author's story of her courageous struggle to rebuild a family devastated by her
husband's addiction to pornography, this book offers hope and encouragement for women in similar situations. It also helps sexual addicts to see the harm their addiction causes to their families. |
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Co-addiction, Pornography (Christian) |
| Halpern, Howard Marvin |
Finally Getting It Right: From Addictive Love to the Real Thing |
1994 |
0553090038 |
Practical advice by psychotherapist Halpern (How to Break Your Addition to a Person, 1982) on how to end a bad relationship and expand your capacity to have a good one. Halpern's thesis is a simple one: If you are in a good relationship, you will feel better
about yourself and your life. To achieve this "you must give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable available, someone ungiving giving and someone unloving loving." Halpern's common-sense, pop-psych approach is readable and candid. He encourages his readers to
analyze just what it is about themselves that causes them to be attracted to people they should be avoiding. There are plenty of clichés, but for the most part Halpern eschews pat, one-size-fits- all formulas, and he doesn't talk down to his readers or get self- promoting like so many
of his colleagues in this genre. He offers valuable insights into what kinds of romantic expectations are realistic. In a chapter on "Navigating Love's Paradoxes" he shows how the road to a love relationship is "replete with contradictions" -- such as the desire to be independent and
the need to be "dependably connected." Using the how-to format to best advantage, Halpern offers many checklists (including those that test one's capacity to receive love and those that evaluate one's relationship), realistic case histories, and a bibliography that ranges from Sigmund
Freud to Judith Kuriansky. Readers with the guts to pick up this book might well be able to break out of their unhealthy relationships and "finally get it right." |
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Relationship Addiction, Love |
| Halpern, Howard Marvin |
How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When and Why Love Doesn't Work and What to Do About It |
1982
1992
1992 |
0070256276
0553260057
1567310001 |
Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits... and how to find the courage to call it quits. Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but
still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction -- and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you: why you can get
addicted to a person; why and how you may try to deceive yourself ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it."); how you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship; how to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you; why strong feelings
of jealousy do not mean you are "in love;" how to get through the agonizing breakup period -- without going back; and how not to get caught in such a painful relationship again. |
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Separation, Autonomy |
| Harris, Amy Bjork; Harris, Thomas Anthony |
Staying OK |
1985 |
0060153156 |
How to get out from under personal probllems by substituting positive feelings in yourself and encouraging the avoidance of oppressive, negative feelings in your children and others. Explores all the things that get in the way of feeling OK and prescribes
specific tools for overcoming them. |
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Transactional Analysis |
| Harville, Hendrix |
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples |
2001 |
0805068953 |
When Harville Hendrix writes about relationships, he discusses them not just as an educator and a therapist, but as a man who has himself been through a failed marriage. Hendrix felt the sting of his divorce intensely because he believed it signaled not only
his failure as a husband but also his failure as a couples counselor. Investigating why his marriage dissolved led him to start looking into the psychology of love. Marriage, he ultimately discovered, is the "practice of becoming passionate friends." As a result of his research, Hendrix
created a therapy he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. In it, he combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, to name just a few. His purpose in writing the book, he says, is "to share
with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship." Divided into three sections, the book covers "The Unconscious Marriage," which details a marriage in which the remaining
desires and behavior of childhood interfere with the current relationship; "The Conscious Marriage," which shows a marriage that fulfils those childhood needs in a positive manner; and a 10-week "course in relationship therapy," which gives detailed exercises for you and your partner to
follow in order to learn how to replace confrontation and criticism with a healing process of mutual growth and support. |
320 |
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Rebuilding Relationships |
| Hastings, Anne Stirling |
America's Sexual Crisis: Discovering Healthy Sex by Healing Culturally Caused Shame, Addiction, and Sexual Distortion |
1996 |
158741080X |
As America's sexual liberties have increased, sexual problems have also increased. Culturally caused shame, guilt, addiction, and sexual distortion continue to afflict millions. Dr. Anne Stirling Hastings, an innovative psychologist, draws on her own sexual
healing and study of America's sexual crises to provide help and hope for those seeking healthy sexuality. Dr. Hastings confronts our most closely held views of sexuality, such as the belief in a powerful, dominating sex drive, and the perception of monogamy as an ideal to force
ourselves to live up to. The book is a consciousness-raising work for readers who want a new understanding of past distortions and future possibilities of their own sexuality. This book will be a welcome guide for mental health professionals, sex educators, and anyone who is looking for
a viable alternative to our culture's inaccurate views of sex. |
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Sexual Recovery, Shame |
| Hastings, Anne Stirling |
Body and Soul: Sexuality on the Brink of Change |
1996 |
0306454009 |
Virtually all Americans are sexual cripples because of our culture's deep-rooted belief that sexuality is sinful, an attitude transmitted by parents through shaming in childhood, declares clinical psychologist Hastings. In this earnest, opinionated and not
altogether convincing study supported by case material from her practice in Bellevue, Wash., she sets a high standard for monogamy, arguing that sexual bonding is by nature exclusive, and that if both partners are fully engaged in their relationship, neither person will have carnal
interest in anyone else. Hastings places rejection of the body in Western societies on a continuum of cultural distortions that encompasses female circumcision in Africa and child prostitution in Thailand. American's stigmatization of homosexuality, she asserts, multiplies the effects
of sexual shaming, because each of us has the potential for same-sex attraction, even if we don't act upon it. Sexual repression, she believes, induces people to find an outlet in erotic addictions, whether in the form of extramarital affairs, pornography or compulsive flirting. Calling
sexual fantasizing a sickness, she excoriates sex guru Ruth Westheimer for advising people to use pornographic pictures, movies and books to arouse sexual energy. |
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Shame, Sexuality |
| Hastings, Anne Stirling |
Discovering Sexuality that will Satisfy You Both: When Couples Want Differing Amounts and Different Kinds of Sex |
1993
2000 |
0963789112
1587410222 |
Anne Stirling Hastings' books help understand what we can do in order to discover what kind of sex is possible and healthy. We can love our spouses, and that sex can SEEM so ordinary -- yet it is vastly better than the addictive/compulsive type. The passion
that can occur with little physical stimulation is of a different nature than what we get when having sex watching pornography or in a conquest. This book is for anyone who really wants to find out what sex was meant to be; what it can be. Shame is greatly reduced. This book is a
wonderful paradigm shift on the subject of sex. The commercial standard that sex is portrayed in our society is revealed for what it is. The reader is faced with the choice to continue in that frustrating vein or open the mind to the possibilities of resusitating the natural sexuality
that is in of us all. |
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Sex Addiction, Intimacy |
| Hastings, Anne Stirling |
From Generation to Generation: Understanding Sexual Attraction to Children |
1994
2000 |
0963789147
1587410214 |
Dr. Hastings gently speaks the unspeakable. For all of us who were sexually abused as children, this book helps us understand why. For those of us adults that have gone on to be sexual with children, Dr. Hastings helps us tackle our deep shame and secrecy.
Required reading for all healing from society's betrayal of the child. Dr. Hastings deals with women who are sexual with children. The least known and harshest treated. She objectively debunks the myth that "sex offenders" can be treated by just tackling the now issues. Sex addiction,
including that to children, has to be dealt with holistically. Focusing just on so-called "deviant" behavior just moves the problem elsewhere. |
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Pedophilis, Sexual Abuse Victims |
| Hastings, Anne Stirling |
Reclaiming Healthy Sexual Energy: Keeping Sex from Controlling Your Life |
1991
2000 |
1558741178
1587410230 |
We live in a culture that is out of touch spiritually -- we aren't aware of our physical bodies, our relationships or our place in the ecology of the earth. Sexuality is one facet of our spiritual nature. It has suffered abuse as deeply as any of our other
spiritual dimensions. Reclaiming Healthy Sexual Energy author Dr. Anne Stirling Hastings is concerned that sexuality has been repressed and our bodies have been shamed for so long that our sexual behavior is often addictive and distorted. Until we can reclaim our sexual energy in a
healthy way, we are lost in a morass of misinformation about other people, our children's needs, our community and the physical earth. Using examples of body awareness and visualizations, she suggests ways to reclaim our innocent, healthy sexual energy and become catalysts for change in
our society. |
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Sexuality, Dependency |
| Hastings, Anne Stirling |
Treating Sexual Shame: A New Map for Overcoming Dysfunction, Abuse and Addiction |
1997 |
0765701030 |
In therapy, as in the world at large, sexuality is different from other issues because of the culturally imposed secrecy and shame that inhibit open, non-defended talk about it. Anne Stirling Hastings, Ph.D., who specializes in treating the overlapping sexual
problems of abuse, addiction, and dysfunction, encourages clinicians to recognize and overcome their own shame as a precondition to eliciting and advancing their clients' awareness. The need to heal from sexual shame, both cultural and idiosyncratic, underlies the healing of all other
forms of sexual distress, dysfunction, abuse, and addiction. In people inhibited from experiencing natural interest in/arousal by a partner, shame makes imperatives of fantasy and pornography and leads to the linkage of sex with things non-sexual. Masturbation, homosexuality, the
unconventional paraphilias, here dubbed "cross-wirings," and the dynamics of flirtations, jealousy, and extramarital affairs, all get a new look through Dr. Hastings' lens of shame as concomitant cause and effect of sexual behaviors. Case histories animate her salutary and unusually
accessible corrective. |
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Sex Therapy, Shame |
| Hatterer, Lawrence J |
The Pleasure Addicts: The Addictive Process -- Food, Sex, Drugs, Alcohol, Work and More |
1980 |
0498022854 |
Dr Lawrence Hatterer is a New York psychiatrist, a noted expert in the field of high risk and addictive behaviors encompassing sex, drugs, alcohol, food, work and gambling, and he also specializes in the fields of human sexuality and integrity. Most people
associate addiction with chemical substances like drugs and alcohol, but the same mechanism is at work in sex addiction and it is as old as history. Initially all the addictive behaviours are pleasurable. By the time the person is burned out... they move into the stage of the addictive
process that has more pain than pleasure. |
387 |
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Compulsive Behavior |
| Hayes, Jody; Redl, Maureen |
Smart Love: Changing Painful Patterns, Choosing Healthy Relationships: A Codependence Recovery Program Based on Relationship Addiction Support Groups |
1989 |
0874774721 |
The founder of the first WWLTM support group in San Francisco offers a do-it-yourself program full of questionnaires, quotations, exercises, and proven tools that assist in recovering from addictive or otherwise negative relationship patterns. The book also
includes first-person accounts from women who have met the challenges of moving through each stage of recovery. |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Helmlinger, Trudy |
After You've Said Goodbye: How To Recover After Ending a Relationship: Learning How to Stand Alone |
1977
1977
1982
1982 |
0870737910
0846702142
0932370357
0932370365 |
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Grief |
| Hemfelt, Robert; Minirth, Frank; Meier, Paul |
Love Is a Choice: The Groundbreaking Book on Recovery for Codependent Relationships |
1989
1989
1996 |
0840771711
0840731892
0785275304 |
Let the doctors of the Minirth-Meier Clinic walk you through their ten proven stages of recovery from co-dependency, introducing a new dimension: the important stage of seeing God's unconditional love as the answer to your deepest emotional needs. You may be
dependent upon alcohol or drugs, money, work, food, or sexuality for happiness -- or maybe you love someone who is. This national bestseller offers a recovery process to codependency that will help you discover the power of healthy relationships. Excellent resource for recovery groups
in your church. |
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Codependency |
| Hemfelt, Robert; Minirth, Frank; Meier, Paul; Newman, Deborah; Newman, Brian |
Love Is a Choice Workbook: Recovery for Codependent Relationships |
1989 |
0840733372 |
Let the doctors of the Minirth-Meier Clinic counsel you directly, using their proven interactive techniques, through the Love Is a Choice Workbook. This workbook is based on the recovery principles found in the bestseller, Love Is a Choice. Love Is a Choice
Workbook defines the Minirth-Meier Clinic's ten-stage plan and guides you through the plan using interactive questions, self-tests, exercise, and journaling that will help you find healing from the pain that created your codependency. This workbook helps readers to step back and examine
their lives and then effectively deal with their codependency at their own pace. The book can be used independently, or with Love Is a Choice, to help you break the cycle of codependency and be free to make new choices... free to choose love. |
282 |
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Workbook, Codependency |
| Hooper, Anne |
Sex: The Manual |
2001 |
1841660647 |
A different kind of book about sex by one of the best-known authors in the business. People have made a fetish out of sex. Somewhere along the line, the idea evolved that sex should be done in private and that public sex is unacceptable. In fact the
prohibitions around sex go much further, prescribing how sex should be done, what constitutes 'good sex' and what makes for sexual failure. This manual is designed to start readers thinking about their sexual attitudes, specifically about the unconscious ideas they possess regarding
what is right and wrong, so that they can progress to, at least, contemplating other approaches. By doing so they may be able to see that their present sexual situation has value of its own, even if by generally accepted measurements it seems distressing. But the book seeks to go
further than making readers feel better. By bringing a more creative attitude to sexual relationships, people may discover that they can tackle a number of sexual difficulties that previously proved intransigent. This is not a 'how-to' sex manual in the mechanical tradition although
some 'how-to' is included. Each section works on specific aspects of sex by introducing ideas about how they can be regarded differently. By re-framing ideas, attitudes towards sex can be calmed sufficiently for personal strengths and values to emerge from the all-too-common fog of
stress and unhappiness. |
160 |
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Sexual Health |
| Hopkins, Nancy Myer; Laaser, Mark (Ed.) |
Restoring the Soul of a Church: Reconciling Congregations Wounded by Clergy Sexual Misconduct |
1995
1998 |
0814623336
1566991641 |
This book reflects over a decade of experience in working with wounded congregations by a task force of key professionals. The Interfaith Sexual Trauma Institute has commissioned this pastoral work which focuses on the healing of congregations following
clergy sexual misconduct. The book discusses the original problem of sexual misconduct and exploitation and then focuses on those neglected "secondary" victims of abuse: the congregation, the wider community, other clergy, the wider church, the offender's family, and the pastor who
takes over. |
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Sex and Religion |
| Hunt, Jane |
Hope and Help for Sexual Addiction: Biblical Counseling |
2001 |
0971179239 |
Too many people-men, women and teenagers in epidemic proportions-are shackled to the shame of sexual addiction. And a large percentage feel they are caught in a web and are too entrapped to get out. But for those who are trapped within the sinister net of
this web, there is hope. Biblically based counseling to help those entrapped in sexual addictions. |
80 |
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Sex Addiction (Christian) |
| Hunter, Mic |
Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse |
1991 |
0449906299 |
Mic Hunter has made many contributions to both the addiction and trauma fields. This is one of the very best books available about men and sexual abuse. Useful for both patients and therapists. The sexual abuse of boys is a problem that has remained veiled in
myth and misinformation. While the sexual abuse of female children has been widely documented, there are lingering assumptions that the sexual abuse of male children is rare, that the consequences are less serious than for girls, and even that boys share responsibility with their
perpetrators. Psychologist Mic Hunter explodes these myths and offers an overview of the recovery process. After defining exactly what sexual abuse is, Hunter examines the physical and emotional impact of abuse on its victims, and the factors affecting adult recovery. Loaded with
stories of adult men and their loved ones who describe the experience of childhood abuse, this book helps survivors find the hope and strength to recover and lead fulfilled adult lives. |
339 |
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Trauma |
| Hunter, Mic |
When Someone You Love is Addicted to Sex: The First Step |
2000 |
158741094X |
Written by Dr. Mic Hunter, a nationally recognized sex therapist, and Jem, a recovering co-dependent in love with someone addicted to sex, this is a guide to the tragic life of individuals addicted to sex and their partners who struggle with it. The book
explains in a compassionate and understanding way how difficult it is to break this addiction, and offers hope to co-dependents that love someone addicted to sex. |
114 |
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Co-addiction |
| Irons, Richard; Schneider, Jennifer P |
The Wounded Healer: Addiction-sensitive Approach to the Sexually Exploitative Professional |
1999 |
1568217633 |
Professionals are as human as those they serve. Sexual relationships and other improprieties occur between doctors, ministers, or therapists and their patients, parishioners, or clients. Virtually all such "romances" are destructive, not only for the
protagonists but for their families. This book helps clinicians understand and treat the professional who has had sexual contact with a patient or client. Over half of these wounded healers have sexual disorders with addictive features, and fully one-third are addicted to alcohol and/or
other drugs. This has clear implications for treatment and re-entry into professional work. Assessment and treatment of the victim are also addressed, with the assurance that healing does eventually come to most of those touched by this painful and unfortunate situation |
272 |
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Sex Addiction Treatment, Sexually Abused Patients |
| Isensee, Rik |
Reclaiming Your Life: The Gay Man's Guide to Love, Self-Acceptance, and Trust |
1997 |
1555834221 |
This book was formerly titled Growing Up Gay in a Dysfunctional Family: a Guide for Gay Men Reclaiming Their Lives and is the best title out there for understanding and recovering from an abusive gay relationship dynamic. Growing up in a homophobic culture
can be very similar to growing up in a dysfunctional family -- because of secretiveness, shame, and self-blame associated with homosexuality. Some gay men internalize the negativity that surrounds them and get caught in a trap of self-destructive behavior. Some also develop a false self
as a defense against attacks on self-esteem. With the weight of both personal insight and professional experience, Isensee gently shows readers how to safely get out of that trap. Clearly and compassionately written, Reclaiming Your Life will encourage many men to abandon
self-destructive behavior in order to move toward creating their lives with self-acceptance, love, and trust in a supportive community. Using remarkably jargon-free language, Isensee presents a systematic process of recovery for gay men, helping them to identify internalized oppression
so that they can reclaim their lives. |
242 |
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Gay Relationship Health |
| J., Ron |
Impossible Joy: The Good News for Lust and Sex Addicts and Other Sinners |
1999 |
0961483113 |
Impossible Joy chronicles the author's journey through sex addiction and 23 years of 12 Step recovery. From a religious "believism," which did not work, to a personal encounter with the One who really does loose from the power of lust and cleanse. Gives
readers a Scripturally sound basis for making their own saving Connection. What emerges is a real Jesus for "For Sinners Only," a new view of the humanity of the Son of man put in practical terms, promising not only sobriety but joyous recovery and freedom: fulfillment of what the Steps
prepare the way for -- finding what our lust was really looking for. |
276 |
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Sex Addiction (religious) |
| James, Jennifer |
Addicted to Love: Facts About Sexual Addictions |
1999 |
0892302232 |
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Sex Addiction |
| Jamison, Heather |
Reclaiming Intimacy: Overcoming the Consequences of Premarital Relationships |
2001 |
0825429404 |
An estimated 80% of married Americans were not virgins when they were married. Although our culture would have us believe differently, sex outside of marriage leaves a residue of guilt and resentment that leads to the smothering of current and future
relationships. Even if the couple marries, the foundations of marriage of trust and authentic intimacy are seriously damaged. The author, Heather Jamison, and her husband, Brian, discovered these truths the hard way and their greatest desire is to see that no one else waits as long as
they did to confront their history together. Reclaiming Intimacy is a personal, practical story of the pursuit of intimacy; it's destruction; and the keys to nurturing that intimacy back to health. This book gives both a model for others struggling with this issue and practical plan to
forgive, repent... and ultimately to reclaim lost intimacy. |
176 |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Jordan, Paul; Paul, Margaret |
Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?: [For Couples Who Want Their Love To Last] |
1983
1983
1994
1997
2002 |
0896380637
0896380645
1568380682
1567310672
1568387962 |
Being in love with your partner feels wonderful! But when conflict arises, unfortunately the euphoria soon disappears. Your mate may not be in the mood to talk when you are. Maybe you argue about sex or spending money. These things are very upsetting! Now,
instead of love, you feel anger, disappointment, or hurt. Here, in this widely acclaimed best seller, couples can learn how to work through conflict in ways that create more love and intimacy, not less. The paths through conflict are illustrated in chart form and then explained in
detail. Other chapters relate the fears and false beliefs that act as obstacles to loving feelings. In addition, a whole section of exercises is provided for couples to explore together their feelings and beliefs about values, power struggles, sexual expectations, etc. Recommended
highly by marriage therapists and religious groups across the country, this book has become a classic text for couples who want the richness and depth of lifetime love relationships. |
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Couple Recovery |
| Jordan, Paul; Paul, Margaret |
Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?: The Workbook |
1989
1992
2002 |
0896382656
1568380518
1568387970 |
This is a companion workbook to the 1983 bestseller "How To Love When It Hurts So Bad," designed to help couples explore their personal feelings and attitudes as they work to achieve a deeper more fulfilling marriage. Highly recommend, this comprehensive and
valuable book helps those who are seeking a deeper understanding of themselves and who wish to change their responses to the people in their lives through the use of practical, workable, everday methods. |
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Couple Recovery |
| Kasl, Charlotte Davis |
Many Roads, One Journey: Moving Beyond the Twelve Steps |
1992 |
0060965185 |
A timely and controversial second look at 12-step programs, helping all readers to draw on the steps' underlying wisdom, adapting them to their own experiences, beliefs, and sources of strength. This book is a major contribution to the understanding and
healing of sex addiction, romance addiction, and sexual codependency in women. It is full of wisdom and insight, shedding light on what happens to women in our society, how they survive it, and some roads to self-respect. |
430 |
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Compulsive Behavior, Codependency, 12-Steps |
| Kasl, Charlotte Davis |
Women, Sex and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power |
1989
1990 |
0899195199
0060973218 |
A breakthrough guide to help women understand sexual addiction, romance addiction and sexual codependency and to lead them to recovery. Women will learn to experience their sexuality as a source of love and positive power, and sex as an expression that honors
the soul as well as the body. In our society, sex can easily become the price many women pay for love and the illusion of security. A woman who seeks a sense of personal power and an escape from pain may use sex and romance as a way to feel in control, just as an alcoholic uses alcohol;
but sex never satisfies her longing for love and self-worth. In this wise and compassionate book, Charlotte Kasl shows women how they can learn to experience their sexuality as a source for love and positive power and sex as an expression that honors the soul as well as the body. |
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Relationship Addiction, Codependency |
| Kellogg, Terry |
Broken Toys Broken Dreams: Understanding and Healing Codependency, Compulsive Behaviors and Family |
1990 |
1560730013 |
This is the first book that really looks candidly at the problems that individuals face when they are codependent. Throughout the book, Terry Kellogg refuses to excuse or deny behaviors while connecting with the multifacets of this problem. Helpful for
changing behaviors, and participating more fully, naturally, and wisely in life. Easy language and clearly written. |
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Codependency Recovery |
| Kipnis, Aaron; Herron, Elizabeth |
What Women and Men Really Want: Creating Deeper Understanding and Love in Our Relationships |
1995 |
1882591240 |
What Women and Men Really Want tells the story of a week long, encounter between a group of women and men. In this account of a groundbreaking summit meeting of the sexes Dr. Kipnis and Elizabeth Herron guide the participants toward mutual respect,
understanding and compassion. Through a series of adventures and encounters, the participants learn how to communicate the potent depths of anger, fear, grief, love and appreciation between women and men. They also discover a way to create a map for peace between the sexes, a vision in
which women and men can recognize and respect both their genuine differences and shared challenges. Weaving together dialogues from the participants' discussions along with the latest ideas about differences between the sexes, Kipnis and Herron present a detailed and surprisingly
optimistic portrait of the potential for communication and personal growth between women and men, growth that celebrates diversity, rather than condemning it. Provocative, fresh and powerful, What Women and Men Really Want begins a new era of understanding and partnership between the
sexes. |
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Relationship Health |
| Kirshenbaum, Mira |
Our Love is Too Good to Feel So Bad: A Step-by-step Guide to Identifying and Eliminating the Love Killers in Your Relationship |
1998 |
0380976080 |
A guide to diagnosing what's wrong in a relationship and how to make it better again. Through 14 years of research into the ways couples solve individual problems, psychotherapist and bestselling author Mira Kirshenbaum has identified 10 love killers that
cause all the painful and mysterious troubles couples get into. Using specific questions, this book shows how to diagnose and identify the love killer responsible for a couples' specific problems. For every love killer, this book presents a corresponding love builder: a solution that
can help heal a relationship and make love better than ever. |
318 |
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Relationships, Interpersonal Skills |
| Kirshenbaum, Mira |
Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay: A Step-by-step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship |
1996
1997 |
0525940693
0452275350 |
How bad does a relationship have to be before getting out is the only answer? In this book, psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of experience as a counselor -- and includes actual case studies -- to lead readers from a state of painful ambivalence
to a clear sense of knowing what to do. A careful line of questions and self-analysis, taking one crucial issue after another into account, is designed to get to the heart of relationship problems. The book doesn't try to pigeon-hole people into groups, or take sides, or give only one
answer. Mira Kirshenbaum is a very fair and well-informed person, and she counsels, suggests, and advises, rather than trying to give clear-cut answers to the myriad of problems that arise in relationships. The reader is encouraged to list the good and bad aspects of their particular
situation, to discuss, to work on it. The key to the success of a relationship, or to possibly salvaging one on the brink, is to work and communicate. |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Kirshenbaum, Mira |
Women and Love |
1999
2000
2001 |
0380976943
0380802228
0788198572 |
Kirshenbaum, a psychotherapist, challenges modern women to get as much from their love lives as from their careers. She calls her book "a handbook of the heart," and the advice is fairly commonsensical: don't change anything in your life (e.g., apartment or
job) until you feel sure of the relationship. She advises readers on how to judge a good prospective mate, maintain a satisfying relationship, and break up a bad one. From interviews with clients, she offers a variety of perspectives on what love means to different women. Kirshenbaum
examines patterns in the women's relationships to detect faulty assumptions and attitudes to determine how to make changes that lead to better relationships and a better self-image. She offers diagnoses and prescriptions for each of her subjects. |
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Love |
| Klausner, Mary Ann; Hasselbring, Bobbie |
Aching for Love: The Sexual Drama of the Adult Child: Healing Strategies for Women |
1990 |
0062504827 |
This book explores the after effects of child sexual abuse. It's impact depends on: duration and frequency of abuse; type of sexual activity; use of force and aggression; age at onset; age, gender, and relationship to abuser; passive submission or will
participation of the child; direct or indirect telling with no support; parental reaction; and institutional response. It also explores how the survivor is effected emotionally, physically, in relationships problems, sexually, and behaviorally. |
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Sexual Health |
| Knauer, Sandra; Knauer, Sandy |
Recovering from Sexual Abuse, Addictions and Compulsive Behaviors: "Numb" Survivors |
2002 |
0789014572
0789014580 |
Pt. I The Development of Addictive and Compulsive Behaviors -- Ch. 1 The Need for Anesthesia; Ch. 2 The Nature of Addiction, Compulsion, and the Trance State: An Addict's Limited Range of Dysfunctional Choices; Ch. 3 Family-of-Origin Issues: How the Stage Is
Set for Addictions and Compulsions; Ch. 4 Feeling "Less Than"; Ch. 5 Life Through Gray-Colored Lenses; Ch. 6 Fear As a Catalyst for Addictive Behaviors; Ch. 7 Violence As an Outgrowth of Shame, Fear, and Depression; Ch. 8 Drugs and Alcohol As Anesthesia; Ch. 9 Weight Issues, Eating
Disorders, and Disturbed Body Image As Anesthesia; Ch. 10 Codependency As an Addiction; Ch. 11 Sexual Addiction and Sexual Codependency; Ch. 12 Religious Addiction versus Spirituality; Ch. 13 Assorted Addictions and Compulsions Commonly Seen in Survivors; Ch. 14 Switching Addictions.
Pt. II The Recovery Process -- Ch. 15 Establishing Healthy Boundaries; Ch. 16 Addictions As a Spiritual Issue; Ch. 17 Using the Twelve Steps for Healing from Sexual Abuse, Addictions, and Compulsive Behaviors. Appendices: Letters from the Survivors' Groups; Support Groups and Resources;
Bibliography; Index. |
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Compulsive Behavior, Sexual Abuse Victims, Self-esteem |
| Kominars, Sheppard B; Kominars, Kathryn D |
Accepting Ourselves and Others: A Journey into Recovery from Addictive and Compulsive Behavior for Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals |
1996 |
1568381204 |
This inspiring and supportive book is aimed at helping the estimated 10 million addicts and alcoholics in the gay, lesbian, and bisexual communities of the 90s who struggle to maintain long term recovery. First published in 1989, Accepting Ourselves was the
first book to address the problems and needs of substance abusers in the homosexual community. Now, the fully revised and expanded edition, Accepting Ourselves and Others, examines the issue of recovery as it affects the homosexual and bisexual communities of the '90s, as well as their
friends, family, and therapists. This book puts it all together in one place: how sexual identity issues affect compulsive and addictive behaviors and ways to recover from such destructive activity. |
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GLBT addictions |
| L, Edward |
How to Stay Away from Lust One Day at a Time: New Thought and Sex Addicts: A Bible Interpretation |
1997 |
1890316008
1890316016
1890316024
1890316032 |
The author made an excellent beginning in Volume 1. This first volume, however, did not answer the question of whether or not people with problems of sexual addiction would benefit by joining a group of others who are also using the twelve steps toward
healing in this area. This was answered with the publication of the subsequent volumes, in which he mentions his participation in Sexaholics Anonymous. ... there has been a felt need by many in the New Thought field to give renewed emphasis to the development of good character, and an
elevation of moral and ethical standards. This new series not only discusses purity and lust as alternatives, with opposite results, but also in the broadest sense emphasizes the close correlation between character and consciousness. It would, indeed, be the heights of folly to consider
character and consciousness as existing in isolation from each other. Author Edward L. writes profoundly, but simply, making it easy to understand and receive enlightenment. The series provides a spiritual awakening to anyone whose life is affected by compulsive sexual behavior and is
searching for ways to deal with it. These books are highly recommended for all New Thought ministers, teachers, counselors, andpractitioners, and also for individuals who have sex problems and are seeking the way to overcome them. In addition, it has been found that addictions of every
kind manifest a common pattern, whether the addictions involves alcohol, cocaine, gambling, or compulsive sexual activity. Thus, any person who is involved in a twelve-step program will benefit from using this series. |
four volume set |
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Meditations, Sex Addict |
| Laaser, Mark R |
The Secret Sin: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction |
1992 |
0310549116 |
This book approaches sex addiction and recovery from a Biblical perspective. Dr. Laaser traces its roots in families and in culture; shows how sex addiction can poison the lives of pastors and lay people alike; and describes a Twelve Step program for
treatment and recovery. The book is enriched by Mark's personal observations as a clergyman familiar with recovery issues. |
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Sex Addiction and Rehabilitation (religious) |
| Laaser, Mark R (Machen, Eli; Smalley, Gary) |
Faithful and True: Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World |
1996 |
031020836X
0805498192 |
This is the same book as the 1992 version titled "The Secret Sin." Most Christians are quick to link sexual integrity with holiness. Clean thoughts and actions are important to God and to us. Yet for many, maintaining a wholesome, biblical sexuality seems
hopelessly beyond reach. Such people's deeply ingrained patterns of thought and behavior keep them stuck on a treadmill of sin, even as they long for a walk of purity. Faithful and True offers a path that leads beyond compulsive thoughts and behaviors toward sexual integrity and
self-control. Sensitive to the shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Mark Laaser: -- traces the roots of sexual addiction in families and in culture -- shows how sexual sin poisons the lives of pastors and laypeople alike -- provides a complete 12-step program
for treatment and recovery from sexual addiction. You may be the spouse, pastor, family member, or friend of someone with a sexual addiction. Of you yourself may struggle with urges you've not been able to overcome. Regardless, hope and help are at hand. Faithful and True steers you
over the rocky but navigable road to understanding, wholeness, and holiness. |
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Sex Addiction and Rehabilitation (religious) |
| Larkin, Joan |
If You Want What We Have: Sponsorship Meditations |
1998 |
1568381921 |
Based on the developing relationship of a person in Twelve Step recovery and his or her sponsor during the course of a year, these beautifully written meditations speak eloquently to a full range of questions -- practical and spiritual, simple and complex --
that arise in early recovery. These down-to-earth exchanges mirror the daily give and take of conversations between two recovering people. Day by day, "If You Want What We Have" takes up the practical and spiritual questions that arise in early recovery. In its honesty, clarity, depth,
and direction, this "conversation" will serve as a trusty companion and guide on the shared journey from fear and resistance to faith and commitment. |
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Meditations, 12-Step |
| Larsen, Earnie (Earnest) |
Stage II Relationships: Love Beyond Addiction |
1987 |
0062548085 |
Offers clear and practical techniques for couples and families who have faced the issue of addiction and are now striving to bring health and vitality to their relationships. In this helpful book, Larsen offers a plethora of techniques designed for couples
and families who have faced the issue of addiction and are now striving to make their relationships more vital and healthy. Although small, the book packs a wollup. Good reading for love addicts, new couples, couples who have been together for years, or even a single person looking to
get into a healthy relationship. |
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Relationship Health |
| Lee, John H |
The Flying Boy Book II: The Journey Continues |
1991 |
1558741801 |
While this book stands on its own and can be easily read without having read John's first national best-seller, The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man, it does pick up where this emotionally moving book leaves off. This book is about the fears of intimacy,
abandonment and commitment and how to overcome them. It also answers the questions thousands have asked, "What ever happened to Laurel?" "What is John's relationship with his father like after having confronted him?" "When is there going to be a book written for Flying Girls (women who
can't commit)?" This book answers all those questions and more. It combines John's experience, strength and hope with insights gained from years of working with men's groups, Adult Children and his own work in 12-Step programs. It's also the first book that unites the men's movement
(Flying Boy I is a staple of the movement) with the recovery movement. It will help anyone who reads it to identify an addictive relationship and see that adults can't be abandoned. |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Lee, John H |
The Flying Boy Book III: Stepping Into the Mystery: For Sons, Lovers, Mothers, and Wives |
1997 |
0965443612 |
The Flying Boy III: Stepping Into the Mystery is the third volume of The Flying Boy and can be read either in context with the other volumes or it holds its own as a book of incredible insight into the relationships of men. This third book explores the coming
home, the return to earth of the flying boy and his acknowledgement of certain fears of relationships. Coming back to earth also means returning to the mother, where relationships ultimately begin. Join John as he takes the reader into the mystery of relationships, not as a master, but
as a perpetual student sharing his journey. This is truly a book that touches the heart of both men AND women! |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Lee, John H |
The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man: Why Men Run From Relationships |
1987
1989 |
1558740066
058510154X |
This best-selling book is a record of one man's journey to find his "true masculinity" and his way out of co-dependent and addictive relationships. It's a book for all men and women who grew up in dysfunctional families and are now ready for some fresh
insights into their past and their pain. The Flying Boy is a story about feelings -- losing them, finding them and finally expressing them. Here you will find people you know; will discover a great deal of your own anger, hurt and sadness; and will also discover a way out of the pain
and see that it really is O.K. to express yourself without fear. The book is also about grieving, a very misunderstood process often confused with self-pity. The Flying Boy opens doors to understanding -- men will understand themselves and each other, and women will more deeply
understand men, learn how to be with wounded men and still take care of themselves. |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Lee, John Hancock |
I Don't Want to be Alone: For Men and Women Who Want to Heal Addictive Relationships |
1990 |
1558740651 |
John Lee is nationally recognized as a leader in the fields of codependency, adult children, and addiction recovery. This book is for men and women who want to heal addictive relationships. Intimate relationships -- hardly any are without flaws. But serious
problems arise when a person continues in a relationship that is making him or her miserable. A co-dependent will endure almost anything to stay in a relationship, even at the expense of health and happiness. Learn from this book how you can free yourself to have happy, healthy, lasting
relationships |
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Relationship Addiction, Loneliness |
| Lee, St. George T |
Light in the Darkness: A Guide to Recovery: A Physician Talks Openly about His Own Addiction to Sex |
2000 |
0967988101 |
St. George T. Lee lived a double life. Most knew him as a respected cardiologist, church leader, and apparently devoted family man. But there was a darker side. He suffered from compulsive sexual behavior, resulting in numerous passes and affairs over a
20-year period. In 1996, after being reported to the hospital administration for making yet another pass at an employee, he entered a treatment program. He lost his hospital privileges and eventually his career. Light in the Darkness is his inspiring, personal, and candid account of
recovery that shows the amazing effects of faith, perseverance, and love. His candid story offers hope and inspiration to others affected by addictive behaviors of any kind. Guide and dictionary both describe this educational and revealing biographical and resource book. Dr. Lee began
as a well-schooled popular cardiologist, with typical family and community ties. His descent to paralyzing impairment with sexual addiction is the basis for this work. Physicians damaged finally bring themselves or are brought to help. This may take the form of medical society or
licensure sponsored impaired physicians programs, or other professional programs. This book starts with a brief chronology of what happened in Dr. Lee's life. The rest of the book segments into alphabetical chapters to facilitate looking up the many terms used in addiction problems.
Each discussion then details the meaning and use of the term with editorial comments appended. A good bibliography and appendix are affixed to the end and complement the rest of the text. Certainly reading this book helps us understand another psychological land mine. We can perhaps
help others and ourselves with these proper tools. |
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Sex Addiction, Biography |
| Leonard, Linda Schierse |
The Wounded Woman: Healing the Father-Daughter Relationship |
1982
1983
1985
1998 |
0804003971
0394721837
0877732450
1570624199 |
The success of Wounded Woman -- almost 250,000 copies sold -- proves the effectiveness of its approach. Linda Leonard believes a father wounded in his psychological development cannot often give his daughter the care and guidance she needs. Using examples
from her own life and her work with clients, as well as dreams, fairy tales, myths, films, and literature, Leonard charts paths toward psychological transformation and a fruitful, caring relationship between men and women, fathers and daughters -- one that honors both the mutuality and
the uniqueness of the sexes. |
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Fathers and Daughters, Femininity |
| Lerner, Harriet Goldhor |
Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Paterns of Intimate Relationships |
1985
1985
1997 |
0060154683
0060913568
006091565X |
"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it
entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of our anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. She shows women how to turn
anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. |
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Anger, Interpersonal Relations |
| Lerner, Harriet Goldhor |
The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships |
1989
1990 |
0060160675
006091646X |
In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged
-- by distance, intensity, or pain -- she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate
relationships that both women and men may ever encounter. |
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Intimacy, Interpersonal Relations, Change |
| Levin, Jerome David |
Clinton Syndrome: The President and the Self-Destructive Nature of Sexual Addiction |
1998 |
076151628X |
Author Jerome Levin has written a dozen books dealing mostly with alcoholism and drug addiction and treatment. Dr. Levin is an expert on addictions and the psychological forces that fuel them. His professional knowledge, combined with a good deal of research
on Clinton's life, make his "speculative" case compelling and convincing. Clinton's stormy childhood has been acknowledged, but Levin is the first to trace cause and effect, and to try to penetrate Clinton's psyche -- the place, of course, where the Lewinsky scandal sprang from. Levin
pieces together past and present, and makes a compelling case for sexual addiction and unconscious trauma. Levin needs a writer, however, to craft his argument into a more convincing and fleshed out whole. A voyeuristic psychological profile of a political figure is a treacherous
endeavor, especially considering the moral miasma that political scandals wade in. And Levin's conventional and informal prose do not do his subject, or his professional knowledge and experience, justice. But if you realize that Levin is a psychologist, and not a writer, you will be
rewarded with a much needed and convincing portrait of our President as a psychological being. |
258 |
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Sex Addiction |
| Levine, Janice R; Markman, Howard (J); Gottman, John M |
Why Do Fools Fall in Love?: Experiencing the Magic, Mystery, and Meaning of Successful Relationships |
2000 |
0787958670
0787953849 |
Relationship experts can tell us how to find a mate, save our marriage, or improve our sex life, but their advice is meaningless unless we can experience and master that underlying, magical, incredibly powerful emotion that binds us together no matter what.
Thirty-two marriage and family experts set aside their professional personae to explain the wild and wonderful, irrational and passionate mystery of love. Written with simplicity and warmth, this book ultimately illuminates a deep and compassionate vision of what constitutes truly happy
long-term relationships. Also included are pearls of wit and wisdom from celebrity couples. This book will be cherished by all couples (and aspiring couples) who want to understand and energize that transformative power of love. Experts and celebrities unravel the mysteries and secrets
of passionate, long-lasting love. This book will be of significant interest to all whose work involves them in marriage counseling as well as to individuals dealing with problems in their own marriages. More than thirty essays by professionals present sensitive and realistic analyses of
the joys and challenges of married life. |
240 |
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Relationship Health |
| Lloyd, Roseann; Fossum, Merle |
True Selves: Twelve-Step Recovery from Codependency |
1991 |
0894867652
0062553356 |
These authors first describe and then seek to offer a solution for codependency. They believe that codependents have lost their true selves and have stopped living for themselves. They offer advice, based on the twelve step program, on how to regain the self
and begin living for yourself rather than for others. This reassuring and comforting guide helps define the boundaries between self and others and promotes the self-love and the self-care that are crucial ro recovering from codependency. |
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Codependency |
| Love, Patricia |
Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to Do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life |
1991 |
055335275X |
Do these "endearments" sound familiar to you? "Of all my children, I expect the most of you."=[I've selected you to be the one to make my life worth living.] "You've never caused me a minute of trouble."=[Ignore your own needs, I can't handle them.] "You're
the only one who truly understands me."=[I would be totally alone if it weren't for you.] If so, you may have been a "Chosen Child," seemingly the focus of loving and devoted parents, but in reality a child walking a psychological tightrope -- learning early on to deny your own needs in
order to meet the emotional needs of a parent. Today, there is a name for this devastating and increasingly common form of child abuse: emotional incest. Here, Dr. Patricia Love offers adults real hope -- and help in overcoming the hurtful legacy of being a Chosen Child. Based on proven
therapeutic techniques and using real-life case histories, her total program of recovery will help you: identify the telltale signs of emotional incest; confront your parents -- and your past -- with love and understanding; disentangle your life from theirs -- even if your parents are
no longer alive; and create a positive relationship with your parents -- and your own children. Filled with hope and compassion, "The Emotional Incest Syndrome" is a life transforming guide to health and healing for all Chosen Children and the people who love the. |
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Family |
| Lubetkin, Barry; Oumano, Elena |
Bailing Out: The Sane Way to Get Out of a Doomed Relationship and Survive With Hope and Self-Respect [The Healthy Way to Get Out of a Bad Relationship and Survive] |
1991
1993 |
0130569461
0671869019 |
This book gives you the tools which will lead you to ultimate acceptance and freedom... from your toxic relationship. The authors are candid that it takes cognitive-behavioral work to heal yourself, and that it takes more than overnight. They offer excellent
advice about how to prevent repeating the tragedy of ill-chosen mates, helping you to understand a better way to love, to live, to breath, to be happy, and to recover your integrity, your physical health, and your emotional health. |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Lusterman, Don-David |
Infidelity: A Survival Guide |
1998 |
1572240873 |
Don-David Lusterman, a psychologist practicing in Baldwin, New York, believes that couples who work hard can save their marriages following an affair: "People often find that once infidelity is discovered and its aftereffects are behind them, their
relationship is stronger than before, and subsequent infidelity is unlikely." This isn't true only of married couples -- Lusterman points out that people in long-term, committed relationships, whether straight or gay, face the same devastating emotions and have to go through a similar
rebuilding process if they want to remain together after one has strayed. Whether or not a troubled couple chooses to stay together, Lusterman says the best outcome is when both partners experience changes and new insights into their lives. He provides several case studies in which
couples began to regain their trust through new communication, and instructs on the kind of feelings-expressing language that can help. (He also provides a section on finding a good therapist.) This book will help people on either side of an affair begin to understand what's going on,
and help them find the resources they need to continue that quest. |
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Affairs |
| Maltz, Wendy |
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Revised Edition - Quill Pub.) |
1991
2001 |
0060166614
0060959649 |
Survivors of sexual abuse are encouraged to achieve loving and safe sexual lives once again by going through, step-by-step, a most challenging aspect of recovery. Based on Matz's clinical work, interviews, survey results, and workshops, this guide if filled
with first-person accounts of survivors and includes groundbreaking exercises and techniques. |
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Sexual Abuse Victims |
| Maltz, Wendy; Holman, Beverly |
Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing |
1986
1988 |
0669140856
066914083X |
In this compassionate, accessible, and comprehensive book, Maltz takes survivors step-by-step through one of the most challenging aspects of their recovery from sexual abuse. Based on Maltz's clinical work, this book includes groundbreaking exercises and
techniques for survivors to work on alone or with their partners. |
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Trauma |
| Marsh, Christina |
He Danced Alone |
2001 |
0759627754 |
A compassionate exploration into the heart and mind of a sex/love addict. Humorous. Inspirational. Shocking. It is the definitive work for understanding sexual/romantically compulsive behavior. He Danced Alone is an expose into the heart and mind of the
sexual/love addict. A true story, it confronts the misconceptions of sexual addiction, while compassionately exposing the reader to both the horror of the addict's life and the pain and confusion experienced by those caught in his web. This book discusses the progressive nature of
sexual/love addiction; its devastating consequences to friends and family; and finally, a full, introspective battle to recover. Beginning with Jonathan at the age of 24, nearing the "beginning of the end", He Danced Alone lays the foundation for how Jonathan's life had become consumed
with sexual thoughts and behaviors. It then returns to his youth, laying the foundation for his "secret life" -- apart from an otherwise "all-american boy" image. After progressing to the point of rape fantasies and a suicidal climax, Jonathan is forced to expose the roots of his
abnormal behavior during a prolonged stay at a psychiatric facility. |
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Sex and Romance Addiction |
| Marsh, Jonathan |
When Twelve Steps Aren't Enough: A Self-Managed Recovery Workbook |
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Jonathan Marsh's ground-breaking workbook provides a comprehensive look into sexual addiction and recovery that goes beyond the traditional Twelve Step and psychoanalysis philosophies and provides an excellent foundation for self-managing compulsive sexual
and/or romantic behavior. The underlying theme is simple: addiction is a rather basic process involving an individual's ability to comfort themselves by manipulating the underlying chemical processes that manage emotion and comfort. Be that through sex, relationships, gambling, alcohol,
food or whatever. When the pattern of addiction, or the use of compulsive behavior to regulate one's feelings has taken root in a person's life, these destructive patterns can be permanently eliminated by a series of exercises including self-awareness, personal values and a fundamental
understanding of the addictive process. Jonathan Marsh, himself a "recovered sexual addict" for the past thirteen years, has written this book to work with his self-managed recovery program. It provides you with a step-by-step guide to help you not only overcome these destructive
patterns, but to teach you to teach yourself how to replace those patterns with the healthy, satisfying life that you choose. The ultimate goal is not to get you to stop the behavior and become a lifelong "recovering addict," but to stop the patterns that led to the behavior, replace
those patterns with the lifestyle of your choosing, and then for you to become you. The type of person you know yourself to be, with the type of values that you hold dear. [I can only find this book available at www.understandingsexualaddiction.org] |
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Sex and Romance Addiction, Workbook |
| May, Gerald G |
Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addictions |
1991 |
0060655372 |
Here is Gerald May's brilliant and now classic exploration of the psychology and physiology of addiction. It offers an inspiring and hope-filled vision for those who desire to explore the mystery of who and what they really are. May examines the "processes of
attachment" that lead to addiction and describes the relationship between addiction and spiritual awareness. He also details the various addictions from which we can suffer, not only to substances like alcohol and drugs, but to work, sex, performance, responsibility, and intimacy.
Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist working with the chemically dependent, May emphasizes that addiction represents an attempt to assert complete control over our lives. Addiction and Grace is a compassionate and wise treatment of a topic of major concern in these most addictive
of times, one that can provide a critical yet hopeful guide to a place of freedom based on contemplative spirituality. |
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Recovery (religious) |
| Mayer Ph.D., Eve R. |
Let's Stay Lovers in the New Millennium |
2000 |
0967118735 |
Eve Mayer practices group, individual and couples therapy in Scottsdale, Arizona and specializes in relationship issues. In her book, she explains that a selfish partner can destroy a love relationship. Her knowledge of couple dynamics is impressive, and the
book is very readable and soundly based in theory. |
101 |
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Relationship Recovery |
| McGraw, Phillip C |
Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner |
2000 |
0786866314 |
Dr. Phil McGraw, whose first book, Life Strategies, was a number one New York Times national bestseller, now turns his expertise to the primary area of concern troubling most people: their relationships. In his tell-it-like-it-is style that already has had an
impact on millions of viewers of The Oprah Winfrey Show, Dr. Phil blows the whistle on the rhetoric of traditional "couples therapy." Instead he tells you at the very beginning that no matter what state your relationship is in, not only are you responsible for it, you are responsible
for rescuing it. McGraw explodes the ten most popular myths about good relationships and provides a series of fascinating exercises that allow for a step-by-step process for you to reconnect with your partner. This is a transformative book that not only will put you back on track with
your partner, but you'll know that you are back on track with yourself. |
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Rebuilding Relationships |
| McGraw, Phillip C |
The Relationship Rescue Workbook |
2000 |
0786886048 |
Ever since Relationship Rescue became an instant number one New York Times hardcover bestseller, Phil McGraws audiences have been asking for a workbook to help them apply his strategies for change to their relationships. Now, in The Relationship Rescue
Workbook, Dr. Phil, Oprah's resident expert on human functioning, provides questions, exercises and self-tests that will enable couples in even the most troubled relationships to get their love lives back on track. And for those in solid relationships who would like to regain their
spark, he reveals how to make that happen. He shows readers exactly how to pinpoint problems in their relationships, and how to make sure that the changes they enact will truly last. His straightforward, tell-it-like-it-is advice is made crystal clear in this easy-to-use workbook that
is sure to prove immensely popular with his devoted national following. |
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Rebuilding Relationships |
| Means, Marsha |
Living With Your Husband's Secret Wars |
1999 |
0800757106 |
This is a must read for every woman who has a husband struggling with sexual addictions. In these pages is a compassionate portrayal of these women, and she offers some how tos in dealing with their husbands and their private devastations. Any woman whose
life has been shattered by her husbands secrets will find courage and strength in the pages of this helpful book. Consider it your instruction manual to putting the pieces of your life back together. It offers specific, proactive steps for the journey toward wholeness for women who have
discovered their spouse is involved in sexual sin-whether it's lust, pornography, infidelity, or some other behavior. Learn how to find the support you need, hope and healing, grieve the losses of sexual betrayal and focus on your own spiritual growth, so you can begin the process of
forgiveness and moving on -- whatever the outcome of your marriage. |
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Co-addiction |
| Means, Patrick A |
Men's Secret Wars |
1996
1999 |
080071721X
0800757173 |
In this book, Patrick Means goes to the trenches, where battles with workaholism, substance abuse, sexual addiction, pornography, and extramarital affairs are fought. They are often reluctant to seek help, and find their battles difficult to win because of
baggage from the past and pressures in the present. Believing the best defense is a good offense, he helps men recognize the "at risk" factors that precede the development of a secret life. Means candidly tells how he lost his own secret war and includes dramatic stories of other men
who have fought similar battles. He provides tested strategies for defeating the habits and secrets that threaten men's private lives, including how to embrace the biblical paradox of finding strength in weakness, defend your marriage against outside attacks, effectively confront your
dark side, and live in a more balanced way. |
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Recovery (religious) |
| Mellody, Pia; Miller, Andrea W(ells); Miller, J Keith |
Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself The Power To Change the Way You Love: The Love Connection to Codependence |
1992 |
0062506048 |
Offering clear, comforting advice on the best ways to develop healthy love relationships, Mellody describes the dynamics of a coaddicted relationship, and the stages of addiction -- from attraction and fantasy to denial and obsession. It sets out to describe
the pattern of addictive relationships observed by the author over a period of many years working in the field (Mellody is a consultant at the internationally renowned Meadows treatment centre) and goes on to give concrete suggestions for breaking the cycle of love addiction. The two
most commonly found participants in a co-addicted relationship are described as the Love Addict (usually, but not always, female) and the Avoidant Addict (usually, but not always, male). Due, generally, to childhood abandonment, Love Addicts are very needy, which appeals to the
caretaker Avoidant Addict, who will probably have had the converse experience of being unhealthily enmeshed with a parent. As the Love Addict becomes more dependent on her partner, the Avoidant's fear of being overwhelmed and enmeshed is triggered, and he backs away, in turn triggering
the Love Addict's deep fear of being abandoned. The withdrawal experienced by the Love Addict often sucks the Avoidant back in, as he responds to her evident distress with reactions of guilt or his own fear of abandonment, and the cycle begins anew. Mellody's central argument is that
both Love Addicts and Avoidant Addicts have core codependency issues which must be addressed if they are to recover and learn to have healthy relationships. Her suggestions for taking care of oneself and developing firmer boundaries are very useful and easy to understand -- a practical
recovery process based on Twelve-Step work, exercises, and journaling. |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Mellody, Pia; Miller, Andrea Wells |
Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence |
1989 |
0062505904 |
This should be a companion to Facing Codependence by the same author. In her pioneering Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody traced the origins of codependence back to childhood and a wide range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses.
Now in this innovative new workbook, she presents a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by
Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence -- the lack of dependence on self. In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood
history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater
self-awareness and further recovery. |
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Workbook, Codependency |
| Mellody, Pia; Miller, Andrea Wells; Miller, J Keith |
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives |
1989 |
0062505890 |
Following the phenomena of Codependent No More (by Melody Beattie), here is a brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction. Some things said simply
are more powerful thanks to their simplicity. This book provides a forceful, unflinching description of how people who are raised in a dysfunctional or abusive environment often sabotage and cripple their lives. There are four main sections to the book. The first section details what
she sees as the core symptoms of codependency: difficulty experiencing appropriate levels of self-esteem, difficulty setting functional boundaries, difficulty owning and expressing one's own reality, difficulty taking care of one's adult needs and wants, and difficulty behaving
moderately. The second section details how dysfunctional family can push a child (whom Mellody describes as inherently valuable, vulnerable, imperfect, dependent, and immature) into codependency. The third section describes the many kinds of abuse (most of which are not obviously
traumatizing on first review) that can push an individual, particularly a child toward codependency. And the last section provides a very preliminary road map to healing codependency: the first step she argues is an awareness of one's codependent state, and second step is a desire to
change. |
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Codependency |
| Milkman, Harvey B; Sunderwirth, Stanley G |
Craving For Ectasy: The Chemistry and Consciousness of Escape [1987/1989]: How our Passions Become Addictions and What We Can Do About Them [1998] |
1987
1989
1998 |
0669123374
0669152811
0787941328 |
This is the classic in understanding the neurochemistry of addictions. Did you know that the brain can produce its own addictive "mind-altering" substances? Or that the "high" from sex or skydiving has a great deal in common with what heroin addicts feel when
they shoot up -- and may be just as addictive? Or that many of us may be genetically susceptible to addiction? These are among the many surprises found within this fascinating and highly readable guide. In clear, everyday language, two scientific researchers show why addictive behavior
goes far beyond the compulsive use of drugs, tobacco, and alcohol. They demystify the biology, chemistry, sociology and psychology of the universal desire for ecstasy, illustrating with vivid case examples the influences that lead to dependency. They also show what we can do to regain
control of our lives, providing self-evaluation tests and a comprehensive guide for recognizing, treating, and preventing addiction. |
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Compulsive Behavior |
| Miller, Alice |
For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence |
1983
1990
1990 |
0374157502
0374518599
0374522693 |
Alice Miller has written landmark books in the field of therapy and trauma. She is internationally acclaimed for her work on culture and violence. This should be required reading for therapists, and is a really important book for those who have been battered,
whether as adults or children. Miller, a Swiss psychoanalyst, argues that children's characters are not formed by birth traumas, separation, or their infantile sexuality but by the humiliation and degradation children experience from parents. Robbed of their will, they split off the
anger they are not allowed to feel and project it against others. An analysis of child-rearing literature illustrates how the "poisonous pedagogy" is created. The lives of a German addict/prostitute, of Adolf Hitler, and of a child murderer are used to illustrate how the anger is
revisited on the self or others. The book was first published in Germany in1980 under the title "Am Anfang war Erziehung." |
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Trauma, Abuse |
| Miller, Dusty; Guidry, Laurie |
Addictions and Trauma Recovery: Healing the Body, Mind, and Spirit |
2001 |
0393703681 |
A recovery model for use in conjunction with 12-step programs or on its own. Dusty Miller's treatment model for addiction and self-injury, outlined in the best-selling Women Who Hurt Themselves, has been expanded in this new work to include the physical and
spiritual impact of trauma. This how-to manual introduces new ways of thinking about self-care, self-soothing, and self-expression. This book describes a recovery model for groups and individuals. Incorporating psycho-educational, process, and expressive activities, the model involves a
12-week program covering core problems with trauma and addiction. Chapters describe individual sessions and suggest specific techniques to use every week. They focus on issues like trauma re-enactment, emotional expression, dysregulated anger, cultivating courage, intimacy, community,
and hope. Miller and Guidry are both clinical psychologists. It offers a fundamental framework for planning and implementing an individual or group 'Addiction and Trauma Recovery Integration Model' (ATRIUM). Introduces innovative ways of thinking about self-care, and self-expression,
and builds a quintessential bridge between addiction and trauma. |
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Trauma, Abuse |
| Miller, J Keith |
A Hunger For Healing Workbook: A Companion to Hunger For Healing: The Twelve Steps as a Classic Model For Christian Spiritual Growth |
1992 |
0060657219 |
A practical, exercise-filled companion to "A Hunger for Healing" that puts into practice the Christian principles of healing and growth. For many thousands of people, the Twelve Steps have become the spiritual discipline for a new decade, a way to turn to God
and begin a pilgrimage toward wholeness as well as a journey out of addiction. Relating each of the Steps to biblical teaching, J. Keith Miller takes the reader inside the Steps, actually working through each one. Each section of this book begins with one of the Twelve Steps, followed
by a biblical quote that touches upon the theme, a suggested reading in "A Hunger for Healing", and a concise explanation of the Step and how it relates to spiritual growth. Built on solid biblical principles, the exercises and inventories provided will promote introspection,
reflection, and action -- a clear pathway out of compulsion and pain into a world of serenity and healthy interaction with God and others. Step by Step, this life-transforming program helps readers to: acknowledge their need for God's healing power; surrender to God's care; let God
remove character defects; reconcile themselves with God and others; use prayer to enrich the life of the spirit; and heal broken lives and relationships. |
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12-Steps, Christianity, Workbook |
| Miller, J Keith |
A Hunger For Healing: The Twelve Steps as a Classic Model For Christian Spiritual Growth |
1991
1992 |
0060657162
0060657677 |
Praised as "the best work that I know to forge the natural integration of Christian doctrine and practice (and the) Twelve-Step programs" (M. Scott Peck), here is Miller's highly praised guide. Writing with warmth and conviction, Miller shows readers a way
out of compulsion and pain into a world of serenity and healthy interaction. The book goes through the steps in a very pedagogic way from a spiritual perspective covering problems related to all kinds of problems of addiction and sin. Problems you can have even after you recovered from
your primary disease. In the end of every chapter and step Keith Miller gives you questions to work with. He also covers aspects of sponsorship and problems with drawing lines/boundaries towards others. In doing so he clearly talks from his own experiences as an recovered workaholic and
sinner. |
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12-Steps, Christianity |
| Miller, J Keith (Bradshaw, John - foreword) |
Compelled To Control: Recovering Intimacy in Broken Relationships |
1997 |
1558744614 |
This exciting book breaks new ground in identifying the major cause of relationship failure as the need to control -- in marriages and families, with friends and within organizations. Compelled to Control reflects Miller's sweeping knowledge as a thinker, a
speakers and a writer. Going far beyond "how to control a controller," Miller speaks from the perspective of experience and personal change. "When a controller has the sense of life being out of control," he says, "he or she reacts with an even stronger need to 'get things under
control'... usually with the negative result of alienating the people who matter the most." Miller tackles this deeply denied, seemingly universal phenomenon with compassion and offers a way out of the dilemma. He tells you to approach broken relationships in new ways, leaving behind
destructive patterns of perfectionism and self-justification. Keith miller is one of those rare writers who can combine intellectual acuity with deeply felt insight born of his own struggle for authenticity. Compelled to Control is an impressive contribution to the literature of
recovery and personal change. |
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Couple Recovery |
| Miller, Joy |
Addictive Relationships: Reclaiming Your Boundaries |
1989 |
1558740031 |
Dedicated to the claiming of your own personal boundaries, this book deals with our addictive or destructive relationships not only centered around our spouse or lover, but also around our children, our friends or our parents. If we have lost ourselves along
the way, we have probably given ourselves away. This book examines where we are, where we want to go and how to get there. We will move addictive loving styles to find the true love of ourselves and reclaim our selfhood. This is a positive step-by-step process for recovery using
affirmations and exercises for inner growth. |
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Boundaries |
| Millman, Dan |
Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Basically True Story [1980]: A Book That Changes Lives [1984/2000] |
1980
1980
1984
2000 |
0312909519
0874771218
0915811006
0915811898 |
A recovery classic, written in novel form. It is one of the most helpful metaphors for developing balance and perspective. During his junior year at the University of California, Dan Millman first stumbled upon his mentor (nicknamed Socrates) at an all-night
gas station. At the time, Millman hoped to become a world-champion gymnast. "To survive the lessons ahead, you're going to need far more energy than ever before," Socrates warned him that night. "You must cleanse your body of tension, free your mind of stagnant knowledge, and open your
heart to the energy of true emotion." From there, the unpredictable Socrates proceeded to teach Millman the "way of the peaceful warrior." At first Socrates shattered every preconceived notion that Millman had about academics, athletics, and achievement. But eventually Millman stopped
resisting the lessons, and began to try on a whole new ideology -- one that valued being conscious over being smart, and strength in spirit over strength in body. Although the character of the cigarette-smoking Socrates seems like a fictional, modern-day Merlin, Millman asserts that he
is based on an actual person. Certain male readers especially appreciate the coming-of-age theme, the haunting love story with the elusive woman Joy, and the challenging of Western beliefs about masculine power and success. |
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Spiritual Life |
| Muller, Wayne |
Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantages of a Painful Childhood |
1992
1993 |
0671761196
0671797840 |
A gentle, entirely new approach to uncovering a source of spiritual strength hidden in the scars of childhood. Wayne Muller brings together the teachings of many different religions and spiritual traditions in a healing program that will appeal to readers of
"The Road Less Traveled" and "Homecoming." Contends that childhood pain can be the source of happiness and includes a twelve-step outline to help adult children of troubled families heal childhood wounds that are prohibiting happiness in adulthood. In this book the author outlines
twelve distinct manifestations of childhood sorrow; lingering wounds that express themselves as points of tension between our emotional history and our spiritual unfolding. Each chapter begins by examining the shape of a particular childhood wound, and reveals how the scar from that
wound affects our emotional and spiritual life. It includes teachings from Christian, Budhist, Hebrew, Sufi, Hindu, and Native American traditions that describe these same points of tensions as doorways of the spirit. |
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Meditations, Spiritual Exercises, Consolation |
| Nakken, Crain |
The Addictive Personality: [Understanding Compulsion in Our Lives]: Understanding the Addictive Process and Compulsive Behavior |
1988
1996 |
0062554883
1568381298 |
Nakken shows how our understanding of addictive behavior and compulsivity is critical to our understanding of ourselves and our relationships with some of life's fundamentals -- food, drink, love, sex, and money. Nakken covers genetic factors tied to
addiction, cultural influence on addictive behavior, the progressive nature of the disease, and steps to a successful recovery. Going beyond a former definition that limited addiction primarily to the realm of alcohol and other drugs, this book uncovers the common denominator of all
addiction as it brings to light the emotional isolation, shame, and despair in which addicts live. Nakken examines how addictions begin and how they progress, as well as how our society often encourages addictive behavior. |
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Multiple Addictions |
| Nelson, James Bruce |
Between Two Gardens: Reflections on Sexuality and Religious Experience |
1983 |
0829806814 |
Theologian and ethicist James Nelson seeks to stimulate a further reexamination of human sexuality and the Christian experience. Traditionally, the relationship between religion and sexuality has reflected this one-dimensional question: what does faith say
about human sexuality? Nelson, however, takes a different tack and asks more pertinently: what does sexuality say about faith -- theology, scripture, tradition, and the meaning of the gospel? With this more existential perpective in mind, he explores a wide range of sexual and medical
issues. Nelson discusses: men's and women's liberation; sexuality in Jewish, Catholic, and Protestant interpretations; religious and moral questions of professionals working with homosexual counselees; singleness of the church; the family; and attitudes toward abortion. Reflecting on
these topics, he writes out of a healthy conviction that the process of integrating human sexuality and the life of faith is an important journey. |
208 |
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Sex (religious) |
| Noland, Jane T; Williamson, P (editors) |
Other Voices, Other Scripts: Daily Readings for All Who Are Healing From Compulsive Sexual Behavior |
1990 |
0896382265 |
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Meditations |
| Norwood, Robin |
Daily Meditations for Women Who Love Too Much |
1997 |
087477876X |
The best-selling author of Women Who Love Too Much offers an inspirational collection of meditations, one for each day of the year, that share a message of support, personal fulfillment, and self-esteem. Robin Norwood revolutionized the way we look at love,
with a compassionate, intimate book offering a recovery program for women who love too much -- women who are attracted to troubled men, who neglect their own interests and friends, and who are unable to leave tormented relationships for fear of being "empty without him." Norwood now
enhances the practical wisdom of that book with years' worth of deep reflection and study. The result is a series of daily meditations that promote sane loving and serene living no matter what is -- or isn't -- happening in your personal life. Illuminated by Richard Torregrossa's
humorous yet sensitive pen-and-ink drawings, each page of this book stimulates awareness, offers guidance, and fosters inner growth. |
384 |
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Meditations, Relationship Addiction, Love |
| Norwood, Robin |
Letters from Women Who Love Too Much: A Closer Look at Relationship Addiction and Recovery |
1987
1989 |
0671661566
0671661558 |
This book is very informative about relationships and reasons you are drawn to the same kind of person you have spent so much time trying to recreate into the likness you need . |
352 |
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Relationship Addiction, Love |
| Norwood, Robin |
Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change |
1985
1991 |
0874773555
0671733419 |
Why do so many women become obsessed with the wrong men -- men who are emotionally unavailable, abusive, addicted to work, alcohol, or other women, men who cannot love them back? Robin Norwood helps these women recognize, understand and change the way they
love. Through a series of intimate, revealing case histories, she offers women a way out that works. The book explains how we actually get addicted to pain and chaos, and why we choose the types of men we do, and why we're terrified to lose even a disastrous relationship. It also looks
at how we hide the truth from ourselves and why. If you fit the description of a woman whose childhood was shredded by the pain of a highly dysfunctional family, and now you keep landing in one unhealthy relationship after another with men, this book will definitely help you. As Robin
Norwood so beautifully points out, with this type of love addiction, your future is sure to be painful no matter what. But it can either be the temporary pain associated with dealing with your problems and your subsequent recovery, or it can be the same kind of pain you've got now,
magnified over years and years. Identifying your problem is the first step in solving it. This book will help you do that. |
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Relationship Addiction, Love |
| Nouwen, Henri J M |
Reaching Out: The Three Movements of the Spiritual Life |
1985 |
0385236824 |
With clarity and deep spiritual insight, the author of The Return of the Prodigal Son offers a perceptive, inspirational three-step plan for living a spiritual life and achieving union with God in this religious bestseller. |
165 |
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Spiritual Life |
| Nouwen, Henri J M |
The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming |
1992
1994
1995 |
0385418671
0385473079
0826408702 |
A meditation on the parable of the prodigal son's return -- a powerful drama of fatherhood, filial duty, rivalry, and anger between brothers. (The 1992 book was titled "The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Meditation on Fathers, Brothers, and Sons." This book is
a spiritual adventure story. A chance encounter with a poster depicting a detail of Rembrandt's The Return of the Prodigal Son set in motion a chain of events that enabled Nouwen to redefine and claim his vocation late in his life. In this book, which interweaves elements of art
history, memoir, Midrash, and self-help, Nouwen brings the parable to life with empathic analyses of each character. Nouwen's absorption in the story (and the painting) is so complete that the father's challenge to love the son, and the son's challenge to receive that love, become
Nouwen's own. And Nouwen's writing is so clear and his tone is so appealingly frank and humble that readers--no matter how far from home -- will find hope for themselves in the prodigal peace Nouwen ultimately achieves. |
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Spiritual Life |
| O'Neil, Mike |
Power To Choose: Twelve Steps To Wholeness |
1991 |
0963345400 |
Mike O'niel's book/workbook is a thorough approach to "working the steps." He guides the reader through a series of questions that, if answered honestly, reveal a true picture of one's issues, and then through more questions and responses, allow for healing.
Obviously written by one who has wrestled with adiction, the text pulls no punches, but is insightful and affords many answers for those who have lost their "power to choose." Mike O'Neil combines the collective wisdom of Alcoholics Anonymous with the reality of Jesus Christ as the
power who has the power in bringing you this street savvy, often humorous workbook. It is like having your personal sponsor (mentor) to help you gain peace with God, peace with self, and peace with others. |
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12-Steps (religious) |
| O'Neil, Mike; Newbold (Jr.), Charles E |
Boundary Power: How I Treat You, How I Let You Treat Me, How I Treat Myself |
1995 |
0963345427 |
You can open a whole new way of successfully dealing with life's challenges by answering the questions and acting on the information that you learn in each chapter of "Boundayr Power." You can take charge of your life, strengthen your character, expand your
freedom, and improve your marriage and other personal relationships by learning how to set personal boundaries in your life. The book includes: clear definitions of boundaries as they relate to you relationally, spiritually, physically, sexually, and emotionally; where you learn
boundaries, the different kinds of boundaries, and the types of people with boundary problems; key questions to help you discover your own boundary problems; exercises that will help you resolve the losses associated with abuses; and excercises that help you to set clear, healthy
boundaries in all your relationships. |
181 |
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Interpersona Relations, Boundaries (religious) |
| Peabody, Susan |
Addicted to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships |
1989
1994 |
0890872945
0890877157 |
Obsession, abusive relationships, fear of being alone, unrequited love... these can combine to turn our natural need for love into a nightmare of dependency. Exposes many forms love addiction may take (fatal attraction vs. Casanova behavior, for example),
then outlines the warning signs of addiction and provides a step-by-step recovery program for love addicts desiring happy, healthy relationships. Susan Peabody, herself a recovering love addict, has helped thousands to recover from this life-threatening condition through workshops and
her first edition of 'Addiction to Love.' |
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Codependency |
| Peck, M[organ] Scott |
Further Along the Road Less Traveled: The Unending Journey Toward Spiritual Growth |
1993
1997
1994
1994
1997 |
0671781596
0684850168
0802726828
0671892886
068484723X |
In the 15 years since The Road Less Traveled was first published, M. Scott Peck has addressed audiences around the world. Their questions -- and Peck's own self-questioning -- were the seeds of this book. Focusing his attention on urgent matters of personal
and spiritual growth, Peck offers provocative insights into blame and forgiveness, self-love versus self-esteem, the mystery of death, the illusion of romantic love, and more. Megawriter Peck, whose The Road Less Traveled continues as a smash bestseller more than a decade after
publication, weighs in with additional down-to-earth counsel on psychological and religious matters, based this time on his talks and lectures. Peck's orientation is specifically Christian now, a result of a conversion and baptism that took place after Road appeared. Here, he addresses
three stages of personal development: growing up; knowing yourself; and "in search of a personal God" -- explaining that all three entail the recognition that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth. This process of maturation brings with it classic
psychospiritual issues -- such as the casting of blame, the meaning of death, and the mystery of existence. Peck examines each with his trademark blend of friendly chat, tough advice, first-person experience (often drawn from his psychiatric practice), and literary citations. Chapters
hop unexpectedly from one subject to another (presumably reflecting the various lectures): addiction, which he sees as a yearning for paradise; the New Age, castigated for promoting "spiritual confusion" and ignoring the problem of evil; the stages of spiritual growth, from
"chaotic/antisocial" to "mystical/communal;" Christian heresies; the danger of cults (Peck provides useful guidelines for recognizing fringe sects); and so on. The bottom line is our relation to God: Life's meaning -- which Peck urges the psychiatric profession to take into account --
lies in the growth of the soul. This is what Peck's zillions of fans have been waiting for, more sage Road talk from the master. |
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Self-Actualization, Interpersonal Relations, Spiritual Life |
| Peck, M[organ] Scott |
People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil |
1983
1997 |
0671454927
0684848597 |
So compelling in its exploration of the human psyche, it's as hard to put down as a thriller... such a force of energy, intensity, and straightforwarness. Scott Peck is a psychiatrist turned author and lecturer. His name is a household word with the self-help
crowd. In People of the Lie, Peck takes on the topic of evil. The"volume" cited is not an abridgment but a group of case studies from the first chapters of the book, along with commentary. The presentations are consistently well done. Peck reads with a soft, yet strong voice that is
both self-assured and reassuring. In the first of a three-volume series, the psychiatrist uses case studies to reveal how evil exists in human behavior and explains how evil individuals can wreak havoc on the lives of people around them. Includes bibliographical references. |
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Psychology, Religion |
| Peck, M[organ] Scott |
The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth |
1978
1978
1986
1995
1997
2002 |
0671250671
0671240862
0802724981
1568491581
0684847248
0743238257 |
By melding love, science, and religion into a primer on personal growth, M. Scott Peck launched his highly successful writing and lecturing career with this book. Even to this day, Peck remains at the forefront of spiritual psychology as a result of The Road
Less Traveled. In the era of I'm OK, You're OK, Peck was courageous enough to suggest that "life is difficult" and personal growth is a "complex, arduous and lifelong task." His willingness to expose his own life stories as well as to share the intimate stories of his anonymous therapy
clients creates a compelling and heartfelt narrative. Confronting and solving problems is a painful process, which most of us attempt to avoid. Drawing heavily upon his own professional experience, Dr. M. Scott Peck, a practicing psychiatrist, suggests ways in which confronting and
resolving our problems can enable us to reach a higher level of self-understanding |
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Self-Actualization, Interpersonal Relations, Love, Spirituality |
| Peele, Stanton; Brodsky, Archie |
Love and Addiction |
1975
thru
1995 |
0800850416
0451127455
0451134478
0451148606
0451155386
0800850416 |
[The preface, introduction, and first four of eleven chapters of this book are online at http://www.peele.net/lib/laa.html] Peele's "Love and Addiction" is concise, eye-opening and, in light of how the problems he documents in American society have only been
geometrically exacerbated in the twenty-five years since it was published, a disturbing self-help book. It effectively removes the veil covering the sad connection between diametrically opposed (and mutually ineffective) views on politics, religion, sex and sexual freedoms, romance,
family, marriage, relationships, crimes of all kinds and the spectre/epidemic of drug addiction in the US -- as well as the international history of it all. Many have said with wisdom that we are all joined together in one unified life, like threads in the fabric of society, and until
we are all free, no one or group of us truly are. "Love and Addiction" proves such poetic wisdom scientifically for the western mind, and its increasingly growing more fragile soul. Dr. Peele begins to show us the paradox of American society that is crippling us: how we are being
psychologically crushed under the weight of our own technological innovations and tremendous freedoms, and how that affects every single one of us, in all of our relationships, with everyone and everything. |
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Relationship Addiction, Love, Interpersonal Relations |
| Perkins, Bill |
When Good Men Are Tempted |
1997 |
0310215668 |
This book from a pastor associated with Promise Keepers will help men understand the power of sexual temptations and show them strategies for overcoming them. Bill Perkins details a plan for sexual integrity. He shows men how to achieve a purity that will
preserve the sanctity of their marriages, the security of their families, the vitality of their walks with God, and the strength of their relationships with others. The author is straightforward and offers practical suggestions. Instead of talking in a clinical voice, he relates as
someone on the journey himself. The first chapter, "Why Naked Women Look So Good," is an insightful explanation of the attraction between men and women. This Christian author had the courage to not address the subject of masturbation with a "right" or "wrong" approach, but instead
provides biblical guidelines to govern all of a man's sexual behavior -- including masturbation. |
208 |
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Sexual Sin (religious) |
| Peterson, Sylvia Ogden |
From Love that Hurts to Love that's Real: A Recovery Workbook |
1989
1990
1991 |
0942421302
0133330486
0924721103 |
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Workbook, Relationship Addiction |
| Pfeiffer, Richard H |
Creating Real Relationships: Overcoming the Power of Difference and Shame |
2000 |
1893505138 |
Can two people develop a relationship that will support, encourage, and nurture their real self? Can the hope of being understood, known, and truly accepted become a reality? Can a real relationship heal the wounds and emotional deficits received in early
life? The search for meaning is the journey of expressing one's real self. Pfeiffer describes how two partners can seek to develop a relationship in which both find support for the expression of their real self. Partners who make a real relationship work have certain skills. They know
and practice core interpersonal skills, which allows them to form a relationship that can endure, deepen, and grow. One of the unigque features of this work is its focus on the dynamics of difference and shame underlying what goes wrong -- or what can go very right -- with
relationships. They dynamics of difference and shame have the power to set up the development of a false self. The false self defensively refuses to assert the real self. Overcoming the power of these dynamics is the source of transforming unhealthy wounded relationships and individuals
into healthy one. [author website - http://www.growthgroups.com] |
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Relationship Growth, Shame |
| Picucci, Michael |
The Journey Toward Complete Recovery: Reclaiming Your Emotional, Spiritual and Sexual Wholeness |
1998 |
1556432860 |
Written with warmth, honesty, and compassion, "The Journey Toward Complete Recovery" charts a new path toward spiritual growth and renewal. Picking up where the AA Big Book left off, Picucci addresses the personal struggle recovering people so often express:
"I'm doing the best I can. Why do I feel so empty and limited? Why do I still feel a lack of purpose and meaning in life?" The offering in this book is not solely for addicts, ex-addicts, or those who identify themselves as survivors of childhood trauma. It demonstrates a significant
healing approach for every person seeking a richer life. Picucci indeed takes the reader on a courageous "journey" from addiction to wholeness, from isolation to community, from shame to love. The approach is fresh, and the author's deep commitment to healing comes alive on every
page. |
272 |
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Compulsive Behavior, Self-Actualization |
| Pittman, Frank |
Private Lies: Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy |
1989
1990 |
073510025X
0393307077 |
Infidelity is the most common major crisis of marriage. In this wise book, a psychiatrist and family therapist discusses four kinds of infidelity, why they happen, and what they mean. This wise book defuses myths about infidelity and suggests how to make a
marriage work. "It's not so much the sex as the secrecy that causes the crisis," Dr. Pittman says. "If you wonder whether certain behavior constitutes infidelity, I recommend you ask your spouse." One of the better books on recovering from the betrayal of an extramarital affair, this
book does not blame the spouse who was betrayed but makes them feel good about themself. It makes the unfaithful partner examine their reasons for straying, exploring the whys and wherefores about infidelity and presenting advice for both the unfaithful and the wounded partner. |
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Affairs |
| Powell, John (Joseph) |
Why Am I Afraid To Love?: Overcoming Rejection and Indifference |
1976
thru
1990 |
0006278485
0006240038
0006281095
091359203X
0883473224 |
Tradition has it that God's second commandment is that we should love one another. Why is it so hard? The capacity to love is in everyone. Yet so often it remains trapped and waiting to be released. In John Powell's best-selling Why Am I Afraid to Love, he
carefully and sensitively confronts the barriers that restrain. He looks at the fear of rejection, the motives for love, how to truly understand the inner self and what true love looks like. He then considers the true test of love: can self be forgotten in loving others? Based on the
original best-selling edition, this book has been completely re-designed. A fitting companion to "Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?" it is one of the most original and popular self help books on the market. It sits comfortably alongside other classics like "I'm OK, You're OK." This
book sold over 100,000 copies in its original edition and over 15 million copies (in 22 languages) to date. |
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Relationship Health |
| Renshaw, Domeena C; Brick, Pam |
Seven Weeks to Better Sex: How to Dramatically Improve Your Sex Life With a Step-By-Step Program You Can Follow At Home |
1995
1996
1997 |
0679435468
0440507529
0517192896 |
The founder and director of the Loyola Sex Therapy Clinic shares the seven-week program that has helped thousands heal both their sex lives and relationships. Dr. Renshaw addresses the causes of sex problems, then gives readers the frank "sex education you
never had." She also outlines the six most common sexual problems. The numerous questionnaires and exercises are designed to help couples overcome sexual problems, understand their attitudes about sex, intimacy, body image, and communication, and help provide the building blocks for
increasing confidence and heightening enjoyment. |
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Sexual Health |
| Roberts, Diane |
For Women Only Leaders Manual: The Betrayed Heart (Workbook) |
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Leaders manual used in conjunction with the "For Women Only: The Betrayed Heart" healing groups. |
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Sex and Relationship Addiction, Spiritual Healing |
| Roberts, Diane |
For Women Only: Accept No Substitutes: The Journey to Healthy Love and Sexuality |
1995 |
1879619121 |
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Sex and Relationship Addiction, Spiritual Healing |
| Roberts, Diane |
For Women Only: The Betrayed Heart (Workbook) |
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A manual for women who are in relationship with someone battling sexual addiction. This book deals with the betrayal from a female perspective. |
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Sex and Relationship Addiction, Spiritual Healing |
| Roberts, Ted |
For Men Only: The Courageous Fight for Healthy Sexuality |
1993 |
1879619091 |
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Sex Addiction (religious) |
| Roberts, Ted |
Pure Desire Workbook |
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A companion piece to Pure Desire. This workbook will promote discussion, accountability, transparency and, ultimately, healing within the small group environment. |
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Sex Addiction (religious) |
| Roberts, Ted; Hayford, Jack W |
Pure Desire: Helping People Break Free from Sexual Struggles |
1999 |
0830724915
0830723358 |
Discover a place of hope, a place of healing. The church pastor who constantly fights a battle with Internet pornography. The teenager caught in a cycle of masturbation he can't seem to break. The lady in the choir who fantasizes about sexual interludes with
men other than her husband. These are people in your church who have repented innumerable times and given their lives to Christ, yet they can't seem to win the battle against sexual sin. But what can you do? What do you say? How can you help them? Pastor Ted Roberts knows what it's
like. Since overcoming his own addiction to pornography, he has spoken to thousands of people about similar problems, and he has reached an inescapable conclusion: "Hell is using sexual bondage to tear the Church apart!" But now you can do more than just preach against it. You can
overcome this onslaught of hell and turn your church into a place of real hope and healing! Tackle the difficult issues of sexual addiction and pornography with confidence, clarity and with biblical perspective. Take the lead in this spiritual battle. In Pure Desire, Roberts provides a
biblical answer to overcoming sexual sin and addiction. He offers a lifeline to those struggling with sexual bondage, and He shows how you can establish a sexual addiction recovery ministry at your church. |
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Sex Addiction (religious) |
| Rogers, Henry J; Miller, Norm |
The Silent War: Ministering to Those Trapped in Deception of Pornography |
2000 |
0892214910 |
An upclose and personal attack on an industry that is crippling many individuals and families, from the men addicted to pornography to the women trapped in the heartless prison of lust. Pornography is a very sensitive and real issue. Here the author
illustrates the devasting effects it has on people's lives financially, spiritually and physically. Includes the authors personal testimony of the struggle and victory against pornography and interviews with women who had managed to find another life outside the industry, as well as
some still trapped. Offers suggestions for men to resist getting caught up in a deceptive world of smoke and mirrors and exposes the consequences of our lust. Illustrated with stories from actual addicts, the book will help anyone who wants to escape or avoid pornography. |
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Pornography Addiction |
| Rossetti, Stephen J. |
A Tragic Grace: The Catholic Church and Child Sexual Abuse |
1996 |
0814624340 |
This is the new book by Stephen Rossetti that examines what happens when children are abused by Catholic clergy. Rosetti is the executive director of St. Luke's Institute which is one of the primary treatment facilities for Catholic clergy in America. His
book clearly documents the damage to the victim, the parish, the church and the perpetrator. He does not avoid the hard questions. Rather, he pinpoints what church leadership needs to face. For Catholics and all those interested in sexual misconduct by clergy, this is an important
book. |
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Sex and Religion |
| Ruben, Douglas H |
Over-Sexed and Under-Loved: A Recovery Guide to Sex Addiction |
2000 |
0595091377 |
Addictions specialist Dr. Ruben explodes myths of romantic love and exposes sex for what it really is -- a power hungry craving on everyone's mind. The book graphically reveals secrets of sex addicts and nonsex addictions. It explicitly tells why people want
sex, how they get sex, and where they get sex. Rapid cures are given for curiosity seekers turned addicts. Easy-to-apply steps convert sex addicts into sex lovers in days, not months. |
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Sex Addiction |
| Ryan, Michael |
Secret Life: An Autobiography |
1995
1996
1997 |
0679407758
0679767762
0517193582 |
At the age of five, Michael Ryan was molested by a neighbor. Nearly 40 years later, he found himself methodically preparing to seduce a girl who was barely more than a child. As Ryan describes his free fall into sexual obsession, he creates an autobiography
that is at once harrowing and redemptive, heartbreaking and profoundly moral. Michael Ryan came of age in the fifties and sixties-a seemingly idyllic period for him of Little League baseball, Boy Scout overnight hikes, ...when as a five-year-old, Ryan was molestated by a neighbor. It
continued as he contended with his father's alcoholism, and as he himself started down the road of sexual obsession. Told without self-pity or blame, with humor and wit, sensational but never sensationalistic, Secret Life is a memoir of redemptive power and grace. |
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Biography, Adult Child Sexual Abuse Victim |
| Schaef, Anne Wilson |
Co-Dependence: Misunderstood -- Mistreated |
1985
thru
1992 |
0062507699
0866834869 |
The explosive bestseller that revolutionized our understanding of the addictive process. With a new introduction addressing the backlash to the co-dependency movement. |
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Codependency |
| Schaef, Anne Wilson |
Escape from Intimacy: The Pseudo-Relationship Addictions: Untangling the "Love" Addictions, Sex, Romance, Relationships |
1989
1990 |
0062548603
0062548735 |
New York Times bestselling author Anne Wilson Schaef examines the intriguing problem of relationship addiction in the first book to expose and unravel our addictions to sex, love, and romance. Discusses sexual, romance and relationship addictions as seperate
addictions and shows how each is related -- how they interact and support each other; explores how each functions as an attempt to escape intimacy; discusses the concept of co-dependent and co-sex addict, how addictive relationships are formed, healthy intimacy and the process of
recovery from each of these addictions. |
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Relationship Addiction, Love, Intimacy |
| Schaeffer, Brenda |
Is it Love or is it Addiction?: Falling Into Healthy Love |
1987
1987
1995
1997 |
0062554719
0894864130
1567310710
1568381409 |
This practical, best-selling guide to making relationships work explores the essential elements of love addiction: how to identify it and how and why people fall into it. Most important, psychotherapist Brenda Schaeffer offers a seven-step plan for breaking
free of the unhealthy or addictive patterns that keep people from healthy, mature and fulfilling love. This book helps readers understand love addiction and to sort out the unhealthy, addictive elements in their romantic relationship. Brenda presents a solid theory of love addiction and
healthy love, with practical examples to illustrate her concepts. Relationships that continue despite pain, emotional chaos, and disruptive impulsivity are addictive, says Brenda Schaeffer, a psychotherapist who knows her stuff and provides an excellent primer on the subject of love and
love addiction. Especially if there is past loss or trauma, the resulting pain can make us uncontrollably attached to anyone who soothes that pain, even when this creates many other problems. Healthy love helps us expand ourselves and learn higher growth processes; the addictive
attachment only distracts, stagnates, and frustrates personal development. The book is articulate and insightful, but very comprehensible, having helped many people find their way from the fear and distrust in poor relationships to the fulfillment in meaningful ones. |
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Relationship Addiction, Love |
| Schaeffer, Brenda |
Love Addiction: Help Yourself Out |
1986 |
0894863835 |
Four pamphlets about healthy relationships (Power Plays, Signs Of Addictive Love, Love Addiction: Help Yourself Out and Signs of Healthy Love) outline characteristics of healthy love, love addiction and power struggles. Each one provides us with exercises and
practical information to apply the principles of recovery to building loving, strong relationships. |
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Love Addiction |
| Schaeffer, Brenda |
Love's Way: The Union of Body, Ego and Spirit |
2001 |
1568386230 |
Love's Way is by best selling author Brenda Schaeffer, who is also a psychotherapist in the treatment of love and sex addiction. As a child, Schaeffer experienced love as "the big something": an energy coursing through her body that started from the heart and
filled it. Conversely, hurtful words could take away the "big something," leaving her heart empty and aching. That childlike purity and direct connection to the heart is often what's missing from love today. With wisdom and insight, Schaeffer is the navigtor who guides us back on
course. |
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Love Addiction |
| Schaeffer, Brenda |
Loving Me, Loving You: Balancing Love and Power in a Codependent World |
1991
1991
1999
1999 |
0894867474
0062553402
058531196X
0894867474 |
"When love is without power, we take care of others at our own emotional expense. When power is without love, we abuse, hurt, and injure others -- ultimately at our own expense." As Brenda Schaeffer picks up where her popular book "Is It Love or Is It
Addiction?" leaves off, she offers us a basic guide to creating more loving relationships. Schaeffer describes her theory of the three internal "lovers" we each possess: the addictive lover, the healthy lover, and the spiritual lover. As this book's explanations and activities help us
live from spiritual instead of earthly perspectives, we discover how to balance love and power in our relationships. As we follow the "path of the heart," we are called upon to transform our lives and our environment. Schaeffer encourages each of us to carry what we've learned from our
personal transformations out into the world. Filled with explanations and activities, Loving Me, Loving You leads us to a clearer understanding of love, power, relationships, and spirituality. |
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Relationship Addiction, Codependency |
| Schaeffer, Brenda |
Power Plays |
1986 |
0894863738 |
Four pamphlets about healthy relationships (Power Plays, Signs Of Addictive Love, Love Addiction: Help Yourself Out and Signs of Healthy Love) outline characteristics of healthy love, love addiction and power struggles. Each one provides us with exercises and
practical information to apply the principles of recovery to building loving, strong relationships. |
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Codependency |
| Schaeffer, Brenda |
Signs of Addictive Love |
1986 |
0894863827 |
Four pamphlets about healthy relationships (Power Plays, Signs Of Addictive Love, Love Addiction: Help Yourself Out and Signs of Healthy Love) outline characteristics of healthy love, love addiction and power struggles. Each one provides us with exercises and
practical information to apply the principles of recovery to building loving, strong relationships. |
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Love Addiction |
| Schaeffer, Brenda |
Signs of Healthy Love |
1986 |
0894863746 |
Four pamphlets about healthy relationships (Power Plays, Signs Of Addictive Love, Love Addiction: Help Yourself Out and Signs of Healthy Love) outline characteristics of healthy love, love addiction and power struggles. Each one provides us with exercises and
practical information to apply the principles of recovery to building loving, strong relationships. |
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Love Addiction |
| Schaumburg, Harry W |
False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction |
1992
1997 |
0891097112
1576830284 |
More people than we know battle against compelling sexual desires. Dr. Schaumburg thinks through the realities of the battle and offers a biblical perspective with wisdom, clarity, and compassion. He goes far deeper than the surface symptoms to expose core
issues of this common problem. TABLE OF CONTENTS: Chapter 1: What Is Sexual Addiction? Chapter 2: Sexually Addictive Behaviors Chapter 3: What Causes Sexual Addiction? Chapter 4: Hope for Those Who Are Sexually Addicted Chapter 5: Responding to Your Sexually Addicted Spouse Chapter 6:
The Recovering Marriage Chapter 7: Women and False Intimacy Chapter 8: Preventing Sexual Addiction in Your Children Chapter 9: Sexual Addiction in the Church Chapter 10: The Church as a Healing Community Chapter 11: Healing for Christian Leaders Appendix A: Indicators of Childhood
Sexual Abuse Appendix B: Ministry Resources |
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Sex Addiction, Treatment (religious) |
| Schnarch, David M(orris) |
Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships |
1997
1998 |
0393040216
0805058265 |
People joke that the start of a couple's marriage means the end of their sex life. David Schnarch, a sex therapist, uses epiphany-laden conversations taken directly from his own marriage and the married couples he sees in practice to help readers defy the
myth that marriages are necessarily passionless, and instead prove that the longer a couple has been together, the higher the fireworks can fly. It's especially aimed at older couples who are self-actualized and therefore better able to handle intimacy than younger partners. "People
have difficulty with intimacy because they're supposed to," he says, and goes on in this inspiring book to combine elements of marriage therapy and sex therapy to bring plenty of practical, fresh ideas to the crowd of mostly vapid relationship books. (Note that despite its title, it's
for any emotionally committed couple, not just married folks.) Schnarch says that a man is more likely to let a relationship suffer in order to hold on to his sense of self, while a woman is more apt to let her identity suffer to help strengthen it. Schnarch gives explicit tips on how
to alter this pattern, an essential step he calls "differentiation." He also explains why compromise isn't always the best route to take when conflicts arise. The couples profiled here deal with the usual suspects: uneven sexual desire and initiation, battles about oral sex, self-image
problems, the "boondoggle" of trust (both of one's self and one's partner), and the specter of divorce. Instead of focusing on each client's weaknesses, Schnarch teaches how to find inner strength and resilience that can be used to reaffirm a relationship and reignite sex. |
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Rebuilding Relationships |
| Schneider, Jennifer P |
Back from Betrayal: Recovering from his Affairs |
1988
1989 |
0062554808
0894864882 |
Dr. Schneider's pioneering work is the first written for women whose husbands keep getting involved in affairs. Based on interviews and her own experience, she addresses the anguish and helplessness which codependents feel daily. In clear, compassionate, and
informed writing she describes the nature of sexual coaddiction, helps coaddicts understand their own disease and their denial and isolation and outlines a path to recovery. |
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Compulsive Behavior, Codependency, Adultery |
| Schneider, Jennifer P; Schneider, Burt |
Rebuilding Trust: For Couples Committed to Recovery |
1989 |
0894865811 |
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Sex Addiction, Codependency, Interpersonal Relations |
| Schneider, Jennifer P; Schneider, Burt |
Sex, Lies and Forgiveness: Couples Speaking Out on Healing from Sexual Addiction |
1991
1991
1999 |
0062553437
0894867342
0967201500 |
Based on interviews with about 100 couples, the authors describe how to rebuild trust, forgive past hurts, improve communication, and address the sexual problems which recovering couples often face. Very practical, it includes hundreds of comments from sex
addicts and coaddicts on what worked for them in enhancing their relationship. This book is very 12-step oriented, and takes no position regarding spirituality nor religion. |
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Sex and Relationship Addiction, Marriage |
| Schneider, Jennifer P; Weiss, Robert |
Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession? |
2001 |
1568386192 |
A timely and telling look at the powerfully addictive mix of Internet use, sexuality, and romantic fantasy, Cybersex Exposed both defines and addresses this emerging problem. Jennifer Schneider and Robert Weiss bring years of professional expertise in
treating sexual addiction to their careful consideration of the emerging and complicated problem of online sexual addiction. The authors explain how Internet anonymity and accessibility can lead to addictive sexual behavior resulting in broken relationships, isolation, and money
troubles. Informative and instructive, Cybersex Exposed provides a thorough description of the nature and scope of Internet sex addiction, along with stories of and strategies for recovery. Key features and benefits: -Offers statistical and descriptive information on cybersex. -Provides
a "screening test" to help readers evaluate their own behavior. -Examines the negative consequences of Internet sex addiction on health, career, intimacy, and family relationships. -Discusses the negative impact of cybersex addiction on spouses, and describes how to confront spouses and
obtain help. -Presents stories of recovery for cybersex users and their partners. |
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Sex Addiction, Computer Sex |
| Schneider, Jennifer; Corley, Debra |
Disclosing Secrets When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal: A Gentle Path for Disclosing Sensitive Addiction Secrets |
2002 |
1929866046 |
"We are only as sick as the secrets we keep." This central tenet of recovery from addiction celebrates the liberating, healing experience of disclosure. But the actual process of revealing sensitive secrets related to addiction can be difficult, even
excruciating. With a straightforward, step-by-step approach, Jennifer Schneider and Debra Corley help readers discern the type of information that is advisable to share as well as develop a plan for constructive disclosure. Topics include: what, when, and how to tell, who to involve,
what (if anything) to tell children, what information to share at work, church, and in the community. Disclosing Secrets serves as a guidebook for healing as well, offering reassurance that relationships can be repaired and renewed after disclosure. |
250 |
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Codependence |
| Schwartz, Barbara K; Caufield, Gregory M S |
Facing the Shadow: A Guided Workbook for Understanding and Controlling Sexual Deviance |
1996 |
1887554017 |
A comprehensive self-guided program for sex offender treatment. The book features: integrative approach supports a range of treatment modalities including behavioral, cognitive, addiction, psychodynamic, and relapse prevention; highly interactive format gets
patients actively involved in their own treatment; accessible reading level -- ideal for low-literacy and special needs offenders, adults and juveniles; tested, refined, and proved effective with hundreds of offenders; time-saving and cost-saving way to prepare offenders for group or
intensive therapy, or supplement treatment. |
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Psychosexual Disorders, Sex Offenders |
| Schwartz, Daylle Deanna |
All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise: A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men |
1998
1999 |
1580620485
1580621732 |
Despite the title of this book, it is not suggesting that women have to be without men or that men are bad, but rather how women should handle relationships with men, how to avoid a broken heart, and how to feel good about ourself if there is no man in our
life. There are good men out there, if you can get past the jerks! Everybody knows that men can act like real jerks. But complaining about them won't get you what you want. This book tells it like it is -- explaining why men act they way they do, and what they really think about dating,
sex, and relationships. Most importantly, it teaches you what to say and do to get the love and affection you deserve. All Men Are Jerks teaches women critical survival skills -- how to protect themselves until they've established if they've found the right man, or whether they've found
just another jerk. The book also explains why men act they way they do -- and what women can do to protect themselves from the pain and disappointment they'll suffer if Prince Charming turns out to be a loser. It itemizes the many ways that men can be jerks -- and tells women how to
decide which flaws are tolerable, which are grounds for "termination," and offers invaluable survival tactics for dealing with men -- and staying happy -- whether or not Mr. Right ever shows up. Daylle encourages women to get a life so they don't feel so needy for a man and won't make
men so important to their happiness. Instead of saying you are busy, Daylle says to be busy. |
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Relationship Health |
| Seamands, David A |
Healing for Damaged Emotions[: Recovering From the Memories That Cause Our Pain] |
1981
1991 |
0882072285
0896939383 |
Whether through our own fallen temperament, willful disobedience, or as victims of the hurtful actions of others, many of us struggle with crippling emotions, among them perfectionism, depression, and low-self-worth. The pain is often present with us even
though the incidents and relationships that caused it may be long past. "Healing for Damaged Emotions" has helped readers deal honestly and successfully with their inner hurts. Through David Seamands' realistic, scriptural approach, you too can find healing and then become an agent of
healing for fellow strugglers. |
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Emotional Health (Religious) |
| Seamands, David A; Funk, Beth |
Healing for Damaged Emotions Workbook |
1992 |
1564760251 |
This companion workbook to "Healing for Damaged Emotions" provides the tools to examine you life and find healing for the painful scars that cripple your emotions. In this workbook you will find: the entire text of "Healing for Damaged Emotions;" Scripture
meditation and memorization; prayer exercises; journaling exercises; small group guide; and recovery resources. |
240 |
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Emotional Health, Workbook (Religious) |
| Silverman, Sue William |
Love Sick: One Woman's Journey through Sexual Addiction |
2001 |
0393019578 |
In this powerful, often lyrical memoir, a woman learns to value herself -- as a whole person rather than as a sexual object. With the help of her therapist, she comes to realize that she is a sex addict, someone who craves and needs sex -- not because she
enjoys it, but because she believes nothing else can make her feel good about herself. "Only when my body is desired," she writes, "do I feel beautiful, powerful, loved." Recounting her past experiences as part of her journey toward recovery, she explores her skewed belief that sex is
love. This is a brave and candid book that will prove a touchstone for others seeking to break a cycle of emotional self destruction. The book's story of recovery takes us through 28 days in an inpatient clinic for female sex addicts. It explores the psychology of addiction on a deeply
personal level, sharing the struggles with self-destructive tendencies and a desperate desire to be loved, no matter what the cost. |
288 |
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Biography, Sex Addict |
| Simon Jr., George K |
In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People |
1996 |
096516960X |
Whether it's your mate, your child, your boss, or a co-worker, if they know how to get the better of you and look good at the same time, you are being skillfully manipulated. Manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it. Often those
they abuse are ignorant of, or only vaguely aware of, what is happening to them. To stop being a victim, you have to know how to spot these "wolves in sheep's clothing" and this book casts aside the cloak of secrecy these "wolves" use. Each chapter highlights a specific characteristic
using vignettes taken from actual case histories. Then Dr. Simon takes you behind the scenes and between the lines. What on the surface may sound to you like perfectly logical behavior turns out to be cloaked in the most insidious, subtle mantle of manipulation. In Sheep's Clothing also
takes a probing look at the important difference between self-respect and self-esteem -- and, in a profound epilogue -- the ways our society now encourages the wrong kind of aggressive behavior. You will discover: 4 reasons why victims have a hard time leaving abusive relationships;
power tactics manipulators use to push their own agendas and justify their behavior; ways to redefine the rules of engagement between you and an abuser; how to spot potential weaknesses in your character that can set you up for manipulation; and 12 tools for Personal Empowerment to help
you maintain greater strength in all relationships. |
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Boundaries |
| Sipe, A. W. Richard |
Sex, Priests, and Power: Anatomy of a Crises |
1995 |
0876307691
0896077691
0876307780 |
Sipe's books about the Catholic Church are controversial in an area known for its divisiveness. His insights are important and his conclusions thought provoking. A must read if you are interested in sexual misconduct by clergy, or in sexuality and church
issues. For more than 30 years, psychotherapist Sipe has been engaged in research on the institution and practice of priestly celibacy. He has reported and interpreted that research before, but this book takes it as background for a more thorough examination of the entanglement of
sexuality and power in the historical development of the Roman Catholic Church. Given the pervasiveness of the entanglement, the book becomes a case study of sorts, with implications beyond the boundaries of Roman Catholicism and beyond the practice of celibacy. Among the most
interesting and important aspects of the book is its systematic application of sociobiology to a concrete moral -- and political -- problem. That sociobiology shares with Roman Catholic theology a profound appreciation for the "natural" as an ethical category makes this a promising
venture -- and it carries it beyond the potential trivialities of exposé or polemic. This is a thoughtful book, informed not only by the headlines but also by a deep respect for celibacy and for the Roman Catholic tradition as well as the "systemic" insights of sociobiology. |
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Sex and Religion |
| Small, Jacquelyn; Small, J |
Awakening in Time: The Journey from Codependence to Co-Creation |
1991
2001 |
0553349554
0939344181 |
Hailed as one of the best books "out there" on codependence, Awakening in Time is transforming the way codependence is percieved and healed. A pioneer in psychological and spiritual approaches to addiction, Jacquelyn Small integrates ideas from the
Twelve-Step recovery movement, Jungian thought, Western Mysticism and Eastern thought to create a path-breaking new synthesis. She shows that "codependece," rather than being a term that labels and limits us, is a spiritual crisis with a sacred purpose -- and a spiritual solution.
Awakening in Time includes exercises, ritual, and guided imagery and explores such unique and healing ideas as: codependence and the shadow self -- only by embracing harmful patterns and past hurts can we let them go; the seven steps of dis-identification to release addictive behaviors;
how codependent urges -- the urge to control, the urge to excite, the urge to merge -- can be transformed into positive spiritual powers; and "Heartwork" -- the process of opening to one's unique creativity, the ultimate healer of codependence. Reading Awakening in Time, we find
ourselves imbued with the seeds of transformation that open us to the innate possibility that we can create lives free from addictive patterns of behavior. We can walk through -- then beyond -- past hurts that are keeping us stuck in limiting views of ourselves, our relationships, and
our everday world. Now, with eyes and hearts wide open, Jacquelyn's words inspire and guide us right to the precipice of our dawning new future. There it is up to each one of us to step out and embrace the greatest mystery of all, our own Soul's purpose. Many will find Small's
contribution to the literature of "new paradigm" psychology compassionate, provocative, practicable, and refreshingly unpretentious. |
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Codependence |
| Smith, Carol Cox |
Recovering Couples: Building Partnership the Twelve-Step Way |
1992 |
0553353918 |
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Alcoholism, Codependency, Marriage Communication |
| Spring, Janis Abrahms |
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful |
1997 |
0060928174 |
For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs, this is a great book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship -- written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on
infidelity. There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self-respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. "After
the Affair" is the first book to help readers survive this crisis. Written by a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for 22 years, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: normalizing feelings, deciding whether to
recommit, and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership. |
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Affairs |
| Springle, Pat |
Codependency: Breaking Free From the Hurt and Manipulation of Dysfunctional Relationships |
1990 |
0945276125 |
Pat Springle gives incredible insight into the woven complexities of codependency, yet he relates this information in a simple language easy enough for a child to understand. If you struggle with the need to control and rescue others, then this book will
assist you in your education and steps to freedom. |
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Codependency |
| Stafford, David; Hodgkinson, Liz |
Codependency: How to Break Free and Live Your Own Life |
1991
1999 |
0749910437
0749918349 |
"Codependents" is a relatively new term for people who have to depend on others for their own sense of self-worth and self-esteem. They often come from alcoholic or other dysfunctional families where there are rigid roles and behavior patterns, and they have
little sense of personal identity, concentrating instead on being needed. They can excel at coping and caring, but underneath there is always the wish to comply (ie. to please others) and control (to manipulate others). This can lead to illness and depression and an inability to form
satisfactory relationships. With the use of case histories, this book aims to show how codependency starts, how it manifests itself, and how the problems it causes can be overcome. |
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Codependency |
| Subotnik, Rona; Harris, Gloria |
Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain |
1993
1999 |
1558502998
1580621376 |
Not all extramarital affairs are the same, nor do they all call for the same response. In Surviving Infidelity, therapists Rona Subotnik and Gloria Harris examine: the different kinds of affairs (and why they happen); the effects of an affair on the marriage;
strategies for coping with hurt and betrayal; life after an affair-from deciding whether to continue the marriage to undertaking the challenge of rebuilding it; and the importance of sincere apologies, communicated with empathy, in re-establishing a couple's relationship. Drawing on
their clinical experience, Subotnik and Harris offer a nonjudgmental and compassionate look at infidelity from the spouse's point of view, emphasizing practical approaches to recovery. Their work is bringing new hope to couples who confront these painful issues. |
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Affairs |
| Teachworth, Anne |
Why We Pick the Mates We Do: A Step-By-Step Program to Select a Better Partner or Improve the Relationship You're Already In |
1999 |
1889968536 |
Why We Pick The Mates We Do is an interactive book that begins with an easy-to-take Selection Test that is guaranteed to give you the most amazing insight into the real reasons you have selected or rejected your past and present partners and predict how your
current relationship will turn out before you get married. If you have ever been unable to find the kind of relationship partner you really want, don't settle for less or give up altogether. Taking the Selection Test will not only reveal to you why you have been magnetically attracted
to the wrong partners in the past, but will also give you methods to release yourself from attractions to people who are not good to you or for you. This system is the result of my twenty five years as a couple counselor and has already proven itself with thousands of people as the most
important key to making successful life-mate choices. This new method of couple counseling consistently gets dramatic improvements in relationshi! ps from selection to solution. The book helps both singles and married couples to finally uncover the real problem that keeps them from
having happy relationships and shows them how to reprogram their imprinted negative couple patterns. |
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Relationship Health |
| Thoele, Sue Patton |
The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem |
2001 |
1573245690 |
Sue Patton Thoele continues her quest to help readers enhance their self-esteem and tap into their core emotional strength. Geared to women who too often find themselves meeting the wants of others at the expense of their own needs, the book provides
necessary tools to help readers transform their fears into the courage to express their own authentic selves. By sharing her own journey and the journey of other women, Thoele helps readers learn to set boundaries, change self-defeating behavior patterns, communicate effectively, and
become a loving and tolerant friend to themselves. It is a practical guide to freeing oneself from emotional dependence, gaining self-confidence, enhancing self-esteem, overcoming self-limiting fears and creating the ability to love others more fully. When you say what you're feeling
and act upon your convictions, you are being heroic and reinforcing your identity. The book helps us recognize... and multiply... that authenticating behavior. It also includes a discussion of codependency and addiction. This tenth-anniversary edition contains 30 percent new material,
including a new introduction. |
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Self-Esteem |
| Townsend, John Marshall |
What Women Want -- What Men Want: Why the Sexes Still See Love and Commitment So Differently |
1998
1999 |
0195114884
0195131037 |
What Women Want -- What Men Want offers compelling new evidence about the real reasons behind men's and women's differing sexual psychologies and sheds new light on what men and women look for in a mate, the predicament of marriage in the modern world, the
relation between sex and emotion, and many other hotly debated questions. John Townsend draws on 2000 questionnaires and extensive quotations from 200 intimate interviews to show how deep-seated desires and emotions guide our actions in dating, sexual relationships, and marriage.
Townsend argues against the politically correct belief that differences in sexual behavior are "culturally constructed," and shows that these differences are universal and rooted in our evolutionary past. In a fascinating series of experiments, men and women were asked to indicate
preferences for potential mates based on their attractiveness and apparent economic status. Women preferred expensively dressed men to more attractive but apparently less successful men, and men chose more attractive women regardless of their professional status. Townsend also found
that men are inclined to value casual sexual relations, whereas women cannot easily separate sexual relations from the need for emotional attachment and economic security. Lucidly and accessibly written, What Women Want -- What Men Want brings new clarity to one of the most intractable
debates of our time. |
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Relationship Health |
| Twerski, Abraham J; Nakken, Craig |
Addictive Thinking and the Addictive Personality: Understanding the Addictive Process, Compulsive Behavior, and Self-Deception |
1999 |
1567313310 |
This book is actually two books put together as a set in a common binding. The first book, Addictive Thinking, was pretty much a rehash to anyone who has read anything about alcoholism and addiction. If you are completely new to trying to understand alcoholic
addiction then it may have some value, but there are better books on that subject. It would have more accurately been named Addictive Thinking in the Alcoholic. On the other hand the second book, The Addictive Personality, was an excellent and broad reaching tome on addiction. It covers
how addictions form, what they mean to the person, what the person is thinking, their fears, concerns and innermost turmoil. It not only applied to alcoholic addiction but food addictions, power addictions, sexual addictions, etc. If you truly want to understand how addictions form and
what is really going on below the surface then this is one of the best books on the subject. |
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Addictions |
| Valiant, Karen |
Love Over Lust: How Love Overcame the Power of Sexual Addiction |
2000 |
0595091776 |
We all fall in love. We make a lifetime commitment. We work through life's ups and downs. But how do we cope with the discovery that our mate has lost his/her soul to the consuming power of multiple addictions? How do we survive the ultimate pain that
accompanies sexual addiction? Love Over Lust is a true story. The stage is set as Mike decides to re-involve himself with his addictive chemical of choice: alcohol. Mike and Karen are going through a stressful period in their lives. Mike's addictive personality is activated as he
progresses from social drinking to daily drinking to drunkenness. What began as an innocent curiosity with pornography quickly escalated into a costly relationship with a nude dancer. The seductive nature of sexual lust nearly destroyed their 14-year marriage. As Mike's secrets are
uncovered, Love Over Lust tells the story of Karen Valiant's mission to understand and overcome the chaotic events in their lives. She shares her shattered spirit with you and her prescription for healing: healing begins with a recovery commitment of the couple; time is the great
healer; love is the miracle. |
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Sex Addiction |
| Vaughan, Diane |
Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships |
1986
1990 |
0195039106
0679730028 |
Based on ten years' research, this is the only book of its type on the market today. It explains in lucid and engaging detail the turning points in intimate relationships showing that there are basic similar patterns. Vaughan's extensive use of interviews of
both straight and gay couples, married and live-ins, makes her book lively and interesting. One of the best ways to keep a relationship together is to understand how it comes apart. In this groundbreaking book, Diane Vaughan shows that all relationships coming apart follow basic
patterns -- patterns so strikingly similar that they're almost ritualistic. Based on a decade of research and more than 100 personal interviews, the book examines the ten major turning points in every troubled relationship. It is an invaluable tool for clergy and counselors. |
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Affairs |
| Vaughan, Peggy |
The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs |
1989
1990
1991
1998
1998 |
1557040443
155704077X
0517070871
1557043531
1557043620 |
Peggy Vaughn, who's been featured on Oprah! and CNN, has helped thousands of folks recover from affairs. As the extramarital-affairs expert behind AOL's "Ask Peggy" forum and as a woman who's been married for 40 years to her high school sweetheart -- who
cheated on her for seven years while she kidded herself that he was remaining faithful -- she certainly knows what she's talking about. She says that to successfully overcome an unfaithful spouse or companion, you have to work through the myths of monogamy. It's not just men, or men who
travel a lot on business, or women with supermodel good looks, who cheat. It's people of all ages and all occupations. Studies conservatively estimate that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair. Vaughn outlines the societal causes and supporters of affairs, from
the commercialization of sex in every visible nook and cranny of our world to our lifelong tendency to surround sex with secrecy. She also lists the common desperate measures that people take when they suspect they're being cheated on, and why they don't work. She also tells what to
expect during a confrontation, and includes copious techniques for rebuilding self-esteem. There's also information about how to choose a marriage counselor or group therapist and, even more important, when to stop seeing one. For couples debating whether to divorce or remain married,
there's plenty of proven guidance to be found here. |
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Affairs, Family |
| Vaughan, Peggy; Vaughan, James |
Recovering From Affairs: A Handbook for Couples: How to Overcome the Emotional Impact When Your Partner Has an Affair |
1999 |
0936390069 |
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Couple Recovery |
| Virtue, Doreen L |
Yo-Yo Relationships: How to Break the "I Need a Man" Habit and Find Stability |
1994 |
0925190357 |
A much-needed guide for women who wonder how to have a quality relationship in the midst of juggling multiple responsibilities. Doreen Virtue helps women realistically balance their roles and obligations so they can find success in love and work and still
have personal time. With humor, compassion and common sense, this book speaks to women who feel that "something is missing." Highlights include: 101 ways to add fun to your life (guilt-free); ten secrets to getting what you want; getting more stability and satisfaction in your love
life; does your excercise program fit your personality?; an honest look at men and money; finally a stress-management strategy that really works; and is your life on hold while you wait to lose weight? |
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Women, Balance |
| Wagner, David A |
Secret Sins of the Heart: Freedom from the Chains of Pornography |
2001 |
1553062655 |
Pastor Dave writes from the heart in this book and it is very frank both regarding the seriousness of this sin and the only way to find victory in Jesus Christ. This book does not puff up with knowledge, it actually edifies the reader and equips them to live
in freedom. It is challenging and convicting, and anyone who struggles with these secret sins (or knows someone who does) will be greatly helped by this much-needed perspective. In a non-condemning and helpful way, Wagner offers help and hope. |
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Pornography Addiction (religious) |
| Weiner-Davis, Michele |
Divorce Busting: A Revolutionary and Rapid Program for Staying Together |
1991
1993 |
067172598X
0671797255 |
In this ground-breaking book, Michele Weiner-Davis gives straightforward, effective advice on how couples can stay together instead of come apart. Using case histories to illustrate her marriage-enriching, divorce-preventing techniques, which can be used even
if only one partner participates, Weiner-Davis shows readers: how to leave the past behind and set attainable goals; strategies for identifying problem-solving behavior that works; how to make changes last; and "Uncommon-sense" methods for breaking unproductive patterns. Inspirational
and accessible, Divorce Busting shows readers in pain that working it out is better than getting out. |
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Rebuilding Relationships |
| Weiss, Douglas |
101 Freedom Exercises: A Christian Guide for Sex Addiction Recovery |
2001 |
1881292231 |
This is the best single resource for the Christian who desires to know what they need to do to get and stay free from sexual addiction. This book contains 101 exercises that have been proven to work. In this book you receive the best techniques that Dr. Weiss
has used to help thousands already obtain their freedom from sexual addiction. |
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Sex Addiction, Workbook (Christian) |
| Weiss, Douglas |
101 Practical Exercizes for Sexual Addiction Recovery |
1997 |
1881292193 |
Weiss leaves no room for one to stay in the comfort zone of denial. Very practical and doable steps of extricating oneself from the stranglehold of sexual addiction. However the reader is not overwhelmed by an urgency to be perfect in an instant. They are
encouraged to remember to make progress every day...one day at a time. |
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Sex Addiction, Workbook |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Beyond Love: A 12-Step Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts |
1996 |
1881292207 |
This book puts forward some very valuable exercises for working a recovery program for partners of sex addicts. It is a must for anybody trying to break out of their codependent/co-sex addicted behaviors, denial, and come to terms with betrayal. Males
partners may be offended by the language and the assumption that the reader is female. |
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Co-Addiction, Workbook |
| Weiss, Douglas |
How To Love When It Hurts So Bad |
1996 |
1881292509 |
This book is often used in conjunction with an audio cassette series of the same name. It is helpful for codependents or partners of spouses with any addictions. |
95 |
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Codependency, Boundaries |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Intimacy: A 100-Day Guide to Lasting Relationships |
2001 |
0884197670 |
Intimacy doesn't need to be illusive! It's time to recognize intimacy for what it is -- a loving and lifelong process that you can learn. Dr. Weiss offers a 100-day practical plan that will energize your relationship and create a spiritual, emotional and
physical closeness that you have hungered for in your marriage. You'll identify destructive emotional roadblocks that keep you from experiencing exciting and satisfying intimate moments with your spouse. Develop a marathon mentality for your relationship, and take the next 100 days to
fall in love all over again. In this book, you will discover: how to discuss your sexual desires; having spirituality that works in the bedroom; how your "government style" can limit your intimacy; three daily exercises guaranteed to make love last; how to set boundaries; how to connect
emotionally; and practical steps to letting go of your past. |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Partners Recovery Guide: 100 Empowering Exercizes |
1997 |
1881292150 |
This book puts forward some very valuable exercises for recovery from discovering your partner is a sex addict. It is a must for anybody trying to break out of their codependent/co-sex addicted behaviors. Although the author acknowledges that there are both
male and female sex addicts, this book is written with the assumption that the reader is female. Most exercises in the book easily apply to both genders of recovering partners; however, male partners may be offended by the language and the assumption that the reader is female. This book
still comes recommended, as it has excellent suggestions. |
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Relationship Recovery |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Partners: Healing From His Addiction |
2001 |
1881292258 |
This book is the latest in research of the affects on a woman who has lived with a sexual addict. The riveting statistics combined with personal stories of recovery make this a have to read book for any woman in a relationship with a sex addict. Dr. Weiss
also offers the readers hope and a beginning plan for their personal recovery. |
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Co-Addiction Recovery |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Secret Solutions Workbook |
2000 |
1881292592 |
This is a practical recovery exercise workbook written specifically for female sex addicts. Many of these techniques Dr. Weiss uses in private practice to help female sex addicts. This is one of the most solution oriented and practical workbooks for female
sex addicts to date. |
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Workbook, Sex Addiction, Women |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Sex, God and Men |
2002 |
0884198812 |
God wants you to enjoy the best sex ever! Finally, an encouraging message for men who want to be sexually successful! What is sexual success? It's having a three-dimensional (body, mind and spirit) connection to your spouse alone that grows increasingly more
fulfilling throughout your lifetime together. God is not against sexual pleasure in your marriage! In fact, He created it! So what is keeping you from experiencing the best of His creation? Discover the answer to that question -- and more -- in Sex, Men and God. Dr. Douglas Weiss has
clearly and creatively outlined practical, doable suggestions and principles that will help you enjoy your sexuality as God intended. Dr. Weiss shares lifelong tools that will help you: understand the way God made your brain for the best sex ever; immediately start using important keys
to total fulfillment in your sex life; discover why God's design for sex with one woman in marriage can totally fulfill you; find out how to get and stay free from any sexual "baggage" you may have; learn how to shepherd your son sexually before the world grabs his attention; and
communicate the most important words that a woman wants to hear during sex. You'll find honest, liberating and candid discussions about male sexuality, sometimes humorous -- but definitely without preaching! You can apply these proven godly principles and enjoy more fulfilling sex with
your wife for a lifetime. |
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Sex Addiction |
| Weiss, Douglas |
She Has a Secret: Understanding Female Sexual Addiction |
2000 |
1881292584 |
Sexual addiction has been looked at too long as a man's addiction. Some women can be and are addicted to sex! The behaviors vary from woman to woman but the cycles of addiction and the consequences are very real. This groundbreaking book is the first in the
field to specifically address female sexual addiction. Several women share their very personal, sometimes darkest secrets about their sexual addictions. The research survey unveils some startling statistics about these women. Dr. Weiss, a national expert, outlines the path and
similarities of male and female sexual addiction. "She Has A Secret" places a woman on a known path to recovery so she can be free from the secret of sexual addiction. This book is a must read for every woman who knows a woman addicted to sex and for every man who has been hurt by these
women and their addiction. |
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Sex Addiction, Women (religious) |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Steps of Hope: A 12-Step Recovery Guide for Sex Addiction |
1996 |
1881292215 |
This workbook is designed specifically for sexual addiction recovery. Unlike a general twelve step workbook meant for just anyone, Dr. Weiss wrote this workbook to addreses the sexual addiction recovering person. This book takes the reader individually or as
a group in a step by step study through each of the twelve steps as it relates specifically to sexual addiction recovery. This book is a must for those working the twelve steps to gain insight and the possibility of a life free from sexual addiction. |
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Sex Addiction, Workbook |
| Weiss, Douglas |
Steps to Freedom: Christian 12-Step Guide for Sex Addiction Recovery |
1997 |
1881292029 |
This is a Christian approach to the Twelve Steps. This book will guide you through the 12 steps of recovery that have been helpful for many addicted people. This book is specifically written for the person desiring recovery from sexual addiction. |
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Sex Addiction, Workbook (Christian) |
| Weiss, Douglas |
The Final Freedom: Pioneering Sexual Addiction Recovery |
1998 |
1881292371 |
Sex addiction affects millions of people's lives today, and is on the rise with the internet. This solution focused book offers an intelligent understanding of sexual addiction as well as practical remedies. "The Final Freedom" is the single most
professionally endorsed book in the field of sexual addiction to date! |
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Sex Addiction Recovery, Christian |
| Weiss, Douglas; DeBusk, Diane |
Women Who Love Sex Addicts: Help for Healing from the Effects of a Relationship with a Sex Addict |
1993 |
1881292789 |
Offers a look at a situation facing millions of today's women women -- loving a man with a sexual addiction. Offers insight or the following pertinent issues: Self esteem and family of origin issues; Denial, control and dependency. |
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Sex Addicts, Codependence, 12-steps |
| White, John |
Eros Defiled: The Christian and Sexual Sin |
1977 |
0877847819 |
"Something happened to love -- eros, physical love -- when mankind fell. The beauty was marred. The joy was tinged with sadness. Eros was defiled." Today the results of the Fall are evident in premarital sex, extramarital sex, masturbation, homosexuality and
various forms of twisted sex. John White speaks with understanding and compassion about each of these sexual sins. He concludes with a telling chapter on how local churches can be communities for dealing with sexual sin in a context of love and foregiveness. |
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Sex Addiction (religious) |
| White, John |
Eros Redeemed: Breaking the Strangehold of Sexual Sin |
1993 |
0830816976
0830816593 |
John White examines the history and consequences of sexual sin, offers a biblical studyof human sexuality and what it means to be a man or woman in Christ, and describes how to minister to those needing forgiveness, healing, and hope. Tens of thousands of
Christians are in the grip of sexual sin. Not only are they looking for forgiveness, they are also looking for healing and for a change that will make a permanent difference in their lives. Can the stranglehold be broken? John White insists that it can. Years of studying Scripture while
ministering to those caught up in promiscuity, adultery, homosexuality, voyeurism and pornography have confirmed his belief. We can be redeemed from sexual sin. In the face of radical feminism and gay liberation, the author lays the groundwork for change with a thorough biblical study
of human sexuality and what it means to be a man or woman in Christ. He also notes the consequences of sexual sin, the connection between promiscuity and violence, and the horrific effects of Satanic ritual abuse. In the heart of the book he offers the means of grace God has provided
for inner healing and change. Then he shows how we can mend the hidden wounds of those needing forgiveness, healing and hope. |
285 |
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Sex Addiction (religious) |
| White, William L. |
The Incestuous Workplace: Stress and Distress in the Organizational Family |
1997 |
1568381549 |
This new Hazelden release is the culmination of William L. White's illustrious career as a consultant to corporations and organizations which have trouble with sex in the workplace. Probably destined to be a classic in the organizational development
literature, it is also a must read for anyone interested in sexual challenges for those who work together, or sexual misconduct in general. A brilliant and powerful indictment of the debilitating consequences of business-as-usual in today's workplaces, together with concrete strategies
for preventing and changing them. |
315 |
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Trauma |
| Whiteman, Tom; Peterson, Randy; Whiteman, Thomas |
Victim of Love?: How You Can Break the Cycle of Bad Relationships |
1998 |
1576830535 |
If you find yourself saying things like: "I'll just die if I can't be with him." "If she leaves me, I'll do something drastic." "You're my everything. I'd be nothing without you." you may be a victim of love -- someone caught in the cycle of addictive
relationships. The book looks at these kinds of unhealthy relationships and shows you how to identify their danger signs so you can avoid repeating past choices and gain balance in your life. |
224 |
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Love Addiction |
| Whitfield, Charles L |
Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self |
1993
2001 |
155874259X
1567314716 |
Charles L. Whitfield thoroughly explores healthy and unhealthy relationships and personal boundaries, offers a self-assessment survey, and describes how individuals can improve relationships. We know at deep levels of consciousness that love is the universal
answer, but relationships are difficult. How do we reconcile these apparent contradictions? Can we find a conscious way of loving in which our relationships flourish while our boundaries remain intact? Charles Whitfield explores ways we can cherish our True Selves, safely achieve
harmonious relationships with others and find peace and joy with our Higher Power. The book begins with clear definitions and descriptions of boundaries and then explains ten essential types of human interaction in which relationships can be improved. |
265 |
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Interpersonal Relationships, Self |
| Whitfield, Charles L |
Co-dependence: Healing the Human Condition: The New Paradigm for Helping Professionals and People in Recovery |
1991 |
155874150X |
Of all the books on the often misunderstood concept of co-dependence, this is probably the clearest, most complete and informative. Charles Whitfield is a frontline clinician who has been assisting co-dependents in their healing for over twenty years. He has
researched the literature on co-dependence, which he summarizes in this widely read book. He sees co-dependence as a way to more accurately describe the painful and confusing part of the human condition. In careful detail he describes just what co-dependence is and what it is not, how
it comes about, and how to heal its painful aftereffects. He discusses how co-dependence is a major manifestation of being an adult child of a dysfunctional family and provides specific recovery methods to help heal its wounds. Packed with practical psychology and a strong respect for
the spiritual, this book shows readers how to heal co-dependence. |
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Codependency, Rehabilitation |
| Whitfield, Charles L |
Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families |
1987 |
0932194400 |
Dr. Whitfield provides a clear and effective introduction to the basic principles of recovery. This book is a modern classic, as fresh and useful today as it was more than a decade ago when first published. Here, frontline physician and therapist Charles
Whitfield describes the process of wounding that the Child Within (True Self) experiences and shows how to differentiate the True Self from the false self. He also describes the core issues of recovery and more. Once our Inner Child is freed from layers of guilt, resentment, shame and
isolation that began building during childhood, personal freedom can become ours. Other writings on this topic have come and gone, while Healing the Child Within has remained a strong introduction to recognizing and healing from the painful effects of childhood trauma. Highly
recommended by therapists and survivors of trauma. |
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Codependency, Self |
| Wholey, Dennis (Ed.) |
Becoming Your Own Parent: The Solution for Adult Children of Alcoholic and Other Dysfunctional Families |
1988
1989 |
0385245912
0553347888 |
This is written by Mr. Wholey as well as seven other adult children from dysfunctional families. You learn of their struggles as well as their triumphs and the positive changes they are making in their lives today. A good read for anyone, but especially a
guide for teens who must take charge of their lives because their families are not functioning properly. |
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Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families |
| Wiley, James |
Power Recovery: The Twelve Steps for a New Generation |
1995 |
0809135523 |
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172 |
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12-Steps, Alcohol and Drug Recovery |
| Willingham, Russell; Davies, Bob |
Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus |
1999 |
0830817913 |
This book deals with issues such as what all addicts have in common, the hunt of the malnourished heart, where to find courage to face the dark side, wrestling with shame and grace, and the healing effect of radical honesty. This realistic yet hopeful book
offers a new way to see the world for every person who wants to understand and break free from sexual addiction. |
213 |
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Sex Addiction (religious) |
| Wills-Brandon, Carla |
Is It Love or Is It Sex? Why Relationships Don't Work |
1989
2000 |
1558740279
0595093507 |
With the help of Is It Love Or Is It Sex?, Carla Wills-Brandon assists readers in examining why we may be experiencing difficulty in our primary love relationship. Problems of sex, intimacy, communication, loneliness and frustration can be resolved.
Relationships do not have to fail and intimacy is possible. Love can blossom again. Too many couples in our society today head for divorce court, not knowing that there are resolutions to most relationship difficulties. Sex tends to play a big role in an unhappy coupleship, along with a
lack of communication and an inability to know how to have a healthy disagreement. Carla wrote this book after working with thousands of couples suffering from such difficulties. Her husband, a psychologist, and her always see couples, as a couple. In doing this they are able to provide
a balanced theraputic setting. Such safety has allowed for in-depth discussion of issues rotating around sex, love, money, kids and even inlaws. Included in this book is a workbook section, which a couple can use to look at their own relationship issues. Relationship break up should
always be a last resort. Carla Wills-Brandon has authored numerous self-help books and has worked for close to two decades as a licensed marriage and family therapist, educator and lecturer. Carla Wills-Brandon has an MA in Psychology and a Ph.D. in nutrition. |
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Relationship Addiction |
| Wilson, Kathryn; Wilson, Paul |
Stone Cold in a Warm Bed |
1998 |
0889651507 |
Stone Cold in a Warm Bed is an eloquent reminder to partners of those who are sexually addicted that they are not alone. Couples wrestling with sexual addiction and the impact of pornography undoubtedly will be blessed in an extraordinary way through the
Wilson's story. It describes the process: pornography; discovering; longing; grieving; trusting; forgiving; waiting; and rebuilding. The Wilson's have confronted a difficult issue with sensitivity, compassion and wisdom. They not only share their story, they take the reader through a
step by step process of healing. Kathryn Wilson illustrates what women need to know and what couples need to share in order to bring their marriage back into a healthy union. Readers will learn how faith can rebuild a marriage and heal the wounds of a sexual addiction. Kathryn Wilson's
personal account and guidance will instruct and inspire women. They will find the hope they need and never feel alone again after reading this book. |
132 |
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Pornography (religious) |
| Woititz, Janet (Geringer); Wegscheider-Cruse, Sharon; Whitfield, Charles; Greenleaf, Jael |
Codependency: Anthology |
1986 |
0932194214 |
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Codependency |
| Woititz, Janet Geringer |
Struggle for Intimacy [1986] The Intimacy Struggle: A New Version of the Struggle for Intimacy [1993] |
1986
1993 |
0932194257
1558742778 |
The struggle for intimacy is part of a life-long process, says Janet Woititz in this best selling guide to successful relationships. For those who have grown up with alcoholism or dysfunction in the home, it is especially difficult. To be intimate, to be
close, to be vulnerable, contradicts all the survival skills learned by Children of Alcoholics. Acquiring intimacy skills requires a complete relearning process and is a difficult task, but not an insurmountable one. In this book, you learn: what a healthy relationship is; how to
achieve one; and how to change habits that do not work. Struggle is inevitable; mistakes are inevitable; discouragement is inevitable. However, so is -- sharing, loving, enhancement, joy, excitement, companionship, understanding, cooperation, trusting, growth, security, and serenity.
[The 1993 edition is revised and expanded.] |
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Relationship Health |
| Young, Kimberly S |
Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction |
2001 |
0759622884 |
Dr. Young's book provides a simple yet comprehensive recovery plan that helps people to stay off the computer for sex chat while still being able to use it for work-related purposes. She outlines why cybersex is so appealing and provides practical and
concrete exercises to stay sober even when relapse is a mouse click away. While the book focuses on the individual cybersex addict, there is plenty of material for the co-addict to understand the problem, and a chapter on how couples can rebuild trust and communication. [Chapter 1 The
Brave New World Of The Cybersexual Revolution; Chapter 2 Online Seductions: The Eight Motives Of Cybersex Users; Chapter 3 When Cybersex Becomes An Obsession; Chapter 4 The Road To Recovery: Seven Steps For Treating Cybersexual Addiction; Chapter 5 Infidelity Online: Hope and Help For
Couples Dealing With Cyberaffairs; Chapter 6 What Families Can Do To Help A Cybersex-Addicted Loved One; Chapter 7 Looking Towards The Future: Finding Additonal Resources] |
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Cybersex Addiction |
| Zilbergeld, Bernie |
The New Male Sexuality |
1992
1999 |
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The old performance model is out, replaced by a new model of sex that emphasizes "pleasure, closeness, and self- and partner- enhancement" -- or so says Oakland therapist Zilbergeld. Pleasure takes practice, for doing what comes naturally is no guarantee of
good sex, Zilbergeld counsels. Here, good sex is defined as feeling good about yourself, good about your partner, and good about what you're doing. As in Male Sexuality (1978), Zilbergeld includes many exercises -- ranging from solo mental activities to practice sessions requiring a
willing partner -- that he's used regularly in his practice. In addition, he provides suggested scripts that give examples of how to talk to your partner. Zilbergeld examines the fantasy model of sex with some hilarious excerpts from bestselling novels by Harold Robbins, Erica Jong, and
others before focusing on the real thing with black-and-white anatomical drawings and charts depicting male and female sexual response. With the basics out of the way, he moves on to his main concern: how to have better sex. The focus is on relationships and communication -- becoming a
good listener, asserting yourself, expressing yourself, etc. Specific sexual problems are considered, and exercises designed to resolve them are provided. Zilbergeld acknowledges that self-help may not be enough and directs difficult cases to a sex therapist. And lest the next
generation have the same hang-ups as the present one, he includes a chapter of advice for fathers on talking to their sons about sex. Takes on tough problems and answers difficult-to-ask questions: comprehensive, forthright, and reassuring. |
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Sexual Health |
| Zoldbrod, Aline P |
Sex Smart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What to Do About It |
1998 |
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Dr. Zoldbrod demonstrates how family dynamics in childhood underlie adult sexual problems, from sexual aversion to sexual addiction. She explains with clarity the direct effects of parental overcontrol, violence, and emotional withdrawal, which often exist
with addiction, on the sexual development of children. Case studies, "body maps," and exercises allow readers to work through sexual issues. If you are mystified about why you turned out the way you did sexually, or how to solve your sexual problems, Sex Smart is for you. Sex Smart is
also for you if you are a person who is simply intrigued by sexuality and wants to understand it more deeply. Sex Smart talks about sex in a way that is unlike most other self help books, because it discusses many of the non-sexual aspects of family life which contribute to adult
sexuality. How your family touches, and whether or not your parents listened to you and your emotional needs. Whether or not you learned trust. What kind of message your parents gave you about your body. How your parents handled power. What you learned from your parents' relationship to
you. Whether there was emotional neglect, alcoholism, or physical violence. What your parents taught you about friendship. Whether you felt you owned your own self or not. These probably aren't aspects of your family life that you think of as being tied to how you feel about yourself as
a sexual person now. Each person's sexual development is so completely unique that figuring out the puzzle of each patient's (or a couple's) sexual problem is always interesting. For many years, the author considered why people turn out so different sexually, why there are so many
variations in sexual preferences and sexual pleasures and sexual problems. After much reading, trying to see if anyone had written a theory of sexual development that explained this phenomenon, she found none. Many patients had erotic blocks which completely puzzled them. The other
"how-to" books and articles they had read had not explained to them why they had the issues they had and hadn't helped to fix them. The problems themselves weren't unusual -- things like lack of desire, difficulty getting aroused, orgasm problems, erection difficulties, premature
ejaculation, sexual addictions and compulsions, and sexual pain. Aline unraveled a number of these people's questions and it turned out that the answer lay in their family experience. And until they were able to understand the deeper events, the behavioral exercises suggested in the
other articles and the books they had been reading didn't work. (For instance, a man with erection problems had been negatively affected by seeing his father beat his mother. A woman with sexual pain came from a family where no one ever touched each other affectionately.) Her patients
wanted a book to read that would reinforce and amplify what was being said to them in their sex therapy sessions. Aline came up with an integrated theory of what each of us needs to get in our family-of-origin to be able to enjoy being sexual as an adult. In writing "Sex Smart" she
hopes to help people understand that a lot of non-sexual events in family life turn out to profoundly affect how we feel about letting go sexually with another person. Understanding the basis of our sexual difficulties lays the groundwork emotionally. At the end of each chapter, Sex
Smart provides exercises to this end. |
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